Au Pair dating my son's teacher

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YOUR Au Pair? YOUR child's teacher?

If no to these questions, then MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS ASSHAT.

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Anonymous wrote:Our nanny was 63 when we hired her three years ago and my widowed father-in-law fell in love with her. They’ve been an item for the last two years. It’s been lovely actually and I hope they get married!

What can you say, OP? Love is love. People get lonely.

She probably wants him for a green card.

OP here. Huh? Nanny is a member of DAR (Daughter’s of the American Revolution) and a former kindergarten teacher.

You really need to get out more, PP.

Ok op is a troll. You said au pair. Au pairs are foreign.

Oh, sweetheart, wake up. This is not OP but a poster with a nanny of three years who is about 66. NP here. It’s really not that hard to follow, PP.

What the heck?? The poster said “OP here.” Read!

OP of this comment, fool. It’s frighteningly clear. Everyone got it but you.

Typically "op" refers to the original poster of the thread. I've never seen anyway use it the way you just did. And clearly the green card reference was
To the au pair. These love stories become more dubious when someone is foreign and may want a green card.

Original Poster of a comment that goes into a thread is used all the time. And your observation about the subject pair is ugly and stupid anyway.

No it isn't, no matter how many times you come back to agree with yourself.

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Who messed up the thread. OP, is for original poster, not some poster somewhere in the middle of the thread who messed up the thread.
OP, none of your business what two grown people do.

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Also, if all you’re worried about is the impact on you and your kid — how do you think you are going to look to the school staff when they find out that you sent away the beloved teacher’s gf because you are a neurotic control freak? Let it go. At least it’s not their main teacher.

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Anonymous wrote:Our nanny was 63 when we hired her three years ago and my widowed father-in-law fell in love with her. They’ve been an item for the last two years. It’s been lovely actually and I hope they get married!

What can you say, OP? Love is love. People get lonely.

And some 63 year olds are really hot. My sister in law is a nanny in California and she teaches surfing on the weekends. Most of the dumpy moms I see around here in the DC area will never be as hot as she is.

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Anonymous wrote:Who messed up the thread. OP, is for original poster, not some poster somewhere in the middle of the thread who messed up the thread.
OP, none of your business what two grown people do.

+1. Now that PP is aware, let’s move on.

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Anonymous wrote:Our nanny was 63 when we hired her three years ago and my widowed father-in-law fell in love with her. They’ve been an item for the last two years. It’s been lovely actually and I hope they get married!

What can you say, OP? Love is love. People get lonely.

And some 63 year olds are really hot. My sister in law is a nanny in California and she teaches surfing on the weekends. Most of the dumpy moms I see around here in the DC area will never be as hot as she is.

Sweet!

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MYOB. You don’t own your au pair. Feel free to set REASONABLE boundaries, like teacher (or any other BF) can’t spend the night at your house. Otherwise, butt out. Just because you employ someone doesn’t mean you can control any and all aspects of her life. Seems so self-centered.

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Anonymous wrote:Should I say anything about
is? I know him personally as 3 of my kids have already had him as a teacher. He is a very nice man but just feels weird to me. He is also nearly 40, divorced, and she is 22.

How is her personal life any of your business? It isn't.

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The teacher has really bad judgment if he thinks it's ok to do this. If he was younger and they were closer in age, I'd have a different opinion. But a 40 yo man and a 22 yo foreign au pair doesn't sit right with me.

It doesn't pass the divide the older age in half and add 5 test for sure!

Why can't 40 yo gym teacher find some young ladies on tinder or whatever?

Just pray your AP doesn't get pregnant. (By accident or on purpose!) Happened to an AP in our cluster way back when and the AP didn't want to leave the US and ended up living with the host family and then living with the cluster leader and having the baby....oy

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Anonymous wrote:MYOB. You don’t own your au pair. Feel free to set REASONABLE boundaries, like teacher (or any other BF) can’t spend the night at your house. Otherwise, butt out. Just because you employ someone doesn’t mean you can control any and all aspects of her life. Seems so self-centered.

Teacher isn't allowed at the house period. That's crossing a line. I've had 3 au pairs and none of them would have pulled this BS.

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I've had 3 au pairs. Run run run to rematch. She can find another family in your city whose kids don't go to teacher's school.

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Anonymous wrote:No, you have no right to say anything. They are both adults and it doesn’t concern you.

When au pair pair dumps teach and teach takes it on the kid, then can I say something?

Right? I love how people us the “they’re both adults” reasoning, as I& these relationships happen in a vacuum.

Especially in this case. If OP calls her agency, the AP will be shipped away from her old man boyfriend with no say about it. Good luck to her finding a rematch in the same city.

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Anonymous wrote:The teacher has really bad judgment if he thinks it's ok to do this. If he was younger and they were closer in age, I'd have a different opinion. But a 40 yo man and a 22 yo foreign au pair doesn't sit right with me.

It doesn't pass the divide the older age in half and add 5 test for sure!

Why can't 40 yo gym teacher find some young ladies on tinder or whatever?

Just pray your AP doesn't get pregnant. (By accident or on purpose!) Happened to an AP in our cluster way back when and the AP didn't want to leave the US and ended up living with the host family and then living with the cluster leader and having the baby....oy

So I should only have a relationship if someone passes an age test? No thanks. My partner is sufficiently older so as not to pass your test, but we're quite happy together, thanks.

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Anonymous wrote:The teacher has really bad judgment if he thinks it's ok to do this. If he was younger and they were closer in age, I'd have a different opinion. But a 40 yo man and a 22 yo foreign au pair doesn't sit right with me.

It doesn't pass the divide the older age in half and add 5 test for sure!

Why can't 40 yo gym teacher find some young ladies on tinder or whatever?

Just pray your AP doesn't get pregnant. (By accident or on purpose!) Happened to an AP in our cluster way back when and the AP didn't want to leave the US and ended up living with the host family and then living with the cluster leader and having the baby....oy

So I should only have a relationship if someone passes an age test? No thanks. My partner is sufficiently older so as not to pass your test, but we're quite happy together, thanks.

No, it just indicates an "ICK" factor. Sorry, not sorry.