Send kid in pajamas to daycare

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Anonymous wrote:Sure your kids’ appearance makes a difference in how they get treated at daycare. What also makes a difference is the relationship you form with their teachers. I am astounded at the number of parents I see who don’t even acknowledge the teachers. I always make a point to say hello and call them by their name, ask how they are doing, how their weekend was, etc. I make sure I say “Thank you for everything you do.” I treat them like the human beings that they are.

It’s mind boggling when parents tell their children to say bye to the kids and totally ignore there is a teacher in there too right in front of them, who they just ignore.

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Anonymous wrote:A day care lady yelled at me because my 2yo had holes in the top of his shoes. His shoes wore out because he was dragging his feet behind him while riding those little strider bikes on the playground. He would destroy a pair of shoes within a couple weeks. I had a new, bigger pair of shoes for him already, but they were too big, and I worried he'd he'd trip, so I kept him in shoes that fit that had fallen apart at the tops of the toes, for a little longer.. Judge me.

She said that she knew I had enough money to buy him 20 pairs of shoes and that she was disgusted that he had holes in his shoes. I was too shocked to say anything, but I considered her perspective.

I have removal of several years now, and I think she was wrong, but again, judge me!

I agree with keeping your kids well kept because they will receive better treatment. Same is true for your old relatives under hospital care or assisted care. If you don't show care, they won't be treated as well.

She should have yelled at you. You sent your kid to school in shoes that were potentially unsafe. Why?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why not get comfy play clothes and use them as PJs?

I have heard teachers discuss how well groomed some kids are and even what they bring in their lunch boxes in daycare situations. They comment on whose parents are perpetually late in picking them up. Yes, they are human and they draw conclusions about parents and kids based on that. Also, the drop-off and pick-up arrangements of divorced parents are also discussed.

How did it change my own behavior. I made sure that my kid was clean, well groomed, smelled good and wore freshly laundered and ironed clothes. I also used to rub her clothing with a sheet of fabric softener to reduce static and make her clothes smell extra nice.

Oh Jesus. Please don’t rub your kids clothes and fabric softener sheets. Many people are allergic to those and it’s not gonna make people want to be closer to your kid.

I do agree that teachers are inclined to be nicer to kids who are prettier and dressed better. That’s just human nature.

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Anonymous wrote:I’ll admit I side eye kids who are over age 1 in pajamas. It makes the parents look sloppy and lazy, like they don’t care well enough for the child. I also assume if you are cool with your children wearing rumpled pajamas they likely wore the night before put on public that you also likely have a messy, disorganized home and life. Appearances matter in this world, like it or not. If you truly don’t GAF what your kids wear and don’t care what the teachers and fellow classmates think that’s totally good for you! Just know you and the kids may get extra attention that’s not positive for it. Whether you care or not is up to you. And whether you want others to think you care or not is also up to you.

Yeah I would say definitely no one should care about the opinion of someone who’d judge this!!

Here’s the thing … a lot of people here, including daycare workers and teachers, are saying they do judge it. That may not matter to you, which is evident since you don’t care a lot about appearances. No biggie for you, and you can roll your eyes all you want, but it’s the truth that others are looking at your kid and judging your parenting decisions. Whether you think they should or not. Welcome to the real world!

So they judge it. So what? Why would I spend time worrying about what people think of my parenting choices?

Sure, Jan. You don’t care. We believe you.

I know this is breaking news to you but there are literally tens of millions of people who just live their lives and don’t twist themselves into knots based on the potential judgement of strangers. You should try it sometime.

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Anonymous wrote:I’ll admit I side eye kids who are over age 1 in pajamas. It makes the parents look sloppy and lazy, like they don’t care well enough for the child. I also assume if you are cool with your children wearing rumpled pajamas they likely wore the night before put on public that you also likely have a messy, disorganized home and life. Appearances matter in this world, like it or not. If you truly don’t GAF what your kids wear and don’t care what the teachers and fellow classmates think that’s totally good for you! Just know you and the kids may get extra attention that’s not positive for it. Whether you care or not is up to you. And whether you want others to think you care or not is also up to you.

