I’m 52 and they made me do a pregnancy test

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Anonymous wrote:My grandmother had her last pregnancy (#15) at age 52.

OP. Wow!!!

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Anonymous wrote:You were carded! Congrats! I wish this would happen to me

Ha I am also regularly carded at checkout counters when buying alcohol.

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Anonymous wrote:You were carded! Congrats! I wish this would happen to me

+1. At the cardiologist last week they asked me if I was pregnant or breastfeeding before an EKG. I turn 57 next month. Far from being offended, I was flattered (even though I'm sure it's just a routine question).

I guess these days with donor eggs it is theoretically possible.

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Anonymous wrote:They made my good friend, who had a hysterectomy almost 10 years ago, do a pregnancy test before her recent surgery because she still has her ovaries. Yeah...

Ectopic pregnancy. Pregnancies in the abdominal cavity, without a uterus, have happened before. They don't lead to viable babies, but they can lead to severe injury or death for the mother, and it's important to know before surgery in case there's a bleed-out. Pregnant women respond differently to anesthesia and hemorrhage.

This is so rare as to be asinine as a basis for forcing women to have pregnancy tests.

“Forcing woman?” It’s peeing on a stick. The benefits outweigh the risk (and there are no risks here, just benefits)

NP. Look, I take the pregnancy test before medical procedures like a good little patient because I understand the doctor/medical facility are worried about liability and I don’t want to be difficult, but you can’t just pretend there’s nothing but upside to these policies. Years of battling infertility have left me in a very fragile state when I’m forced to increase the number of negative pregnancy tests I’ve taken in my life. I’m no longer ttc and don’t even want a baby now (age 50), but taking a pregnancy test is still very emotionally fraught for me. Reminders of my fertility (or lack thereof) when I’m having an unrelated medical procedure are unwelcome.

Very sorry for what you went through but this is a matter for therapy. You could instead feel like taking more, unrelated pregnancy tests desensitizes you so you are not so triggered.

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Anonymous wrote:They made my good friend, who had a hysterectomy almost 10 years ago, do a pregnancy test before her recent surgery because she still has her ovaries. Yeah...

Ectopic pregnancy. Pregnancies in the abdominal cavity, without a uterus, have happened before. They don't lead to viable babies, but they can lead to severe injury or death for the mother, and it's important to know before surgery in case there's a bleed-out. Pregnant women respond differently to anesthesia and hemorrhage.

This is so rare as to be asinine as a basis for forcing women to have pregnancy tests.

“Forcing woman?” It’s peeing on a stick. The benefits outweigh the risk (and there are no risks here, just benefits)

NP. Look, I take the pregnancy test before medical procedures like a good little patient because I understand the doctor/medical facility are worried about liability and I don’t want to be difficult, but you can’t just pretend there’s nothing but upside to these policies. Years of battling infertility have left me in a very fragile state when I’m forced to increase the number of negative pregnancy tests I’ve taken in my life. I’m no longer ttc and don’t even want a baby now (age 50), but taking a pregnancy test is still very emotionally fraught for me. Reminders of my fertility (or lack thereof) when I’m having an unrelated medical procedure are unwelcome.

Very sorry for what you went through but this is a matter for therapy. You could instead feel like taking more, unrelated pregnancy tests desensitizes you so you are not so triggered.

NP here and your lack of concern for this poster’s candid sharing of her real, lived experience and general dismissive tone are appalling. I hope you aren’t in the medical field.

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Anonymous wrote:They made my good friend, who had a hysterectomy almost 10 years ago, do a pregnancy test before her recent surgery because she still has her ovaries. Yeah...

Ectopic pregnancy. Pregnancies in the abdominal cavity, without a uterus, have happened before. They don't lead to viable babies, but they can lead to severe injury or death for the mother, and it's important to know before surgery in case there's a bleed-out. Pregnant women respond differently to anesthesia and hemorrhage.

This is so rare as to be asinine as a basis for forcing women to have pregnancy tests.

“Forcing woman?” It’s peeing on a stick. The benefits outweigh the risk (and there are no risks here, just benefits)

NP. Look, I take the pregnancy test before medical procedures like a good little patient because I understand the doctor/medical facility are worried about liability and I don’t want to be difficult, but you can’t just pretend there’s nothing but upside to these policies. Years of battling infertility have left me in a very fragile state when I’m forced to increase the number of negative pregnancy tests I’ve taken in my life. I’m no longer ttc and don’t even want a baby now (age 50), but taking a pregnancy test is still very emotionally fraught for me. Reminders of my fertility (or lack thereof) when I’m having an unrelated medical procedure are unwelcome.

Very sorry for what you went through but this is a matter for therapy. You could instead feel like taking more, unrelated pregnancy tests desensitizes you so you are not so triggered.

NP. Yes, This may be a matter for therapy, but the rest of your statement is tone-deaf and entirely unhelpful.

