When do people stop inviting the whole class to birthday parties and how does that go?

[Anonymous]

We went to several whole class parties in 3rd grade.. because covid and no one had party the previous years. Do what you want for your kid OP its all good

[Anonymous]

After 2nd or 3rd grade.

[Anonymous]

Stops in 2nd grade.

[Anonymous]

This only continues in families with very uninvolved parents.

[Anonymous]

I never did this. I ask my kid who he wants to invite and he tells me. Sometimes it's only two kids. Then I invite the moms via text. My oldest son in second grade just got an all-class invite and said "Why would he invite me? We don't even play together." I think it is a nice gesture but unnecessary. And yes I am sending him to the party.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some never invite everyone. At least with our kids, whole class parties were done by third grade. It does suck for the kids left out. At least for our loner, it wasn't not getting invited that was hard it was realizing that they didn't have enough people to invite to their own party

How common is it for kids to not have enough people for a party? I assume kids without a group of close friends find a couple of kids to do smaller celebrations. I’m curious how others have navigated this scenario.

[Anonymous]

Maybe this is regional. We did one whole class party when my child was in 2nd grade bc we rented out a local pool for a flat fee.

Otherwise, we have always done parties with a handful of their friends. I would say their friends have done the same. Only a whole whole class invites here and there through the yrs and I have three kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe this is regional. We did one whole class party when my child was in 2nd grade bc we rented out a local pool for a flat fee.

Otherwise, we have always done parties with a handful of their friends. I would say their friends have done the same. Only a whole whole class invites here and there through the yrs and I have three kids.

To add, my Kindergartener is having a party soon and she is inviting 5 friends. That’s it

[Anonymous]

In my circle the whole-class parties stopped by third grade. I think the etiquette if you're not inviting the whole class is to invite less than half. Or all girls or less than half the girls, etc. Point being you don't exclude just a couple kids in the class.

[Anonymous]

We are still going strong with whole-class birthday parties in 3rd grade but I'm hoping it's just a Covid catch-up thing.

We have personally never done the whole class party. We just had our kids pick 3-6 friends (some were from school, some not). But our kids' birthdays both fall when school is not in session so that makes it easier.

[Anonymous]

My oldest is in 2nd and it seems most parties are still everyone except a few. Both are OK. You do you.