What do you pay for as a parent vs. what you require your teen to pay for? Makeup, body scrubs and other

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Anonymous wrote:Yikes. I pay for everything, of course.

that's your choice. You don't have to pay for expensive products.

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Anonymous wrote:Growing up my parents provided basic shampoo/conditioner, deodorant, razors and soap. Literally anything else (scented lotion, face wash, more expensive hair products) came out of my allowance/babysitting money. High-end bath/skincare products make excellent Christmas/birthday gifts and you are spoiling your child if you just buy her these as maintenance products.

+1. And I can spot the spoiled teens a mile away by their behavior. They are so clueless and out of touch. The stuff that comes out of their mouths! It’s not a good look and is setting them up for a life of disappointment unless the parents want to subsidize for life.

A teen who has scented body wash paid for by a parent is "spoiled"? LOL. Ok.

Pretty sure pp meant the teens who are like "ew, drugstore skin care. I only use Drunken Elephant." Or insert whatever product influencers are being paid to push on clueless teens. Look at the Christmas gift thread and all the fancy brands kids want.

Those are Christmas presents. Once a year as a treat is okay.

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I feel like when I was a tween I paid for my own makeup and body scrubs, or I got them as Christmas gifts. Maybe my parents would pay for stuff like a particular brand of face wash.

It was all cheap stuff that a teen with a minimum wage job could afford, though, like body sprays from the Body Shop and drugstore makeup. Was there a Drunk Elephant equivalent that teens were using in the 90s?

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Anonymous wrote:I feel like when I was a tween I paid for my own makeup and body scrubs, or I got them as Christmas gifts. Maybe my parents would pay for stuff like a particular brand of face wash.

It was all cheap stuff that a teen with a minimum wage job could afford, though, like body sprays from the Body Shop and drugstore makeup. Was there a Drunk Elephant equivalent that teens were using in the 90s?

Clinique was all the rage when I was a teen.

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I pay for:
All outings with friends except for drinks (sbux, sodas, etc)
Gas
Insurance
Cell phone
Apple Watch monthly fee
Most gifts for friends

Teen pays for:
Monthly Spotify
Certain clothing (all Lululemon, all bathing suits - likes a certain brand and can be pricey, on a swim team - frequent purchase)
Son gifts for friends

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I pay for basics: jeans, basic shirts, tennis shoes, underwear, shampoo/cond, body wash. They pay for cosmetics, fashion clothing, extraneous school/team shirts, meals out with friends. They are very tight with theur own money, so this works out well!

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Anonymous wrote:I pay for basics: jeans, basic shirts, tennis shoes, underwear, shampoo/cond, body wash. They pay for cosmetics, fashion clothing, extraneous school/team shirts, meals out with friends. They are very tight with theur own money, so this works out well!

i forgot to mention, they work on weekends. They bank gift money and more than half of what they make from their jobs.

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Anonymous wrote:Entering the territory of makeup and body scrubs, etc.. which I as a parent will always provide for hygienic items but for fancier items that are more costly like certain brands of lip glosses, eye lashes, mascara, body scrubs, lotions, body sprays, what is reasonable for a teen to pay for?

I usually pay. My kid has no time for a job (even though she wants one) between school, mountains of HW, sport + recruiting events, and volunteering. She had done some "free" work in support of what she wants to do (she thinks, this is why she's doing it). So she's more than earned me footing the bill for this stuff (within reason).

sports of today is what ruins children. Club sports is an adult money making construct. We put the brakes to that and thankful for it.

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Anonymous wrote:Entering the territory of makeup and body scrubs, etc.. which I as a parent will always provide for hygienic items but for fancier items that are more costly like certain brands of lip glosses, eye lashes, mascara, body scrubs, lotions, body sprays, what is reasonable for a teen to pay for?

I usually pay. My kid has no time for a job (even though she wants one) between school, mountains of HW, sport + recruiting events, and volunteering. She had done some "free" work in support of what she wants to do (she thinks, this is why she's doing it). So she's more than earned me footing the bill for this stuff (within reason).

sports of today is what ruins children. Club sports is an adult money making construct. We put the brakes to that and thankful for it.

Agree, but we are all forced to participate because the kids left in Rec sports cannot play or barely even know the rules. We’d be happy to play “rec plus” but it doesn’t exist and so we play low level travel so the other players understand the basic premise of the game.

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Anonymous wrote:Entering the territory of makeup and body scrubs, etc.. which I as a parent will always provide for hygienic items but for fancier items that are more costly like certain brands of lip glosses, eye lashes, mascara, body scrubs, lotions, body sprays, what is reasonable for a teen to pay for?

I usually pay. My kid has no time for a job (even though she wants one) between school, mountains of HW, sport + recruiting events, and volunteering. She had done some "free" work in support of what she wants to do (she thinks, this is why she's doing it). So she's more than earned me footing the bill for this stuff (within reason).

sports of today is what ruins children. Club sports is an adult money making construct. We put the brakes to that and thankful for it.

Well, goodie for you. While I wish we were not on the sports train, my kid excels at it, and loves it, and is on track to be recruited. You do what's best for you and I'll do the same. While I don't love it, my kid is learning a lot about hard work, resilience, and lots of other lessons that will benefit in the end.