I find it annoying when people get on here and say it really doesn't matter where your kid goes

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, but it doesn’t matter. It matters to the the overbearing helicopter parent that wear their kid’s college brand like a designer handbag and that we will be directionless and aimless when DC leaves the nest. But for your kid, their employer will care that they went to school but not where. The exception, of course, is on both extremes. If they go to a top 5-7 school, great, they get bonus points (except for the many employers that specifically don’t want someone with those credentials because they tend to believe that they are entitled to an accelerated journey). On the other extreme, if they went to an online school or a super esoteric school, there better be a good reason.

Other than that, schools #7-150 or so are completely interchangeable in the real world.

I'm sorry but I just don't agree that this applies to everyone. The assumption that wealth & eduction correlates with Middle class white culture is so off-putting. I'm asian and a child of immigrants- I've seen way too many successful lives destroyed by events that would never be life 'destroyers' for their white peers b/c of a lack of exposure to ideas/UMC ways of doing things and confidence. The difference that going to a top ten law school would make for my kid even though their parents are lawyers will be much much bigger than it is for your kids and there are plenty of immigrants, brown and black people and even first generation college grad white posters here and we know better than you how social mobility works b/c its something we have experienced for ourselves, not just read about in the Atlantic and VOX. I've seen first hand the difference in girls who go to George mason vs. even UVA/George Washington and what they've gone on to do with their lives. Exposure to a wider set of possibilities and the self concept that you are one of the ppl who should be applying to post docs at Magdalen college and MS at LSE and opening businesses with friends you met at NYU Beijing are vastly different than a fed contractor driving to target and their home in Burke with no USAID/FSO posting in sight day after miserable day. Many ppl on here have benefited from their superior merit and work ethic and want make sure that their kids move that one rung up to having even more choices and possibilities when their grandparents struggled and sacrificed. That is what ppl move here for, if I wanted to keep treading water, my father should've stayed home and not left his family and everyone he held dear.

Again, I don't care. The American university system should not be structured to make the lives of "immigrants, brown and black people" better. Everyone should get the exact same opportunity based on their academic merit not their skin color or recent arrival in the country.

And here I thought it didn’t matter which college the kids went to.. /s

[Anonymous]

I think college matters in several ways and this is why people rationally pay a premium for a more prestigious college versus accepting merit aid (often substantial) from a (sometimes only slightly) less prestigious one.

A. Intellectual development and growth
B. Perception of employers and career services opportunities
C. Network of peers and alums

All of these are hard to quantify, and may sometimes ultimately not amount to anything, but people aren’t crazy and rationally pay for advantages for their kids

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's like, why are you on here then?

People are trying to make choices. Sure it may not be life or death, but to be like, it doesn't matter, do whatever, are you really adding value?

I am not one of them, but I don't understand why that would bother you. That itself (i.e., it doesn't matter posts) can be helpful to some families. Just because you don't agree with it, doesn't mean it's a wrong message. Be open minded.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, but it doesn’t matter. It matters to the the overbearing helicopter parent that wear their kid’s college brand like a designer handbag and that we will be directionless and aimless when DC leaves the nest. But for your kid, their employer will care that they went to school but not where. The exception, of course, is on both extremes. If they go to a top 5-7 school, great, they get bonus points (except for the many employers that specifically don’t want someone with those credentials because they tend to believe that they are entitled to an accelerated journey). On the other extreme, if they went to an online school or a super esoteric school, there better be a good reason.

Other than that, schools #7-150 or so are completely interchangeable in the real world.

Well I'm sure you take time even for selecting a pair of sneakers.
So giving it a time and thoughts for selecting a college make perfect sense.
Of course it matters.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It matters in that the college network has an effect on your life. Education wise, you are better of at a smaller college where your classes are taught by professors vs. grad students.

And yet people want to get into the prestigious large state flagships where students are huge lecture halls.

[Anonymous]

"I find it annoying when people get on here and say it really doesn't matter where your kid goes"
I've seen posters mention this, but to start a thread because it's so aggravating, no, it's never crossed my mind.

[Anonymous]

I'm just here to say that it really doesn't matter where your kid goes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, but it doesn’t matter. It matters to the the overbearing helicopter parent that wear their kid’s college brand like a designer handbag and that we will be directionless and aimless when DC leaves the nest. But for your kid, their employer will care that they went to school but not where. The exception, of course, is on both extremes. If they go to a top 5-7 school, great, they get bonus points (except for the many employers that specifically don’t want someone with those credentials because they tend to believe that they are entitled to an accelerated journey). On the other extreme, if they went to an online school or a super esoteric school, there better be a good reason.

