It’s too late to make that shift. The other team found new goalies. Plus, I am a single mom, and my work schedule for the next few months and my other kids’ extracurriculars are set around this team’s practice schedule. |
| I have no idea why the OP even posted this before talking to the coach. |
+1. In my experience, a lot of coaches don't seem to value good GKs nearly enough. Not sure why that is but if I were a coach and I had a talented GK, I'd do whatever I could to keep that player on my team or at least, in my club. Every team needs one and it's not easy to find good GKs especially as kids get older. |
It seems like that's how OP's child ended up in this situation -- they asked OP's child to move up because they didn't have a keeper (or a at least a good keeper). OP agreed with the understanding that her child would also get field playing time, but that hasn't really happened. On the one hand, if the kid really wants to play keeper, the situation is pretty close to ideal -- talented keeper playing with tougher/older competition and performing well. On the other hand, if the kid isn't sure they want to play keeper and wants to keep their options open, then they aren't really getting that opportunity, despite being promised field playing time. At some point, the kid will have to decide whether they want to be a keeper or not. If they do, this situation sounds pretty ideal. If not, then a new club might be in order so that OP's child can develop as a field player. U13 is pretty close to the age when clubs expect to have fully committed keepers. |
| Look, I am sympathetic to being told one thing and then it not happening. But, if your child is playing up, he's a U13 for all intents and purposes, and generally, keepers only try field play for very short times during games by that age. |
There are kids who don't play a full half of the game and if the goal keeper was getting field time in addition to playing goalie for half the game and sometimes playing the full game this would for sure make me furious with the club. |
For me, it would depend on how good he was in goal, and how good he was in the field. My kid is on a very good 2nd level team, without a goalie. I would 100% be OK with getting a really good goalie on the team, even it it meant he only played a half in goal, and most of the second half in the field, assuming he was at the same level as the other kids in the field. If he hurt the team by playing the field, that would be another story. |
I agree with this so much! DS's team had a talented GK last year but the coach was very critical of him (especially if a goal was scored). The GK's parents talked to the coach more than once but apparently he was very defensive and basically told them that he was the coach and they didn't have the right to question how he ran the team. Needless to say, they pulled their son from the team and we didn't have a full-time GK through the end of the season which obviously sucked.
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To the OP,
If your son is dedicated to playing in the goalkeeper position, let him play the full games in goal for his team, but request that the club let him guest play in the field for their lower level teams. |
This makes the most sense bravo PP. |
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Many coaches mistreat their GK players from a development standpoint and abuse them in order to win games. I saw this with my own kid, who the coach put in goal 100% of the time. My son won games for the club with his goalkeeping, and the coach would apologize for not putting my kid in the field but would say he “needed him in goal.” But then as time moved on and players got weeded out, my kid became the #2 keeper because the other GK’s foot skills were better. That GK had been on another team in the club, where the coach emphasized his overall development and not just making saves to win games for the team.
OP, bottom line is stick to your guns and listen to your son’s GK trainer. Don’t expect that your son’s coach cares about your son and his development. |
| Also, don’t assume that practice time is going to be sufficient on its own to help your GK kid develop foot skills as some pps have suggested. Especially when the coach doesn’t care about your GK kid’s foot skills development and isn’t giving any attention or feedback to him. Not to mention the countless passing/shooting drills where your kid is stuck in goal but not getting any feedback from the coach on your kid’s goalkeeping form and technique, if the coach is even qualified and capable to train keeper skills in the first place. “Nice save” is not actual coaching. 😂 |
This is true of practice time for any position. When my son (now a U15, midfielder) started playing travel, I thought that practice would be where he learned the skills he needed to succeed at soccer. But it is actually where the team learns to work together as a unit. To learn the skills he needed as an individual, we did private training and a year round futsal program. |
Very few "head" coaches are truly qualified to dispense GK training or advice.
LOL. So true! |