What does the AD want me to know...

[Anonymous]

What does it mean "you are her greatest supporter" when it said by the AD after the child's interview? My DD attends a popular public ES. She has to recommend her strong teacher recs (yes, teachers shared the recs), great grades, and high SSAT scores. Don't understand the comment. Whether she is accepted or not her achievements or not in my mind.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What does it mean "you are her greatest supporter" when it said by the AD after the child's interview? My DD attends a popular public ES. She has to recommend her strong teacher recs (yes, teachers shared the recs), great grades, and high SSAT scores. Don't understand the comment. Whether she is accepted or not her achievements or not in my mind.

I know its late.... please retype in the morning with a clearer head.

[Anonymous]

to me it implies you are a helicopter parent and that might be a bad thing from AD position. might not be the right school for your family.

what school shares the teacher recs? That would be a red flag for the AD as well.

[Anonymous]

I think it's meaningless pap from the AD. Sort of like: "We're all in this together!" ... "It's all for the best." ... "When one door closes, another opens." Don't read anything into it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it's meaningless pap from the AD. Sort of like: "We're all in this together!" ... "It's all for the best." ... "When one door closes, another opens." Don't read anything into it.

Haha -- love this, "We're all in this together!"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:to me it implies you are a helicopter parent and that might be a bad thing from AD position. might not be the right school for your family.

what school shares the teacher recs? That would be a red flag for the AD as well.

I second this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:to me it implies you are a helicopter parent and that might be a bad thing from AD position. might not be the right school for your family.

what school shares the teacher recs? That would be a red flag for the AD as well.

I second this.

And it is pretty easy to figure out which AD said this.

[Anonymous]

PP please share your guess! I'd love to know!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PP please share your guess! I'd love to know!

So would I!

[Anonymous]

OP, did you not check the box waiving the right to see the recs?

I would agree, this isn't a compliment. You might take this as a constructive criticism and examine why you might come across that way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it's meaningless pap from the AD. Sort of like: "We're all in this together!" ... "It's all for the best." ... "When one door closes, another opens." Don't read anything into it.

Haha -- love this, "We're all in this together!"

Agree. Ignore the DCUM trolls who say it implies you're a helicopter parent, they're talking out of their so-on-and-so-on. . . the comment was kind but ultimately meaningless chit-chat.

[Anonymous]

+1 for harmless and don't read into it

In fact, parents should be their child's biggest supporter - I think it comes with the job. So if anything, it's at least a nice nod to you taking an interest in your child and his/her future.

[Anonymous]

I think it signals that you may have an exaggerated view of your DC or come off as pushing too hard on her behalf. I heard from AD when DC1 applied to a competitive school that I had so accurately described DC1 in the parental description of the applicant that it was clear I really understood DC1, who was accepted. That was easy to take as positive because the way it was stated made it clear that the AD was pleased by the consonance in DC1's demeanor and her application.

For HS, DC2 was on their own for the interview after which I recieved feedback that DC2 was very engaging and aware when describing themselves and interests. Also an admit.

Saying the parent is the biggest supporter just doesn't seem like a compliment in the same way. Of course a parent is that. You would like some other support too.

[Anonymous]

I think some of these comments are rather mean spirited. I think tone of voice and demeanor tell you a lot about what the AD meant and no one on this forum knows how the phrase was delivered. I could see it being delivered as a compliment (you are an appropriately engaged and supportive parent), a meaningless chit chat how's the weather type phrase, or you are smothering your child and need to pull back. Context is everything and none of the posters have any context. I would try to relax and let things unfold as they should. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

I totally disagree with the PPs who are reading negativity into this.

Schools don't hint. They have no need to hint. All the balls are in their court. It does not serve their purpose to hint.

And let's say it is a hint that OP is a helicopter parent. So…why would a school hint this statement…if they were going to reject OP's kid, they would not hint because it's awkward. Maybe after the kid was rejected, they might say this to hint to the parent that if she backs off, her kid would fare better in the future, but this is the wrong time for that.

I think they just relax and see the hoard of kids that come through, and for them it's just one step in the process and they probably take some notes afterwards, then they (or they and others) look at the grades and scores and recs at another time.