Other than that, schools #7-150 or so are completely interchangeable in the real world.

I'm sorry but I just don't agree that this applies to everyone. The assumption that wealth & eduction correlates with Middle class white culture is so off-putting. I'm asian and a child of immigrants- I've seen way too many successful lives destroyed by events that would never be life 'destroyers' for their white peers b/c of a lack of exposure to ideas/UMC ways of doing things and confidence. The difference that going to a top ten law school would make for my kid even though their parents are lawyers will be much much bigger than it is for your kids and there are plenty of immigrants, brown and black people and even first generation college grad white posters here and we know better than you how social mobility works b/c its something we have experienced for ourselves, not just read about in the Atlantic and VOX. I've seen first hand the difference in girls who go to George mason vs. even UVA/George Washington and what they've gone on to do with their lives. Exposure to a wider set of possibilities and the self concept that you are one of the ppl who should be applying to post docs at Magdalen college and MS at LSE and opening businesses with friends you met at NYU Beijing are vastly different than a fed contractor driving to target and their home in Burke with no USAID/FSO posting in sight day after miserable day. Many ppl on here have benefited from their superior merit and work ethic and want make sure that their kids move that one rung up to having even more choices and possibilities when their grandparents struggled and sacrificed. That is what ppl move here for, if I wanted to keep treading water, my father should've stayed home and not left his family and everyone he held dear.

+1
AMEN!!

Thank you. It is nerve wrecking to have discussions on this board because the majority lack basic knowledge about the experiences of immigrants especially brown and black people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's like, why are you on here then?

People are trying to make choices. Sure it may not be life or death, but to be like, it doesn't matter, do whatever, are you really adding value?

I am not one of them, but I don't understand why that would bother you. That itself (i.e., it doesn't matter posts) can be helpful to some families. Just because you don't agree with it, doesn't mean it's a wrong message. Be open minded.

Because it's like asking for help figuring out what car to buy, and then the person is like, who cares, it gets you from A to B. It's a non-answer. Just calling your question dumb and responding with, whatever. And then they posture as if they are all wise and noble.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm just here to say that it really doesn't matter where your kid goes.

but it matters

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's like, why are you on here then?

People are trying to make choices. Sure it may not be life or death, but to be like, it doesn't matter, do whatever, are you really adding value?

For the entertainment. You people are a trip.

+1. Really wish I knew some of you lunatics IRL. You fascinate me.

[Anonymous]

Not all of us are looking for elite colleges. It is also about fit OP. And I do think fit matters.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's like, why are you on here then?

People are trying to make choices. Sure it may not be life or death, but to be like, it doesn't matter, do whatever, are you really adding value?

I am not one of them, but I don't understand why that would bother you. That itself (i.e., it doesn't matter posts) can be helpful to some families. Just because you don't agree with it, doesn't mean it's a wrong message. Be open minded.

Because it's like asking for help figuring out what car to buy, and then the person is like, who cares, it gets you from A to B. It's a non-answer. Just calling your question dumb and responding with, whatever. And then they posture as if they are all wise and noble.

The same people who say it doesn't matter also take their time when picking a pair of sneakers for design, color, brand, fit, comfort, price, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's like, why are you on here then?

People are trying to make choices. Sure it may not be life or death, but to be like, it doesn't matter, do whatever, are you really adding value?

I am not one of them, but I don't understand why that would bother you. That itself (i.e., it doesn't matter posts) can be helpful to some families. Just because you don't agree with it, doesn't mean it's a wrong message. Be open minded.

Because it's like asking for help figuring out what car to buy, and then the person is like, who cares, it gets you from A to B. It's a non-answer. Just calling your question dumb and responding with, whatever. And then they posture as if they are all wise and noble.

You are oddly obsessed over this. I don't think your example is the same but whatever. Go out and enjoy the day. Maybe fresh air will help.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's like, why are you on here then?

People are trying to make choices. Sure it may not be life or death, but to be like, it doesn't matter, do whatever, are you really adding value?

So now we have to "add value" before we can comment? I personally think this thread has no value! Everyone is allowed their opinion. You don't have to approve. Just ignore!