At what age does a 10 year age gap become less problematic? Everyone

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My grandparents had about a 20 year age difference and my grandfather died in his 80s, plus they had 8 children.

My grandmother never had to take care of an old man. My grandfather was active and a working physician until the last day of his life. He was never sick or incapacitated. She never had to be a nurse or purse. He went to work one day and died in his sleep. But he was obsessively vigilant about his health and his diet.

So sometimes these things shake out differently.

That’s a love story. My 24 year older DH always said if one day he could not take care of himself or the family, he would just kill himself. The last thing he wants is being a burden on anyone. I love him but I do sometimes get attracted to younger man and ask myself if I made the right choice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My grandparents had about a 20 year age difference and my grandfather died in his 80s, plus they had 8 children.

My grandmother never had to take care of an old man. My grandfather was active and a working physician until the last day of his life. He was never sick or incapacitated. She never had to be a nurse or purse. He went to work one day and died in his sleep. But he was obsessively vigilant about his health and his diet.

So sometimes these things shake out differently.

This is rare.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My grandparents had about a 20 year age difference and my grandfather died in his 80s, plus they had 8 children.

My grandmother never had to take care of an old man. My grandfather was active and a working physician until the last day of his life. He was never sick or incapacitated. She never had to be a nurse or purse. He went to work one day and died in his sleep. But he was obsessively vigilant about his health and his diet.

So sometimes these things shake out differently.

That’s a love story. My 24 year older DH always said if one day he could not take care of himself or the family, he would just kill himself. The last thing he wants is being a burden on anyone. I love him but I do sometimes get attracted to younger man and ask myself if I made the right choice.

You have got to be a troll

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My grandparents had about a 20 year age difference and my grandfather died in his 80s, plus they had 8 children.

My grandmother never had to take care of an old man. My grandfather was active and a working physician until the last day of his life. He was never sick or incapacitated. She never had to be a nurse or purse. He went to work one day and died in his sleep. But he was obsessively vigilant about his health and his diet.

So sometimes these things shake out differently.

Are you not bothered by the fact your grandmother was marrying and impregnating someone barely legal when he was pushing 50

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My grandparents had about a 20 year age difference and my grandfather died in his 80s, plus they had 8 children.

My grandmother never had to take care of an old man. My grandfather was active and a working physician until the last day of his life. He was never sick or incapacitated. She never had to be a nurse or purse. He went to work one day and died in his sleep. But he was obsessively vigilant about his health and his diet.

So sometimes these things shake out differently.

Are you not bothered by the fact your grandmother was marrying and impregnating someone barely legal when he was pushing 50

NP but you need to check your math.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My grandparents had about a 20 year age difference and my grandfather died in his 80s, plus they had 8 children.

My grandmother never had to take care of an old man. My grandfather was active and a working physician until the last day of his life. He was never sick or incapacitated. She never had to be a nurse or purse. He went to work one day and died in his sleep. But he was obsessively vigilant about his health and his diet.

So sometimes these things shake out differently.

Are you not bothered by the fact your grandmother was marrying and impregnating someone barely legal when he was pushing 50

50 minus 20 is not barely legal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My grandparents had about a 20 year age difference and my grandfather died in his 80s, plus they had 8 children.

My grandmother never had to take care of an old man. My grandfather was active and a working physician until the last day of his life. He was never sick or incapacitated. She never had to be a nurse or purse. He went to work one day and died in his sleep. But he was obsessively vigilant about his health and his diet.

So sometimes these things shake out differently.

This is rare.

+1 again, most men don't age very well

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My grandparents had about a 20 year age difference and my grandfather died in his 80s, plus they had 8 children.

My grandmother never had to take care of an old man. My grandfather was active and a working physician until the last day of his life. He was never sick or incapacitated. She never had to be a nurse or purse. He went to work one day and died in his sleep. But he was obsessively vigilant about his health and his diet.

So sometimes these things shake out differently.

Are you not bothered by the fact your grandmother was marrying and impregnating someone barely legal when he was pushing 50

50 minus 20 is not barely legal.

Almost 50 is not 50 40 something minus ,20 is 30 something. In my world 20 something is barely legal especially when compared to someone in their 40s.
But I guess you're cool with that kinda thing

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My grandparents had about a 20 year age difference and my grandfather died in his 80s, plus they had 8 children.

My grandmother never had to take care of an old man. My grandfather was active and a working physician until the last day of his life. He was never sick or incapacitated. She never had to be a nurse or purse. He went to work one day and died in his sleep. But he was obsessively vigilant about his health and his diet.

So sometimes these things shake out differently.

Are you not bothered by the fact your grandmother was marrying and impregnating someone barely legal when he was pushing 50

50 minus 20 is not barely legal.

Almost 50 is not 50 40 something minus ,20 is 30 something. In my world 20 something is barely legal especially when compared to someone in their 40s.
But I guess you're cool with that kinda thing

People in their 20s are adults and they were happily married for 40+ years so I guess I am ok with it?

[Anonymous]

It’s all a crapshoot. My DH was gravely ill in his mid 40’s, with an autoimmune disease attacking his organs. He previously had zero health issues. His family has crazy longevity.

I have for sure aged a million years. We are only six years apart.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My grandparents had about a 20 year age difference and my grandfather died in his 80s, plus they had 8 children.

My grandmother never had to take care of an old man. My grandfather was active and a working physician until the last day of his life. He was never sick or incapacitated. She never had to be a nurse or purse. He went to work one day and died in his sleep. But he was obsessively vigilant about his health and his diet.

So sometimes these things shake out differently.

Are you not bothered by the fact your grandmother was marrying and impregnating someone barely legal when he was pushing 50

50 minus 20 is not barely legal.

Almost 50 is not 50 40 something minus ,20 is 30 something. In my world 20 something is barely legal especially when compared to someone in their 40s.
But I guess you're cool with that kinda thing

Not the pp, but my great grandmother was 14 and my great grandfather was 35; it's pretty creepy, but she was the only one in her family to end up "successful" and to learn how to read and write, and not work in a cotton mill until she died, so there is that. (White people in the American south.)

He ended up outliving her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s all a crapshoot. My DH was gravely ill in his mid 40’s, with an autoimmune disease attacking his organs. He previously had zero health issues. His family has crazy longevity.

I have for sure aged a million years. We are only six years apart.

Exactly. My late DH and I had a 2-yr age gap. He dropped dead at 36. No guarantees.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s all a crapshoot. My DH was gravely ill in his mid 40’s, with an autoimmune disease attacking his organs. He previously had zero health issues. His family has crazy longevity.

I have for sure aged a million years. We are only six years apart.

Statistically, it's not a crapshot. Your DH's illness is outside the norm. Most 40something year old men don't have autoimmune issues.

I'm sorry for your loss.

[Anonymous]

Half your age plus seven years. So 34/24.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:After the younger party is 25 or so, IMO. Frontal cortex is developed, younger person has enough life experience that the mistakes they choose are on them and not presumptively exploitation by the older party. It might still be a bad idea, but in the same way Amy relationship may be a bad idea, not "problematic" bad.

+1
Before that it’s predatory.