Twins Twins Twins in the Privates (Lots of 'em)

[Anonymous]

My twins are in 2nd grade in a dc charter school, and there are 5 sets of twins in their grade of 100 students. Mine are from IVF. Single embryo transfer was the norm when I did it, but I had already had 5 failures (in my late 20s mind you) so they allowed me to transfer 3 subpar embryos on that try, resulting in my twins.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Feels like people are looking down on IVF users here. So people who can't get pregnant shouldn't use reproductive technology to assist them?

No one is looking down on anyone. But sometimes twin moms try and act like they’re so special with their insta family or tell atories of being “so surprised” when it was so very well planned.

When you’re going on your 4th round of IVF and by some miracle you end up with twins it is not “so very well planned”. I don’t think I’m any more special to have given birth to twins but I do think all parents who have gone through years of infertility treatments should feel free to shout their joy of a happy outcome if they should get so lucky.

[Anonymous]

We have four sets (three girls and one boy) in my girls' fourth grade class. Mine are spontaneous. I have no idea about the others.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Whenever I see a person with twins, I assume they had IVF.

I have twins and have three friends from college who do as well. Only one of them did IVF (or any sort of fertility treatments). One I think has twins in the family. We have no twins in the family and did nothing, but I guess everyone assumes we did? I always answer if asked, but I've never thought that people assumed I did IVF. I don't really care because it's none of my business what anyone else did to have kids and it's none of theirs what I did (or didn't do), I just never thought that was their assumption. Maybe I'm dumb.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Feels like people are looking down on IVF users here. So people who can't get pregnant shouldn't use reproductive technology to assist them?

No one is looking down on anyone. But sometimes twin moms try and act like they’re so special with their insta family or tell atories of being “so surprised” when it was so very well planned.

Huh? Sometimes it's literally unplanned. Newsflash: People do have twins under age 35 and without fertility treatments.

I did. And no family history of twins. Literally did nothing and BAM two babies (fraternal).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Whenever I see a person with twins, I assume they had IVF.

I have twins and have three friends from college who do as well. Only one of them did IVF (or any sort of fertility treatments). One I think has twins in the family. We have no twins in the family and did nothing, but I guess everyone assumes we did? I always answer if asked, but I've never thought that people assumed I did IVF. I don't really care because it's none of my business what anyone else did to have kids and it's none of theirs what I did (or didn't do), I just never thought that was their assumption. Maybe I'm dumb.

If the twins are fraternal, my assumption is also they went with IVF. I still think its awesome!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Feels like people are looking down on IVF users here. So people who can't get pregnant shouldn't use reproductive technology to assist them?

No one is looking down on anyone. But sometimes twin moms try and act like they’re so special with their insta family or tell atories of being “so surprised” when it was so very well planned.

When you’re going on your 4th round of IVF and by some miracle you end up with twins it is not “so very well planned”. I don’t think I’m any more special to have given birth to twins but I do think all parents who have gone through years of infertility treatments should feel free to shout their joy of a happy outcome if they should get so lucky.

Thank you for addressing this impossibly smarmy remark.

And to the person who wrote that: nobody is planning IVF like a couture wedding. It’s more physical pain and heartbreak than you can imagine, and the outcome is not predictable. So maybe cool it with the cruel little digs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Whenever I see a person with twins, I assume they had IVF.

I have twins and have three friends from college who do as well. Only one of them did IVF (or any sort of fertility treatments). One I think has twins in the family. We have no twins in the family and did nothing, but I guess everyone assumes we did? I always answer if asked, but I've never thought that people assumed I did IVF. I don't really care because it's none of my business what anyone else did to have kids and it's none of theirs what I did (or didn't do), I just never thought that was their assumption. Maybe I'm dumb.

I'm surprised you didn't realize that. I've been asked 100X if my kids were from ivf and I explain no but I took fertility drugs and people react like it's TMI but they asked and I'd rather let people know about the options available. If anything asking about ivf is inappropriate and/or signaling you want to really discuss treatments.

[Anonymous]

First month off the pill and bam, identical twins. We had hoped to have a little more time before kiddos, but grateful for how it turned out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:IUI is more likely to generate twins. For IVF, it’s rare to transfer more than one embryo and has been for a while. My IVF child is 9, and back in 2014 the standard of care already was “one embryo at a time.”

Also identical twins are always spontaneous…

Monozygotic twins are more common with IVF.

[Anonymous]

I had fraternal twins naturally at age 35. You are more likely to release 2 eggs at a time in your 30’s.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:IUI is more likely to generate twins. For IVF, it’s rare to transfer more than one embryo and has been for a while. My IVF child is 9, and back in 2014 the standard of care already was “one embryo at a time.”

Also identical twins are always spontaneous…

Hmm my kids are slightly older (10 and 11) and I transferred two embryos both times at the recommendation of my RE (age 41 and 42). Singleton pregnancies both times.