Nanny candidate told us in the interview that our job wasn’t for her.

[Anonymous]

I’m currently nanny searching and now so curious OP! Was it that one parent (or both) works from home? I’ve heard that is a dealbreaker for some nannies, which is unfortunate for those of us who work from home and aren’t crazy micromanagers, but need childcare to work.

Or I’m guessing you asked for pet care or cleaning that goes beyond washing some bottles?

Did you ask her to run personal errands?

Please share!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m currently nanny searching and now so curious OP! Was it that one parent (or both) works from home? I’ve heard that is a dealbreaker for some nannies, which is unfortunate for those of us who work from home and aren’t crazy micromanagers, but need childcare to work.

Or I’m guessing you asked for pet care or cleaning that goes beyond washing some bottles?

Did you ask her to run personal errands?

Please share!

It's possible that a WFH parent caused the rejection. Maybe the WFH parent leered at the nanny in a way that made her uncomfortable.

[Anonymous]

Dog care? Dog walking?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A lot of things parents ask for are unreasonable but I would still hold my tongue and decline in writing later. Happens all the time. It’s not my job to educate them on why I’m taking myself out of consideration and telling them in person leads to a discussion I have no interest in having.

That sounds pretty unprofessional to me. I have no issue with telling someone why I'm not interested in a position, or why it's not a good fit for me, even if it might be for someone else.

[Anonymous]

Fun guessing but WFHP or dog would have been mentioned in the phone interview.

[Anonymous]

Cat box because mom is pregnant?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Cat box because mom is pregnant?

Who would make their nanny change kitty litter? That’s disgusting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A lot of things parents ask for are unreasonable but I would still hold my tongue and decline in writing later. Happens all the time. It’s not my job to educate them on why I’m taking myself out of consideration and telling them in person leads to a discussion I have no interest in having.

That sounds pretty unprofessional to me. I have no issue with telling someone why I'm not interested in a position, or why it's not a good fit for me, even if it might be for someone else.

Oh please. My “profession” does not include educating potential employers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Cat box because mom is pregnant?

Who would make their nanny change kitty litter? That’s disgusting.

I realllly hope this is it. Come on OP grow a pair and tell us what it was!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Cat box because mom is pregnant?

Who would make their nanny change kitty litter? That’s disgusting.

Well, exactly, which would explain an abrupt departure.

[Anonymous]

To state the obvious: Whatever caused the break happened during the in-person interview at the home as they had already done a phone interview.

[Anonymous]

I’ve never decline to proceed with the employment process in the interview! I get where OP is coming from. It would just make for an awkward situation. I have pulled myself out if the running many times but always in writing long after I left.

It would feel a little insulting if a nanny candidate, holding my child in my home, did it right to my face!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve never decline to proceed with the employment process in the interview! I get where OP is coming from. It would just make for an awkward situation. I have pulled myself out if the running many times but always in writing long after I left.

It would feel a little insulting if a nanny candidate, holding my child in my home, did it right to my face!

Right, which means whatever aspect of the job that OP brought up at that moment must have been egregious, and OP realizes it. If the nanny was over reacting, OP would have said something like "All we said was that we'd like her to tidy the playroom while the baby naps."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had a phone interview with someone for our nanny position who seemed great. She came to our house for an in-person interview and we really liked her. Then, one aspect of the job wasn’t appealing to her and she told us right there in the interview while holding our baby that she was no longer interested in our job because of that one aspect. Then it was so awkward!! She had to hand us back our baby, gather her things, and leave while making really uncomfortable small talk.

Why didn’t she wait and decline the job when offered in email or on the phone?! You don’t do it during the interview in the person’s home to their face!!!

Simple: In order not to waste your time and hers.

She gave you a chance to ask questions or negotiate and you chose to be flustered and insulted.

Either that or the one thing was also a dealbreaker for OP that she wasn’t willing to negotiate.

[Anonymous]

House was too cluttered and messy.