Toddler won't call me "mommy"
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Anonymous
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I'm a SAHM with a nearly-2 year old. His speech development has been a little slow, depending on which benchmark you use, but he's been adding a couple to a few words every week. "Daddy" was one of his first words though, which he's been saying for several months. Our pet's name too (...ouch). He won't call me "mommy" though, and it's beginning to bother me a little. He will point at me in a photo and ID me as mommy, but he will not call me it to my face. When his father and I ask him to, he looks away and doesn't say anything. If I didn't know any better, I'd say he seems to be deliberately not saying it. When he wants my attention, he just makes a generic yelling noise.
Is this common for the SAHP, to be the last one who is identified by a name? |
Anonymous
| Mommy is a dumb name. I always preferred mom. |
Anonymous
Thanks. 
You know what I mean. |
Anonymous
| He's not even 2 yet; I wouldn't put too much on anything at this point. |
Anonymous
| For whatever reason my son said dad, the dog's name and my friend's name before he got around to mom... |
Anonymous
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Yea, sometimes mama is last because they don't see you as separate from them.
Now my 4 year old wentthrough a two or three month phase of calling em by my first name. That was annoying. And then it stopped. |
Anonymous
You're missing the point. He doesn't really call her any version of mom or anything other than yell for her. Op, I was a SAHM and using any version of "mom" to call for me was definitely delayed with DS. He would say "daddy or dada" or "papa" for my parents. But it took awhile of coaching when he would yell for me of me saying "oh do you want mama?" I don't mean to say this to imply your Ds has a speech delay, but this was when he was around a year. Do you think it may be worth having him evaluated to make sure it's not something more? |
Anonymous
| I don't think my 2-year-old called me mommy until a few months ago. It definitely took a while. She had a word explosion and mommy was one of them. |
Anonymous
have a second child and he'll be calling for you nonstop 
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Anonymous
OP here. Thanks. Yes, we talked about an evaluation, but in the past month he's been adding more words to the point now where he's pretty close to normal. I know he can say it -- I've heard him -- he's just choosing not to. And to the other commenter, I thought the same thing for a while, that he doesn't see us as separate, but I would think he's moved beyond that developmental stage (of not seeing where he ends and I begin). But Lord knows I'm with him enough! And that's what kind of burns...he excitedly calls out the damn cat's name but I get nothing! |
Anonymous
No way, Jose! We are one and done! (Of course, I say all this knowing there will be a day when I recall fondly him NOT saying my name.) |
Anonymous
| My kids did not refer to me by name for a very very long time (dog's name was first, which I found cute). I am convinced that I didn't need a name since I was just part of him. |
Anonymous
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"M" and "N" is harder to say than "D", so it takes them longer. My kids said Dada way sooner than Mama. Of course, now there are days I wish they would use "Dada" a lot more frequently
Also, it has nothing to do with staying at home or not... Don't beat yourself up. |
Anonymous
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This is my day "mommymommymommymommymommymommymommymommymommy"
"what?" "mommymommymommymommymommymommymommymommymommymommymommy" "WHAT?" "mommymommymommymommymommymommymommymommymommymommymommymommy" be careful what you wish for. |
Anonymous
| Because you're always there anticipating his needs. He doesn't need to call you. |