Gen Z changing the dating game, will have better marriages….

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All the posts I get say that Gen Z is the most depressed generation in a long time. That is because they are looking for a utopia and have too many gadgets to rely on rather than work themselves.

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One of the things i was thankful for as Gen X was being around people who had lived through the depression, world wars, and nuclear power and became better people because of it. I don't feel that Gen Z has this same respect for generations that came before them and I think that's what makes them entitled and selfish. They think if you just set up boundaries somehow you will have a productive life when it's really what you bring to the world that does this.

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Anonymous wrote:I think there will be attempts at more equitable divisions of labor. That’s great. However, I do think with such pressure being placed on trying to be so perfectly egalitarian in a marriage, how biological realities will impact marriage. Also, yeah, this is a coddled generation who has been told they can do whatever they want. They were raised on social media. They’ll quit jobs in an instant if they need a mental health break or whatever. They’re super easily offended.

I mean, realistically, men need sex in a marriage to be happy. Women need connection in a marriage to need sex. There needs to be compromise. I bet it’s just the same sht as it’s always been through history. Same complaints. Same judgement and resentment and the four horsemen sht that Gottman talks about. It’s unavoidable. The only difference now is that both parties will be extra hard headed because they are filled with self centered narcissistic pride and like a bunch of therapy speak. I guess we’ll see!

This doesnt sound like you know much about Gen Z. They are very sex positive and more open minded about sex. With poly gaining traction their future marriages may even be quite untraditional.

That said, there are still incels and red pillers even among this generation. Soooo definitely not a slam dunk on that for sure.

Actually, they are a cohort that has very little actual sex with another person. Or dating.

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Anonymous wrote:"“Personal development, emotional well-being, and clear communication in relationships are priorities for Gen Z, which leads to stronger and healthier marriages,” he said as part of five predictions he made as part of the report.

“They are, however, less interested in marriage than previous generations, preferring to focus on creating fulfilling lives.” "

This sounds very promising for them!

Disagree. They’re a bunch of navel gazers but someday they’ll realize (hopefully before it’s too late) that self-absorption is not the key to a fulfilling life.

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Anonymous wrote:Obviously at least two years of knowing each other and one year of living together to check compatibility.

Gen Xer here-happily married over 20 years. We got married after a year and never lived together. Research actually suggested at the time those who live together before were less likely to have successful marriages and there was no way I could commute to my job (he owned a condo, I rented a studio.) Once we were married I found a new job, but there was no reason to until married. We were in our early 30s and had enough dating experience we knew we could make it work without a trial. We were correct.

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Anonymous wrote:disagree
self-Centerdness and lack of interest in marriage hardly bode well.

Yeah.

Gen Z knows a lot of therapy speak, but that doesn't always translate into doing any kind of inner work. For instance, the word "boundaries" has been weaponized time and time again to justify self-centered decisions and even controlling behavior, like with Jonah Hill.

I do have a very satisfying marriage and a lot of that is thanks to learning all the therapy stuff, but I'm not so sure Gen Z is better than any other generation when it comes to putting these things into practice.

I bet that refusing to be pressured into marriage will have positive outcomes on marriage satisfaction, though.

Sounds like you got burned by someone repeatedly saying "no" when you thought you could manipulate a "yes." Boundaries save marriages, but definitely can be the final straw in relationships with toxic extended family.

[Anonymous]

My issue with this is Generation Z is the same generation obsessed with tiktok that will join a mob and can't even tell you what river and what sea they are talking about, and will even call for an intifada without understanding they are supporting terrorism. Not sure people that gullible and prone toward mob mentality will be destined for long lasting, happy and healthy unions.

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They are moving in together too fast because rent is so high. So you have more couples living together that SHOULD break up but can't because they don't have anywhere to go.

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Marriage takes commitment and a willingness to compromise.

IMO, Gen Z don't have that. Yes, I'm generalizing, but Gen Z are much more willing to walk away from things that they don't want to deal with.

In many ways, Gen Z is a very coddled generation.

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Anonymous wrote:Obviously at least two years of knowing each other and one year of living together to check compatibility.

Gen Xer here-happily married over 20 years. We got married after a year and never lived together. Research actually suggested at the time those who live together before were less likely to have successful marriages and there was no way I could commute to my job (he owned a condo, I rented a studio.) Once we were married I found a new job, but there was no reason to until married. We were in our early 30s and had enough dating experience we knew we could make it work without a trial. We were correct.

eh. We lived together for a year before we got married. We were engaged during that year, though. I was 33 when I got married.

We spent a lot of time together, staying at each others places for several days in a row. We made sure we were compatible in our day to day living.

-gen Xer

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Anonymous wrote:All the posts I get say that Gen Z is the most depressed generation in a long time. That is because they are looking for a utopia and have too many gadgets to rely on rather than work themselves.

very true. Too many Gen Z obsessed with social media and what their lives should look like, rather than just living their own lives.

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Anonymous wrote:They are moving in the direction of no marriages.

That suggests the ones who marry, actually want to and know what they're doing.

I'm Gen X, and have been impressed with Gen Z overall. I'm sure there are lemons, as in any generation, but the ones I know seem to be smart and emotionally intelligent.

Do you really think a 20 something "knows what they are doing" with regards to marrying at a young age?

Meanwhile baby boomers were getting married at 18. No matter the generation, getting married young is a hit or miss.

[Anonymous]

Non social media addict Gen Z are marrying friends and looking for dependability. More peace and harmony makes life more calm. There is magic number for marriage, its couple deprndent.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They are moving in the direction of no marriages.

That suggests the ones who marry, actually want to and know what they're doing.

I'm Gen X, and have been impressed with Gen Z overall. I'm sure there are lemons, as in any generation, but the ones I know seem to be smart and emotionally intelligent.

Do you really think a 20 something "knows what they are doing" with regards to marrying at a young age?

Meanwhile baby boomers were getting married at 18. No matter the generation, getting married young is a hit or miss.

Getting marriage is a hit or miss. Period.

[Anonymous]

Gen Z has been ruined by therapy. Parents outsourced parenting to schools and "professionals." The result is an entire generation convinced they are all literal trauma victims, medicated and self-absorbed. Add in the phones and lack of any experience with physical intimacy, and I'm not optimistic for healthy marriages--if there are any marriages at all.