STOP taking/sending your kids to mommy&me classes if...

[Anonymous]

"My child is smart, probably smarter than you kid. "

Tee hee.

[Anonymous]

Boy, some of you just hate to be called out for your rude behavior and that of your children. A class that you pay for is not a playground to drop your child off and let them run wild. Just take it as a PSA that nobody wants to hear your loud phone conversations or listen to your child disrupting the class the entire time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am 23:26 and I am responding to 23:39. OO:03 ..no need to be rude.

so another lesson to learn:
when responding specifically to someone, quote them or mention their "name".

Wow, you'll all about 'teaching people lessons'. That's wonderful. I'm sure your kids will be delightful.

[Anonymous]

Why bring kids to a class if all you will do is to call others or text and not use the time to interact and play with your child in a more structured way?

I went to these classes to meet other mothers and to play with my kid. It was sad to see kids left in the room without directon and parents use it to babysit and not engage. If I wanted a babysitter, I would have hired one and sent the kid off or called grandma.

The problem is not with kids roaming - we know they do - it's the adults who come with them and then ignore them and the instructor.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If your child can't behave in class, they are clearly not developmentally ready for it. Wait until next year and try again. Don't ruin it for those of us who have kids that can follow the program. Obviously this pertains to classes that are geared to the 2+ age group. When I take my 3 year old to music class, she particpates and follows along. If yours can't do this, they aren't ready and it isn't nice for you to ruin it for the rest of us.

Wow, what good advice. Of course, it's impossible to know whether your kid is ready until you sign them up and....they don't participate as the instructor requests. So I should pull him out and lose my money? Heck to the no.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: Or music class (which was the case today) where mom/caregiver doesn't even wanna bother running after the child who is disturbing the whole class. It's driving me crazy!! I understand kids are kids, mine are no angels. But I do show them what's expected and they know that running around is accepted while running during music class is NOT. Please make sure yours know that too.

I'm a bit worried you're talking about my child, who frequently wanders around the room during music class. I've asked the instructor if this behavior crosses any lines, and have been reassured that it doesn't--that the point is to experience music joyfully, and the instructor feels that the wandering/leaping fits into the mission of the class.

Well, of course the instructor is going to say that to you - she wants to keep you enrolled in the program and wants your $$ again when it's time to sign up for the next session! (duh).

If the instructor can't be clear about the rules of the class, the problem is much bigger than one child.

[Anonymous]

I'll admit that I did one Mommy and Me class with my first one, and couldn't handle the disruptive behavior of the other 3 year olds. I realize all that behavior is par for the course for a lot of three year olds, but I wasn't interested in participating in that kind of environment.

So - although I agree that parents and caregivers should be trying to teach appropriate behavior to their kids in these classes, I agree that parents of better behaved children should just opt out if the other kids' behavior bothers them.

You have to put up with enough once your kid gets to K in a public school, so you might as well save yourself aggravation before then.

[Anonymous]

09 13 I'm sorry if it's hard for you but indeed we're instructors and sometimes *gasp* teachers.
I have a masters degree in Special Ed and to increase my income I teach a few M&M classes here and there.
It would be wonderful to have parents and caregivers respect during the classes! I spend time and effort putting together lesson plans that are age appropriate. No I don't work for a chain type of place that sends the class in a DVD *yuck*!
Parents who are really commited should be aware of such places and also ask to watch a class and see how the instructor behaves. Like someone said before, there are facilities that just want your $$$ so they'll be OK with whatever you do during the class.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:09 13 I'm sorry if it's hard for you but indeed we're instructors and sometimes *gasp* teachers.
I have a masters degree in Special Ed and to increase my income I teach a few M&M classes here and there.
It would be wonderful to have parents and caregivers respect during the classes! I spend time and effort putting together lesson plans that are age appropriate. No I don't work for a chain type of place that sends the class in a DVD *yuck*!
Parents who are really commited should be aware of such places and also ask to watch a class and see how the instructor behaves. Like someone said before, there are facilities that just want your $$$ so they'll be OK with whatever you do during the class.

PP, if a parent asked you after class, Was my child behaving inappropriately, would you answer honestly? For my part, I really want to know if my child is disrupting the class (and now I'm all paranoid that no-one would tell me if that were the case).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How do you not "LET" your kid do it? I have a hard time FORCING my curious 18 month old to STAY in my lap. He wants to explore and wander. I should push him into a back arching, wailing tantrum to STAY in my lap when he wants to move around? HE IS 18 MONTHS OLD. Jeezus Christ, some mom are sanctimonious.

And some moms have reading comprehension problems or are a bit paranoid.

