9 weeks and dull cramps with blood

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Anonymous wrote:Very sorry to hear this and I know it must be extra difficult since everyone always says that “you’re safe after you see the heartbeat” too.

I've lost many after seeing their heartbeats several times. So I, obviously, don't believe that BS anymore. I understand the stats but for some people it's very common to lose pregnancies like this.

OP here: it was super unexpected, because the baby’s heartbeat was strong and it measured right on target at the ultrasound. No cause was determined at the hospital, it just stopped growing. But the hospital sheet said too much exercise or caffeine could contribute to the miscarriage and now I’m wondering if I overdid it.

Never heard of this. I am sorry OP.

I didn’t know either. My mom said it wasn’t my fault but then this sheet had “Lifestyle Contributing to Threatened Miscarriage” and it listed excessive exercise and caffeine (also nicotine and drugs, but I don’t take those). I had been walking a lot as exercise and drank coffee daily so now I’m wondering what that meant. Like can a healthy baby become unviable because of too much coffee? Or is it like a borderline healthy baby was pushed over the edge by exercise? I’m sorry I sound morbid, I’m just trying to understand.

This is not your fault, OP. Daily walks and coffee didn't do it. Please don't go down the hole of blaming yourself. I've been there, and it is a pointless misery, I promise.

I agree! OP, do not blame yourself! I’ve had multiple miscarriages and I analyzed each one, wondering what I had done wrong. Too little sleep? Stress at work? I didn’t do anything wrong, and neither have you.

I’m so sorry, OP!