How do YOU break the everybody's feeling underappreciated cycle?

[Anonymous]

Curious to hear how others break the negative cycle of both sides feeling like they're giving more / carrying more of the burden / are underappreciated.

[Anonymous]

Lots of "thank you for.."

Quick neck rubs.

Sex.

Lots of, "you are a great husband and father"

Doing what I consider more than my share. Because I know he is also doing that.

Not mentioning when I scrub the bathroom, do the floors, etc etc. I used to be a lot more invested in credit and him noticing.

Supporting him to others and to our kids, in front of him sometimes.

Realizing that these days and minutes are so short and numbered. So I don't want to be petty. (talked to next door neighbor last thursday in which she asked if we could get her paper. she asked if she could pay my kids to bring her paper up to her door because it is hard for her to do it right now. i asked her how long we should do this. she said she wasn't sure. i now know she knew that she only had a little while left - cancer. she passed away saturday. i am still in a state of shock.)