My very smart and competent DC knows that, due to a lack of interest, he would personally be miserable as a CS major or working as an engineer/technician. He is also wise enough to choose a major and profession that likely won't pay as well, but that affords a decent lifestyle AND provide personal enjoyment and fulfillment. I was in a profession that paid VERY well (big law), but was very unhappy. I took a huge pay cut to change careers and couldn't be happier with what I'm doing now - absolutely no regrets. |
You misrepresented what I wrote in my post. |
If you've been following the news, you would know that SWE jobs depend on mercurial types like Elon Musk. When you've had enough, having an ivy degree to move on makes it that much easier. |
First, the decisions they made for themselves were made before the research was done. Second, you have no idea why they chose to teach where they did. And finally, you don't understand the research. Nothing in it implied or stated that elite colleges are harmful to outcomes. I don't know where their kids went, but if it was to elite schools, I'm confident they would have been just as happy if their kids didn't get in because they knew that the opportunities they had would have been the same. |
Take a look at where the CEOs of top US companies went. https://lesshighschoolstress.com/business/ It's the individual that matters, not the college they attended. |
Prestige schools are highly OVER-represented in business, law, finance, academia, so the college matters. |
It does matter a lot. I know the research and simply do not buy it. The difference between UMD and Stanford is massive. Frankly the difference between UVA and UMD is massive and I am not a UVA fan. Simply put where you go (and how you do there) matters in terms of opening many pathways. Does that mean that if you go to UMD you have no chance? Of course not but there are less pathways to take you there. A smart kid will do well anywhere but may not have the same options depending on where you go. |
This is well said. Anyone can make it from anywhere but you increase the chances if you go to certain places. |
True Major (and then grad school) matters more than anything, really. |
Yes your kid can not handle real majors |
No, my kid is wise enough not to prioritize salary over happiness. He will be fine and very content never owning a luxury brand car. I feel sorry for people whose priority goal is securing the highest paying jon possible no matter what their real interests are. |
+1 I dated a guy years ago who worked in finance. He hated his job and really wanted to be a landscape architect. His dad thought going to college to be a "gardener" was stupid so he majored in finance and was miserable. We broke up in part because I could see he was never going to stand up to his dad and just get more unhappy as life went on. I don't doubt that prestige matters in some careers but neither of my kids (nor do DH and I) aspire to those career areas. And, for the most part, I don't think any prestige benefit would outweigh the debt required for elite schools. Not that it matters since my kids are solid students but were not going to be competitive for those kinds of schools. So, we focused on schools that had strengths in their desired majors, have good retention, graduation and employment rates and would fit our reasonable budget. They'll be fine. |
Smart motivated competent kids major in challenging real majors and minor in something else interests them. |
What do you mean the difference between UVA and UMD is massive? For what? UMD's STEM programs are universally ranked higher than UVA and very well respected. And for the record, I attended neither school so have no dog in this fight. |
I think PP is a UVA hater and tryng to mock UVA. |