Yeah I would say definitely no one should care about the opinion of someone who’d judge this!!

Here’s the thing … a lot of people here, including daycare workers and teachers, are saying they do judge it. That may not matter to you, which is evident since you don’t care a lot about appearances. No biggie for you, and you can roll your eyes all you want, but it’s the truth that others are looking at your kid and judging your parenting decisions. Whether you think they should or not. Welcome to the real world!

So they judge it. So what? Why would I spend time worrying about what people think of my parenting choices?

Sure, Jan. You don’t care. We believe you.

I know this is breaking news to you but there are literally tens of millions of people who just live their lives and don’t twist themselves into knots based on the potential judgement of strangers. You should try it sometime.

Tell us again why you keep posting here defending it if you care so little?

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Anonymous wrote:I’ll admit I side eye kids who are over age 1 in pajamas. It makes the parents look sloppy and lazy, like they don’t care well enough for the child. I also assume if you are cool with your children wearing rumpled pajamas they likely wore the night before put on public that you also likely have a messy, disorganized home and life. Appearances matter in this world, like it or not. If you truly don’t GAF what your kids wear and don’t care what the teachers and fellow classmates think that’s totally good for you! Just know you and the kids may get extra attention that’s not positive for it. Whether you care or not is up to you. And whether you want others to think you care or not is also up to you.

Yeah I would say definitely no one should care about the opinion of someone who’d judge this!!

Here’s the thing … a lot of people here, including daycare workers and teachers, are saying they do judge it. That may not matter to you, which is evident since you don’t care a lot about appearances. No biggie for you, and you can roll your eyes all you want, but it’s the truth that others are looking at your kid and judging your parenting decisions. Whether you think they should or not. Welcome to the real world!

So they judge it. So what? Why would I spend time worrying about what people think of my parenting choices?

Sure, Jan. You don’t care. We believe you.

I know this is breaking news to you but there are literally tens of millions of people who just live their lives and don’t twist themselves into knots based on the potential judgement of strangers. You should try it sometime.

I’m a DP but my children’s teacher is not a “stranger” and her judgement could impact the quality of care my child gets. I wouldn’t “twist myself into knots” but washing my child’s face and making sure they look nice before school is a very small price to pay for someone being marginally more caring to my child all day.

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Anonymous wrote:Why not get comfy play clothes and use them as PJs?

I have heard teachers discuss how well groomed some kids are and even what they bring in their lunch boxes in daycare situations. They comment on whose parents are perpetually late in picking them up. Yes, they are human and they draw conclusions about parents and kids based on that. Also, the drop-off and pick-up arrangements of divorced parents are also discussed.

How did it change my own behavior. I made sure that my kid was clean, well groomed, smelled good and wore freshly laundered and ironed clothes. I also used to rub her clothing with a sheet of fabric softener to reduce static and make her clothes smell extra nice.

IRONED clothes? Either you are very recent European OR you are trolling.

Yes! Ironed clothes. Why do you think I am a troll because of ironing?

I wanted my kid to be, look and smell well-cared for, so that the teachers subconsciously took better care of my kid. I wanted to send the message that I had my shitz together, I was particular about grooming and took take extra efforts for my kid. I am not expecting you or anyone else to follow my standards because I don't know y'all and that would be weird.

Yes, you iron clothes that are cotton or linen and can be ironed safely. I think it makes clothes look crisp and neat. I made sure that the wash and wear clothes were folded neatly after they came out of the dryer to prevent wrinkles, and there were no stains or pilling. Most importantly, kids were well dressed, teeth brushed, skin and hair washed, hair neatly combed, nails trimmed, already lotioned and sunscreen applied.

Would you want to take care of kids who looked unwashed, had food stains on crumpled cloths, crusty eyes, uncombed hair and were wearing PJs?

I think there is a huge gap between what you describe and am average kid at daycare. My kids are clean, dressed appropriately for the weather, and their clothes are good. They are not fancy or stuff bc you know, they are kids. But good for you for putting in all the effort. I do that when I have more time and we are going “out.”