can I bring my little one to older kid's playdate?

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Anonymous wrote:You people are nuts saying you can’t bring a sibling to the playground.

If you have the option, I would take the older child alone, especially if it is a first play date.

I have 3 kids. I used to have 2 boys who were exactly 2 years apart. When older one started elementary, i was the one who hosted the first play dates. I was grateful that families would invite my younger son. They didn’t have to for birthdays.

+1000. This is crazy, it is at a freaking playground. Not someone's house. Take your kid with you to the playground.

+2000. There are a lot of uptight new moms who feel like they are the playdate police on this site. It is a playground, not somebody's house. It is fine to bring your other child. Since your husband is available, bring him along too, he can help entertain the 3 year old (or invite a friend for the 3 year old).

DP, and try again. I'm a seasoned mom of three and I say leave the three year old at home. Kids want (and deserve) time to play with *their* friends, without their siblings.

I seriously don't get the issue leaving the three year old with his father. Is his father somehow unsafe? Incapable of entertaining the kid for a few hours? Good lord, people.

This, very unfair not to let the older kids play in peace! Parents who refuse to disappoint their child for any reason are not helping build any resilience.

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Anonymous wrote:First graders don't want three-year olds hanging around with them when they're with their friends. I'd also be annoyed if I were the other mom and you spent the whole time chasing after your three-year old and I spend the whole time watching the first graders. Let the three-year old do something with his dad!

There will be other kids on the playground besides the two first graders. Including other 3 yr olds. The 3 yr old doesn't need to be chased and will find something or play on or something to do. This is a complete non-issue. Bring the kid

You don't see how a three-year old that is related to the first grader is going to want to play with the first grader far more than a random three-year old on the playground?

And ok, I can't think of the last time I went to a park and the moms of the three-year olds were just sitting quietly on the bench knitting...

I have three kids. At 3, they go off and play on the playground independently. They find other kids, they go down slides, you don’t need to be “chasing” a 3 yr old on the playground. I highly doubt he will actually be all the interested in his sibling since there is a lot to do in a playground and other kids too. The 3 yr old might ask for a push on a swing, but this isn’t a a big deal nor should it alter the play date at all. You all are weird

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Anonymous wrote:Okay, my little one is not little, almost 3, and he can run and climb a bit. We are thinking to have 1:1 playdate at local playground with my friend, and they are 1st graders. The problem is that if I bring my little one, he will definitely interrupt their playdate because he is at the stage that admires and follows his brother everywhere. He may not outrun them, so he may keep chasing after them. But if I don't bring the little one and have DH keeps him at home, I feel he is miserable because I know that he would want to go to playground to play.

What do you do with younger kids (tag along or keep home) when you are doing playground playdates when there are other kids presented as well? If it is indoor playdate, I would definitely not bring him along. The other family does not have a kid of my little one's age.

Good lord NO!

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Oh I know I know! Take your older kid to the play date, and then have your perfectly capable husband take your younger child to a different playground (as there is more than one) to play

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Anonymous wrote:Oh I know I know! Take your older kid to the play date, and then have your perfectly capable husband take your younger child to a different playground (as there is more than one) to play

Yeah, take your two kids to two separate playgrounds. DCUM all time dumbest answer

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Anonymous wrote:Oh I know I know! Take your older kid to the play date, and then have your perfectly capable husband take your younger child to a different playground (as there is more than one) to play

Yeah, take your two kids to two separate playgrounds. DCUM all time dumbest answer

DP, and no, it isn’t. Thinking that a father is incapable of parenting his own effing child is the all time dumbest idea.

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Anonymous wrote:Leave him home. Let older have time with his friend.

This.

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Anonymous wrote:First graders don't want three-year olds hanging around with them when they're with their friends. I'd also be annoyed if I were the other mom and you spent the whole time chasing after your three-year old and I spend the whole time watching the first graders. Let the three-year old do something with his dad!

There will be other kids on the playground besides the two first graders. Including other 3 yr olds. The 3 yr old doesn't need to be chased and will find something or play on or something to do. This is a complete non-issue. Bring the kid

You don't see how a three-year old that is related to the first grader is going to want to play with the first grader far more than a random three-year old on the playground?

And ok, I can't think of the last time I went to a park and the moms of the three-year olds were just sitting quietly on the bench knitting...

I have three kids. At 3, they go off and play on the playground independently. They find other kids, they go down slides, you don’t need to be “chasing” a 3 yr old on the playground. I highly doubt he will actually be all the interested in his sibling since there is a lot to do in a playground and other kids too. The 3 yr old might ask for a push on a swing, but this isn’t a a big deal nor should it alter the play date at all. You all are weird

I think OP probably knows her toddler better than you do. From the first post: "The problem is that if I bring my little one, he will definitely interrupt their playdate because he is at the stage that admires and follows his brother everywhere. He may not outrun them, so he may keep chasing after them."

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Anonymous wrote:First graders don't want three-year olds hanging around with them when they're with their friends. I'd also be annoyed if I were the other mom and you spent the whole time chasing after your three-year old and I spend the whole time watching the first graders. Let the three-year old do something with his dad!

There will be other kids on the playground besides the two first graders. Including other 3 yr olds. The 3 yr old doesn't need to be chased and will find something or play on or something to do. This is a complete non-issue. Bring the kid

You don't see how a three-year old that is related to the first grader is going to want to play with the first grader far more than a random three-year old on the playground?

And ok, I can't think of the last time I went to a park and the moms of the three-year olds were just sitting quietly on the bench knitting...

I have three kids. At 3, they go off and play on the playground independently. They find other kids, they go down slides, you don’t need to be “chasing” a 3 yr old on the playground. I highly doubt he will actually be all the interested in his sibling since there is a lot to do in a playground and other kids too. The 3 yr old might ask for a push on a swing, but this isn’t a a big deal nor should it alter the play date at all. You all are weird

I think OP probably knows her toddler better than you do. From the first post: "The problem is that if I bring my little one, he will definitely interrupt their playdate because he is at the stage that admires and follows his brother everywhere. He may not outrun them, so he may keep chasing after them."

Ah, a voice of reason. Sadly, PP, the people to whom you are responding can't fathom that their 3 year old would be an issue. At all. In any way. Everyone would love to have them there. Always.