MIL roped me into MLM
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Anonymous
Well, yiu should also acquaint yourself with “The Dream” podcast. What does signing people up mean? Why are you upset about it - Isn’t that the whole point? |
Anonymous
Seriously. It was a mistake, it's not working out and you need to cut your losses. Rip the bandaid! |
Anonymous
They work under that woman now |
Anonymous
But does that impact OP, or is it just competition for pant sales? |
Anonymous
It really shouldn't affect OP. Just more people MIL is scamming. |
Anonymous
Learning to say "NO" is one of life's hardest lessons. |
Anonymous
| You feel like an idiot because you ARE an idiot. |
Anonymous
| Cut your losses, financially and familiarly. No one wants these products. |
Anonymous
You can find so much of their clothes on second hand sures. People are trying to get rid of their clothes not but new ones |
Anonymous
Quite true. LuLaRoe was ugly then, and it is hideous now. I only knew one person in 2014-2015 who would wear LLR leggings and skirts, but I haven't seen anyone wear them since then. This is definitely not a type of clothing that is desirable to the masses. OP, get out of this and all other MLM schemes! |
Anonymous
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OP, you're getting a lot of criticism of the specific MLM (and with good reason, they're such a scam) but I think you were maybe hoping, instead, for more discusson on how to extricate yourself without utterly sinking your already tenuous relationship with your MIL-- is that right? Most of us haven't been in your exact position but I do get why you're concerned. It's the one and only positive link you have with her, it seems. But you do have to end this or it might eat money you can't afford to throw away; it's causing you stress; and eventually it could strain your marriage. What does your DH say about all this? Is DH really aware of the money and time the MLM sucks up, or does he know little except "mom does this and likes it, and it's nice that DW does it too, I'm pleased about that"--?? In your shoes, I would sit down with DH and talk frankly about how the MLM really works, the intense pressure (don't say it's pressure from MIL but from the MLM itself) to recruit and recruit, and the costs, which will only increase, probably. Tell him you made a mistake getting involved and will be getting out. Note that I say, will be, not "want to get out." You're NOT asking DH's permission to get out but informing him. I'd tell him frankly that your one concern is that you and MIL don't have a real relationship and this is the only bonding activity you and she have, so he understands why you said yes in the first place. I hope he does understand and values the fact you were trying to find a way to connect with his mother, and appreciates you for that attempt. Then get out. I would actually sever the ties to the company before even telling MIL, unless you somehow have to "go through" her to sever ties? Not sure how that works. Spend a day that's set aside for being very intentional with this -- pack up your inventory to donate or send back or however you have to get rid of it; put it in the car ready to take wherever; get online or make the calls to end this. Then tell MIL that same day taht you can't spend the $$ and discovered that sales and recruitment are not things you're comfortable doing, and if your'e not comfortable, you won't be good at them. In fact, I'd actually write down a script for how to tell her. You might find ideas online if there are sites with guidance for how to exit an MLM - I'd bet such sites and advice exist, OP. Do NOT over-explain. Expect her to try to convince you to stay, to present arguments, talk about how you will earn $$ after a certain point if only you'll stay, talk about how SHE just got new recruits and you can do it too, etc. Expect her to turn on the guilt: But SHE will look bad if you leave; you're one of her recruits and it damages her position if you bail out, etc. Depending on your past relationship, she might even accuse you of joining, then leaving, the MLM just to make her look bad for losing you as a recruit, etc. Anticipate every such response and think through what you will say, so you are NOT improvising and winging it in the moment! You need to stay cool and calm and deflect all guilting, anger and "but you'll make money soon!" talk with a sweet but firm, "It's not for me, and I know you'll find plenty of recruits. I've already returned/sold/given away my own inventory and resigned with the company." And don't let the "I'm out" conversation go on too long--you want to deliver this news, NOT engage in a discussion about next steps. Then be prepared for her to bring this up at the holidays and whenever she sees you. She might try to re-enlist you or instead she might just be angry and cold. If you're very lucky she'll move on. After some time passes you can see if there's some other way to connect with her if you wish. I'd let my future desire to connect depend a lot on how she reacts to your leaving the MLM. And throughout, your DH should have your back about all of this. If his mom disses you to him and complains to him, he should shut that down and tell her he won't listen. If he does not have your back, that is a MUCH worse issue than MIL and the MLM. Update us when and if you can. I feel bad for you. I understand the desire to connect with a relative with whom you have nothing in common and who is difficult, OP. I really hope you can get out but you need to do so in a quick, clean and total way, not backing out slowly or trickling out the fact you hate this. I hope it goes OK. |
Anonymous
So would I. |
Anonymous
OMG OP watch the documentary. This is a scam. Please do not do this. It's a literal grift. |
Anonymous
OP already feels bad about this and OP already realizes this was a mistake. Dumping s**t on her head because she's an anonymous stranger on the internet is just nastiness for its own sake. |
Anonymous
Me too. |