Taking FMLA in a rage over RTO

[Anonymous]

Fock those asssholes!!!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP sounds very young and entitled, with some self centered rage thrown in. I’ve had many management decisions bother me in my career and I’ve either found a new job or stayed and found a way to live with it. Being in a rage because your company isn’t changing their office policies for your personal preferences is childish.

Well, yes. But I didn't point this out because it seemed unlikely to be productive. OP may become a manager one day and will get more perspective. But it is hard to see that from where they are.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Wait, you're taking it because you're "in a rage" or because you truly cannot work in office?

You sound like a complete brat and I would want you gone even if you're hard to replace, based on your post.

Op here. Both.

It can't be "both." Either you have no choice, or you're throwing a tantrum. Clearly it's the tantrum.

Op here. Not sure how they are mutually exclusive. I am angry, and also I am sick. FMLA/STD in my situation required a lot of medical documentation. As I explained earlier, I was hospitalized multiple times this summer and had sepsis in addition to other things.

So that you had a rough patch this past summer means you can no longer work in an office ever? I do not understand OP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Fock those asssholes!!!!!

You sound like a real problem solver.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Wait, you're taking it because you're "in a rage" or because you truly cannot work in office?

You sound like a complete brat and I would want you gone even if you're hard to replace, based on your post.

Op here. Both.

Have you thought about seeking counseling?

[Anonymous]

I don’t understand why OP didn’t apply for an ADA accommodation for remote work, as someone suggested. I got one when we RTO because I was going through cancer treatments. I have to have my paperwork redone every 6 months. My HR rep said they received many applications but didn’t approve most of them. A lot of people tried to throw anything at the wall to see if it would stick and doctors easily sign off on it. Not that OP did, but I think people trying to work the system hurt a lot of legitimate requests.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can you be more specific about your illness? The people I've known who've had sepsis recovered pretty quickly once treated.

lol what?! Sepsis famously has a high mortality rate…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand why OP didn’t apply for an ADA accommodation for remote work, as someone suggested. I got one when we RTO because I was going through cancer treatments. I have to have my paperwork redone every 6 months. My HR rep said they received many applications but didn’t approve most of them. A lot of people tried to throw anything at the wall to see if it would stick and doctors easily sign off on it. Not that OP did, but I think people trying to work the system hurt a lot of legitimate requests.

Op here. I did. They denied it. I said I applied for one in my OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You do understand you are replaceable, right?

I am not saying this to be mean but it sounds like you need the reminder.

+1. I feel for you OP but we are all replaceable. You got your three months. After that either go back in office or quit/change roles. Your role was never a WFH role. It became one because of a pandemic. You squeezed three years of remote work out of that which was great for you and now it’s time to go back. Who cares if you can do your role from home? They want you in office. Many people proved during the pandemic they could competently work from home but they are in office now. It’s not personal.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You do understand you are replaceable, right?

I am not saying this to be mean but it sounds like you need the reminder.

+1. I feel for you OP but we are all replaceable. You got your three months. After that either go back in office or quit/change roles. Your role was never a WFH role. It became one because of a pandemic. You squeezed three years of remote work out of that which was great for you and now it’s time to go back. Who cares if you can do your role from home? They want you in office. Many people proved during the pandemic they could competently work from home but they are in office now. It’s not personal.

Op here. Sure. But my FMLA only just started yesterday. So I’ve got until December 1st to get better, or find a WFH job.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Can you be more specific about your illness? The people I've known who've had sepsis recovered pretty quickly once treated.

lol what?! Sepsis famously has a high mortality rate…

Yes, over 30%.

[Anonymous]

I’m sorry op. So many companies are willing to shoot themselves in the foot over RTO. My company has lost so many qualified people over it. It’s just frustrating.

[Anonymous]

In the old days, you would go out on disability. Have you looked into that? It doesn't pay as well, though. Definitely take the three months now, though. I am tired of all the whining about going back to the office -- I have been in person the entire time -- but in your case if I valued you as an employee, I would have worked with you to keep you on, especially with medical documentation. I would say they don't want you there, so move accordingly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In the old days, you would go out on disability. Have you looked into that? It doesn't pay as well, though. Definitely take the three months now, though. I am tired of all the whining about going back to the office -- I have been in person the entire time -- but in your case if I valued you as an employee, I would have worked with you to keep you on, especially with medical documentation. I would say they don't want you there, so move accordingly.

Op here. Yes, sorry, I should have explained. I’m getting short term disability (STD) or I will once I exhaust my existing paid time off). At my work we can get short term disability while on FMLA.

I’ll reassess once I see how I’m doing in November.

[Anonymous]

If you believe you have been denied a reasonable accommodation, you can pursue your EEO remedies.