Can kids tell if their parents are attractive?

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Anonymous wrote:Or do they just see them as grownups or mom or dad?

My kid found some old magazine covers of mine. They mocked the 90s fashion. My daughter said, you were so pretty! That doesn't even look like you!

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Absolutely. My son tells me that I have "pretty privilege" all the time. His friends tell him that I am pretty and people tend to remark. He notices also.

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My mother is the most beautiful 75-year-old
I have ever known.

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Anonymous wrote:They know. My elementary aged kid told me I'm fat.

Fat is not unattractive. For some reason on this board people seem to think a fat person is automatically not good looking. They equate the two.

For me, it is. I married someone with a fantastic metabolism. That was no mistake.

Different people are attracted to different things. Red hair. Tan skin. Large eyes. Large shoulders. Height.

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Attraction goes beyond a symmetrical face.

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Until I got to college they were really just mom and dad though when my mother would dress up for a night out she did look very pretty. In college my friends often commented on how beautiful my mother was. When I later saw pictures of my mother in her early 40’s in a bathing suit after having seven kids I was incredibly jealous. Flat stomach and gorgeous. She was really beautiful until her mid 70’s when health problems arose.

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They know. My middle school child tells me that all of their friends think that I'm very pretty.

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I remember (proudly) recognizing that my mom was more attractive than most of the other moms at school when I was as young as 2nd/3rd grade

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Anonymous wrote:I could. My mom had horrible skin, wore bad makeup (think a weird shade of green eyeshadow), frizzy hair and dressed really poorly and always looked angry. Unfortunately for me she was a sub teacher in my school district so a lot of kids knew her. I got made fun of for how ugly she was, for years.

But even if I hadn't been made fun of I could see her in comparison to my aunts and my friends moms and tell she wasn't as pretty as they were.

My dad looked regular. It wasn't until a friend in 11th or 12th grade came by my house to pick something up and my dad opened the door and she said "Wow, your dad is so handsome!" that it occurred to me people might think he was good looking. But he was so mean and abusive that I was never able to see that in him.

Is this your mom?

[Anonymous]

It's hard to know what they look like when you are biased and also look like them. My father is handsome but nerdy. He attracts people because he has an interesting career that is also his passion and he's funny and smart. My mom was very pretty when younger and still seems pretty to me but her self esteem was never very high.

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Anonymous wrote:My kid noted I was the second to least fat mom in her girl scout troop! She had all the moms ordered in size in her mind!

My kid also routinely tells me to dress nice for certain school events.

And she will often ask me why I look good (if I happen to look good) or bad (if i happen to look worse than normal)

None of this offends me. I mean, it's a bit weird that she had the moms from our Girl Scout troop sized up but it's just how kids observe their world.

My daughter started noticing in MS. If I ask her if she thinks someone is "pretty" she has one of several answers:
- 'yes'
- 'straw blonde botox mom' - we're at a fancy private school so there's lots of plastic surgery that's noticeable
- 'she just looks like a mom' - most women fall into this one (including me)
- 'she doesn't take care if herself'

Sorry, why are you asking her this so often that you know her standard responses??

Yeah that is weird as hell. PP why are you asking your daughter if she thinks other moms are pretty?

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Honestly? For the most part it boils down to whether they’re overweight or not

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I knew my dad was attractive - women were always checking him out. My college roommates were all a little star struck when he came to visit. It was funny. Mom was attractive too but after she had kids, she was on the frumpy side.

I used to get hit on in front of my daughter, so I suspect that plays into how she views me. I'm not beautiful but I look good for my age.

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Anonymous wrote:Or do they just see them as grownups or mom or dad?

I think most children believe that their parents are beautiful.

Uh I never did.

Because they just weren’t. 😵

Sorry but it is the truth.

They were both overweight (I always was teased that I had “fat” parents.)
Plus they looked + acted old.

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Speaking of “hot” Dads…..

For some reason I am thinking of those SNL skits where Aidy Bryant flirts w/her friend’s Father at slumber parties. 😁

Lol!