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That’s standard procedure. Are you too special for standard procedure?

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Anonymous wrote:You were carded! Congrats! I wish this would happen to me

+1. At the cardiologist last week they asked me if I was pregnant or breastfeeding before an EKG. I turn 57 next month. Far from being offended, I was flattered (even though I'm sure it's just a routine question).

Ridiculous. Flattered?

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Anonymous wrote:They made my good friend, who had a hysterectomy almost 10 years ago, do a pregnancy test before her recent surgery because she still has her ovaries. Yeah...

Ectopic pregnancy. Pregnancies in the abdominal cavity, without a uterus, have happened before. They don't lead to viable babies, but they can lead to severe injury or death for the mother, and it's important to know before surgery in case there's a bleed-out. Pregnant women respond differently to anesthesia and hemorrhage.

This is so rare as to be asinine as a basis for forcing women to have pregnancy tests.

“Forcing woman?” It’s peeing on a stick. The benefits outweigh the risk (and there are no risks here, just benefits)

I'm a lesbian who has slept with 0 men in my life. They try to make me take pregnancy tests, too. While there's no "risk" there's also absolutely no need, and I won't have them charge my insurance or me for something that is completely asinine.

This. They need to listen to us.

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I have a friend in her 40s who has had a hysterectomy and she's needed to do it. It pisses her off that medical care is such a checklist instead of common sense.

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Anonymous wrote:They made my good friend, who had a hysterectomy almost 10 years ago, do a pregnancy test before her recent surgery because she still has her ovaries. Yeah...

Ectopic pregnancy. Pregnancies in the abdominal cavity, without a uterus, have happened before. They don't lead to viable babies, but they can lead to severe injury or death for the mother, and it's important to know before surgery in case there's a bleed-out. Pregnant women respond differently to anesthesia and hemorrhage.

This is so rare as to be asinine as a basis for forcing women to have pregnancy tests.

“Forcing woman?” It’s peeing on a stick. The benefits outweigh the risk (and there are no risks here, just benefits)

I'm a lesbian who has slept with 0 men in my life. They try to make me take pregnancy tests, too. While there's no "risk" there's also absolutely no need, and I won't have them charge my insurance or me for something that is completely asinine.

They don't believe you, that's the issue. For every woman who insists she couldn't possibly be pregnant, a few will be. It's not worth it to them to take anyone at their word. So, everyone pees on the stick.

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Anonymous wrote:That’s standard procedure. Are you too special for standard procedure?

It's a liability thing, OP.

Hope all is well on the health front.

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Anonymous wrote:They made my good friend, who had a hysterectomy almost 10 years ago, do a pregnancy test before her recent surgery because she still has her ovaries. Yeah...

Ectopic pregnancy. Pregnancies in the abdominal cavity, without a uterus, have happened before. They don't lead to viable babies, but they can lead to severe injury or death for the mother, and it's important to know before surgery in case there's a bleed-out. Pregnant women respond differently to anesthesia and hemorrhage.

This is so rare as to be asinine as a basis for forcing women to have pregnancy tests.

“Forcing woman?” It’s peeing on a stick. The benefits outweigh the risk (and there are no risks here, just benefits)

I'm a lesbian who has slept with 0 men in my life. They try to make me take pregnancy tests, too. While there's no "risk" there's also absolutely no need, and I won't have them charge my insurance or me for something that is completely asinine.

They don't believe you, that's the issue. For every woman who insists she couldn't possibly be pregnant, a few will be. It's not worth it to them to take anyone at their word. So, everyone pees on the stick.

I honestly don’t know where people get this. They ask, I answer, they ask me to test, I decline. Nothing about my health care has been changed by this.

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I know like 6 women in the last year who are late 40s or 50s having surprise babies. It happens a lot more than you think.

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Anonymous wrote:They made my good friend, who had a hysterectomy almost 10 years ago, do a pregnancy test before her recent surgery because she still has her ovaries. Yeah...

Ectopic pregnancy. Pregnancies in the abdominal cavity, without a uterus, have happened before. They don't lead to viable babies, but they can lead to severe injury or death for the mother, and it's important to know before surgery in case there's a bleed-out. Pregnant women respond differently to anesthesia and hemorrhage.

This is so rare as to be asinine as a basis for forcing women to have pregnancy tests.

“Forcing woman?” It’s peeing on a stick. The benefits outweigh the risk (and there are no risks here, just benefits)

I'm a lesbian who has slept with 0 men in my life. They try to make me take pregnancy tests, too. While there's no "risk" there's also absolutely no need, and I won't have them charge my insurance or me for something that is completely asinine.

This. They need to listen to us.

They need to correctly identify our pathologies and provide effective treatment. They need to save our lives so we can take care of our children. I don't need them to deviate from procedure for my vanity or my ideological causes.