Would you cancel a party for a runny nose?

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Anonymous wrote:I would be pissed if you didn’t warn me. My kid has had four colds since September and gave every single one to the baby. I can’t take off anymore work.

Warn all the inviters or you’re going to be hated.

Don’t go to parties if you can’t afford to catch a cold. Not being snarky but that’s just how it is. My kids got the baby sick all the time pre covid - I get it.

No! Jesus, it’s so fricking easy to warn your guests and is the polite thing to do.

Give me a break. If you take a bus, go to work, pick up groceries - you are constantly exposed to a cold. That’s part of life.

Those aren’t examples of a host of a party inviting people over to their home!! Give us all a break and learn some basic manners.

The point is that when you exit your home, there is a level of risk involved. That’s true whether you go to Chucky Cheese for a party or head to the local library.

Obviously, but again, those are not the same as being invited over to celebrate the birthday of a sick kid! It’s easily avoidable and simple manners.

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Anonymous wrote:NP here. I am honestly flabbergasted by the posters who think it’s fine to host a party knowing the guest of honor has a cold and not warning the guests. Etiquette 101 even before covid.

I would be angry if I brought my child to a birthday party and was surprised to see the birthday kid sick with anything! Luckily, three kids later, and that never happened even precovid.

Op here. Birthday child is now totally fine. I don’t know if I would have emailed/texted everyone individually but I would have let people know if child has a cold.

I recently hosted a friend and she had a lingering cough. I was annoyed she came to our home coughing.

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Anonymous wrote:OP never said the party was at her home. This could easily be at a third party venue.

So what?! That makes absolutely no difference! We’ll be interacting with the sick kid no matter where the party is held. We wouldn’t be there except to celebrate the birthday of that contagious person!

Why can’t you inform your guests and give them the option?!

Honest to God, this debate is insane.

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Anonymous wrote:OP never said the party was at her home. This could easily be at a third party venue.

So what?! That makes absolutely no difference! We’ll be interacting with the sick kid no matter where the party is held. We wouldn’t be there except to celebrate the birthday of that contagious person!

Why can’t you inform your guests and give them the option?!

Honest to God, this debate is insane.

The birthday kid is just one kid at the party. Guaranteed someone else will have a runny nose at any given time. You need to just decline invites if you're this ridiculous over a runny nose. It is insane alright, just not the way you think it is.

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Anonymous wrote:OP never said the party was at her home. This could easily be at a third party venue.

So what?! That makes absolutely no difference! We’ll be interacting with the sick kid no matter where the party is held. We wouldn’t be there except to celebrate the birthday of that contagious person!

Why can’t you inform your guests and give them the option?!

Honest to God, this debate is insane.

It matters in terms of who is preparing the food and serving it, which with colds is an issue.

A child with a runny nose isn’t necessarily sick or contagious.

Obviously a child who is actively sick or doesn’t feel well shouldn’t be going to or hosting a party but that is not what OP described.

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Anonymous wrote:OP never said the party was at her home. This could easily be at a third party venue.

So what?! That makes absolutely no difference! We’ll be interacting with the sick kid no matter where the party is held. We wouldn’t be there except to celebrate the birthday of that contagious person!

Why can’t you inform your guests and give them the option?!

Honest to God, this debate is insane.

The birthday kid is just one kid at the party. Guaranteed someone else will have a runny nose at any given time. You need to just decline invites if you're this ridiculous over a runny nose. It is insane alright, just not the way you think it is.

You are rude. No getting around it. Sorry. You do not ever invite anyone over without telling them someone in your house is sick.

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Jesus, some of you are gross.

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Anonymous wrote:I would be pissed if you didn’t warn me. My kid has had four colds since September and gave every single one to the baby. I can’t take off anymore work.

Warn all the inviters or you’re going to be hated.

JFC. Kids get colds. At least normal kids who are let out of their houses. You just need to stay home snowflake

NP are and you’re wrong an rude as hell. The HOST of a party has a known cold. The only right answer in any time is to tell the guests.

You wouldn’t expect a teacher to notify you if she had a cold, or a classmate to tell your child if he had a cold. Why would you expect notification for this (and likely the same group of kids?!). It’s a cold, not the flu.

I would expect an adult friend to notify me she had a cold before hosting me, just as I would inform her before attending a party. It’s just good manners? A lot of the time I am happy to hang out anyway because it is just a cold but sometimes there are reasons not to and it’s just polite to let others make their own calls. I don’t see why I wouldn’t model that behaviour to my kids in OP’s situation.

Do you call other parents in the class when you send your child to school with a runny nose? If not, what’s the difference?

Not comparable at all! First, I don’t send my kids to school with colds. Second, school is essential and parties are not. Third, you donot invite anyone over to your home without telling them that your child is sick!!!

You keep your child home from school for every runny nose?

YES.

Bull sh1t. Don’t believe you for a second.

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Anonymous wrote:OP never said the party was at her home. This could easily be at a third party venue.

So what?! That makes absolutely no difference! We’ll be interacting with the sick kid no matter where the party is held. We wouldn’t be there except to celebrate the birthday of that contagious person!

Why can’t you inform your guests and give them the option?!

Honest to God, this debate is insane.

The birthday kid is just one kid at the party. Guaranteed someone else will have a runny nose at any given time. You need to just decline invites if you're this ridiculous over a runny nose. It is insane alright, just not the way you think it is.

You are rude. No getting around it. Sorry. You do not ever invite anyone over without telling them someone in your house is sick.

Runny nose does not equal sick. Get over it, hypochondriac.