The OP said wandering is not the problem. She was not talking to you if all your kid does is wander around a bit without bothering anyone else and you keep an eye on what he's doing. The problem is parents who don't monitor their kids while they are wandering and show no respect for others.

I suspect the persons responding so negatively to this thread (and saying stupid things like your kid isn't Mozart...duh!) are those idiot moms with the cellphone always glued to their head and no sense that their behavior and that of their children impacts other people.

So many rants on this forum start because we encounter people everyday who think their time is more important, their child is more important, the rules don't apply to them, etc. These are the people OP is talking to. Sheesh!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If your child can't behave in class, they are clearly not developmentally ready for it. Wait until next year and try again. Don't ruin it for those of us who have kids that can follow the program. Obviously this pertains to classes that are geared to the 2+ age group. When I take my 3 year old to music class, she particpates and follows along. If yours can't do this, they aren't ready and it isn't nice for you to ruin it for the rest of us.

Wow, what good advice. Of course, it's impossible to know whether your kid is ready until you sign them up and....they don't participate as the instructor requests. So I should pull him out and lose my money? Heck to the no.

What you should do is do your best to not be disruptive to the rest of the class. Although, if my kid just wasn't following along, I'd rather lose the money than waste our time. What is your kid getting out fo it if he isn't participating. he'd be happier at the playground doing his own thing.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:... you know you/caregiver don't feel like being hands-on! I am sick and tired of attending these classes and not getting the money spent worth because of kids who constantly interrupt class! Children's gym classes where mom/caregivers are constantly on the phone or talking to each other while my kids are actually trying to accomplish the task at hand and their kid is just sitting there blocking the way. Or music class (which was the case today) where mom/caregiver doesn't even wanna bother running after the child who is disturbing the whole class. It's driving me crazy!! I understand kids are kids, mine are no angels. But I do show them what's expected and they know that running around is accepted while running during music class is NOT. Please make sure yours know that too. If grandma is too old to take little Jimmy to gym class, DON'T ASK HER TO. If your nanny sees going to class only to talk on the phone on the corner while your kid is bored in a corner or if you take your kid to music class just to space out while your kid runs around, please stay home! At least that way you'll save money and I'll actually get what I'm paying for. Rule of thumb should be: If the teacher/instructor stops class at LEAST 3 times to tell little Emma to leave that alone, to put it back, to start running or to keep her from running out of the room, you should be more involved. Or you should leave.


Thanks.

I know what you mean.

If the moms (or caretaker) could at least make an effort to corral their "spirited" child (is that the PC term for bratty?) it wouldn't be so bad, but not doing anything is really frustrating.

You ladies are incredible. My three year old is having issues with his executive function. He may or may not have ADHD. He is easily distracted and very sensitive to stimuli. He has a hard time blocking out the tiniest distractions such as a car engine spinning or the noise from an air conditioner. This has been diagnosed by a professional, not a whiney mom who calls children with issues "bratty". We recognize out child has some issues and are working on them, but you suggest I keep him home and don't expose him to the things your child is being exposed to? Your money is better than my money? You are extremely judgmental and I can only hope your child doesn't have any issues later in life that "annoy" other moms. My child is smart, probably smarter than you kid.

You had my sympathy until this bitchy comment. Also, I doubt that's true. I'm sorry your kid has these issues but it doesn't make him any less of a distraction if he can't control himself, runs around, screams, and hits, like one kid we had in a class we took. The entire class was focused on avoiding him. I'm not saying your son manifests behavior this way, I'm just drawing from an example.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If your child can't behave in class, they are clearly not developmentally ready for it. Wait until next year and try again. Don't ruin it for those of us who have kids that can follow the program. Obviously this pertains to classes that are geared to the 2+ age group. When I take my 3 year old to music class, she particpates and follows along. If yours can't do this, they aren't ready and it isn't nice for you to ruin it for the rest of us.

Wow, what good advice. Of course, it's impossible to know whether your kid is ready until you sign them up and....they don't participate as the instructor requests. So I should pull him out and lose my money? Heck to the no.

What you should do is do your best to not be disruptive to the rest of the class. Although, if my kid just wasn't following along, I'd rather lose the money than waste our time. What is your kid getting out fo it if he isn't participating. he'd be happier at the playground doing his own thing.

I don't see it as a waste of time (and I'm not a phone-texting douchewad who just let her kid disrupt, but by the very fact that he was not particpating, I'm sure it was still a little disruptive). How else is a kid going to learn that they need to respect teachers and participate? I'm hoping this will happen before he starts school for real (and fwiw, the age I'm referring to is 2 1/2).