Why are we increasingly seeing young women on Twitter with "mom of ____" in their bio

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think a lot of it is about what you spend your time doing. Kids are time-consuming so if you want to describe activities that define your life, they are going to make the list.

I wouldn’t put anything in my Twitter bio but I think it would be weird for a parent to say something like “lawyer foodie knitter Gardner” and not add “mom” or “dad.”

Not that it’s a big deal one way or another.

A few years ago, I was nearly not hired into my present role when HR found out I had young kids. It didn’t come up in any interviews—I was on the East Coast, they phoned me at 8 pm my time from a random number and I made the mistake of picking up and there was kid background noise. HR called my future managers and warned them I had young kids.

My manager said “so does the other [male] applicant and you didn’t raise any concerns.”

So my public Internet presence doesn’t mention my kids and never has.

Was your manager a woman?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My boss has "scientist, mother, runner, she/her" in her profile. She is also a wife but obviously finds that descriptive unbecoming.

If she loves her husband, she won’t see her relationship as less important than her job or hobby.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Because being a mother is a job, and being a wife/daughter/sister/friend is not.

Being a wife is a job, and most women deserve to be fired from it.

It’s a job if you are trapped but for someone in love, it’s a prized hobby.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because kids can be a great accessory and a shield. No one feels bad for attacking a professor, a writer, but doing the same to someone's mom would be terrible.

I'll never forget that match when Serena Williams got called out for something by the ref and responded indignantly: "I am A MOTHER!"
I was going through fertility treatment at the time so I remember it very well.

[Anonymous]

I’m not on Twitter or any social media sites but it would be interesting to add every title to my profile:

wife/mother/daughter/sister/daughter-in-law/cousin/niece/aunt/friend/colleague

[Anonymous]

Because you are a mom for life and only half of ppl are wives for that long

[Anonymous]

I mean, they're tweeting about being a mom, not about being a wife. Who cares?

[Anonymous]

This is such a weird thing to comment on. I would never think anything of this. I can totally see myself mentioning my kids in a profile and not DH.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you sure they have husbands?

If these are young mothers I find a lot of them define themselves by their motherhood which is sad. Themselves as a person are not important who they are as a mother is the most important thing about their identity

Oh shut up. And get a life.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:but nothing about the husband?

It would be so tacky; this is not the 1950s. I have mom of 2 kids/scientist/native plant gardener in mine.

NP. Wow. I'm not one of the young moms on Twitter but I'd never see anyone referring to having a spouse as "tacky" or "1950s" of them. I get that you mean "We're not defined by our husbands/their careers/our being wives." All true. But it's OK to be married and to be glad you are married, and if someone wants to put that in a bio, then, fine for them. You don't have to. But it's pretty judgmental to think mentions of a spouse are old-fashioned. Would you feel the same way if the person identified as male and mentioned a husband, or female and mentioned a wife, etc.? I'm guessing not, because that would not be "1950s" of them. Would it still be tacky, PP?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Are you sure they have husbands?

If these are young mothers I find a lot of them define themselves by their motherhood which is sad. Themselves as a person are not important who they are as a mother is the most important thing about their identity

Oh shut up. And get a life.

Not the PP to whom you're responding, but clearly you've never seen posts on this site by some self-proclaimed mama bears who do seem to define themselves as mothers first and foremost, all else be damned.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:but nothing about the husband?

It would be so tacky; this is not the 1950s. I have mom of 2 kids/scientist/native plant gardener in mine.

This is such a trash thing to say and is a product of toxic feminism. If valuing your life partner with whom you spend 60 years of your life is an anachronism from the 1950s, sign me up for the time machines when they are built.

This tells me you are of an older generation. We don't worship the man, put him on a pedestal anymore and identify as a wife of someone. I've been married for 15 years and spreading my legs 3-4 times/week, despite being very enjoyable, is not an accomplishment. Raising the future generation to be valuable members of the society, making the world a better functioning place, curing people and diseases, helping the economy and/or environment, creating jobs, innovating - all these are accomplishments. Wake up and do something valuable with the rest of your life, which does not include BJs and cooking lasagna on Fridays for your 65 year old sweetie. If you think lack of male adulation means toxic femininity, I feel sorry for you. We are no longer cattle-equivalent.

wow

Well, I'd better run out and cure a disease or create some jobs, pronto.

A woman telling other women to "do something valuable with the rest of your life" is such a useful wake-up call. I'll get right on that. I think I'll start by learning to create sweepingly broad and grossly generalized judgements about what an entire gender's worth of strangers should be doing.

If I don't, well, I should just learn to moo, since I'm clearly "cattle-equivalent."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you sure they have husbands?

If these are young mothers I find a lot of them define themselves by their motherhood which is sad. Themselves as a person are not important who they are as a mother is the most important thing about their identity

Oh shut up. And get a life.

Not the PP to whom you're responding, but clearly you've never seen posts on this site by some self-proclaimed mama bears who do seem to define themselves as mothers first and foremost, all else be damned.

This is becoming increasingly prevalent. Absurd amounts of women who act like their special little snowflake child is the only hobby or interest they're allowed to have. It's not fun.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t mind “mom” because it helps be identify women like me. Like I’m not gonna have anything in common with a single, childless 23 year old.

But “wife of ____” or “husband of _____” gives off major creepy Christian vibes. The only people I know who make “spouse” a huge part of their identity are super religious and usually have crappy marriages. Like you find out H hits his wife and W is having an affair.

Fake news once again. Let me guess, liberal?

[Anonymous]

Why is being a mom 'impressive'? Like all it takes is a sperm and an egg. People have been doing it for tens of thousands of years, but somehow people believe it adds legitimacy to their points..? The phrase 'as a mom' BARF.

Also...most of you end up with kids who have awful relationships with their mom(i.e. you). Imagine thinking your entire identity was wrapped around something you failed horribly at.