Will my Jewish neighbors eat cookies I bake?

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Anonymous wrote:Do you know they keep kosher? The majority of Jews do not.

OP here: I don't know if they keep kosher, but I know the husband drinks craft beers. Is that any insight?

Can I just ask why you think they *might* keep kosher? Just because they are Jewish - or did they say something about being very observant?

Are they orthodox? Does husband wear a yamuka? If not, I'd guess most likely not kosher, but I'm a goy so take with grain of salt. I'd also assume if they were kosher, they'd tell you. Is party on a Friday night? You could just buy extra kosher cookies and chips, and beverage, to have on hand just in case. But you can't put those on your dinnerware I don't think. Then it won't be kosher anymore. Might need disposables?

I am the PP and I would feel very awkward if I came to a neighbor's party and they had store-bought cookies for me on a paper plate, just because I am Jewish. That is very othering! (I have a friend who didn't grow up with many Jews who grilled my mother about stuff involving keeping kosher once - and we are super super secular. It was very uncomfortable!)

I think the PP is right who suggested just asking if they have any dietary restrictions. For all you know they love bacon but are allergic to walnuts.

+1 I would be hurt. I celebrate Thanksgiving and the Fourth of July. I am a full fledged American. I also eat chocolate chip cookies. Sigh.

If they are Jews who keep kosher, this is not othering. It’s actually respectful and accommodating. Jews who keep kosher are very strict about what they eat. And when they eat in the homes of people who don’t keep kosher, they can only eat kosher food, using paper plates, and served and eaten with plastic utensils. They cannot eat food in a non kosher home from any dishes or utensils that are in the home. My husband is Jewish and his aunt and uncle who are Orthodox used to bring all their own food to his moms house so they could eat with us. They would not eat anything she served that did not come from a box and have the parve symbol on it because her home wasn’t kosher. Most Jews do not keep kosher that I know though.

OP should just ask if they have any food allergies or requirements

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Anonymous wrote:Do you know they keep kosher? The majority of Jews do not.

OP here: I don't know if they keep kosher, but I know the husband drinks craft beers. Is that any insight?

Can I just ask why you think they *might* keep kosher? Just because they are Jewish - or did they say something about being very observant?

Are they orthodox? Does husband wear a yamuka? If not, I'd guess most likely not kosher, but I'm a goy so take with grain of salt. I'd also assume if they were kosher, they'd tell you. Is party on a Friday night? You could just buy extra kosher cookies and chips, and beverage, to have on hand just in case. But you can't put those on your dinnerware I don't think. Then it won't be kosher anymore. Might need disposables?

I am the PP and I would feel very awkward if I came to a neighbor's party and they had store-bought cookies for me on a paper plate, just because I am Jewish. That is very othering! (I have a friend who didn't grow up with many Jews who grilled my mother about stuff involving keeping kosher once - and we are super super secular. It was very uncomfortable!)

I think the PP is right who suggested just asking if they have any dietary restrictions. For all you know they love bacon but are allergic to walnuts.

+1 I would be hurt. I celebrate Thanksgiving and the Fourth of July. I am a full fledged American. I also eat chocolate chip cookies. Sigh.

If they are Jews who keep kosher, this is not othering. It’s actually respectful and accommodating. Jews who keep kosher are very strict about what they eat. And when they eat in the homes of people who don’t keep kosher, they can only eat kosher food, using paper plates, and served and eaten with plastic utensils. They cannot eat food in a non kosher home from any dishes or utensils that are in the home. My husband is Jewish and his aunt and uncle who are Orthodox used to bring all their own food to his moms house so they could eat with us. They would not eat anything she served that did not come from a box and have the parve symbol on it because her home wasn’t kosher. Most Jews do not keep kosher that I know though.

OP should just ask if they have any food allergies or requirements

But it doesn't sound like OP has any reason to believe that they keep kosher, other than because she knows they are Jewish. It's that next step that's othering. Seriously I would be so weirded out if someone had a paper plate of cookies for me at a party while everyone else was eating regular cookies, based on some assumptions about how Jews are.

But yes, the right thing to do is just ask if they have any dietary restrictions.