how serious should the relationship before asking to attend out of state wedding?

[Anonymous]

A good friend is getting married out of state and I'd prefer not to attend alone, although of course I will if that's the situation. How serious should a relationship before you ask your SO to attend an out of state (non-family, it it matters) wedding? Obviously exclusive, but does 3 months sound too soon?

[Anonymous]

When is the wedding? If you've been dating for three months and the wedding is, say, six months away, that might feel like too much planning for the future.

Have you gone away overnight together yet? Probably I would want to do that first before going away on a family wedding, but that's just me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When is the wedding? If you've been dating for three months and the wedding is, say, six months away, that might feel like too much planning for the future.

Have you gone away overnight together yet? Probably I would want to do that first before going away on a family wedding, but that's just me.

Sorry- see that you said a non-family wedding. Still think I would rather go away together in a lower pressure situation first.

[Anonymous]

How many people are on the invite? Unless it says +1, then it doesn't matter- you go alone or not at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Have you gone away overnight together yet? Probably I would want to do that first before going away on a family wedding, but that's just me.

That's a really good idea, thanks.

The invitation is +1. Part of the problem is the wedding is still two months away, so it feels sort of weird to be planning for it, but we obviously have to buy plane tickets soon-ish.

[Anonymous]

Are you the guy or the girl?

Whether it's "ok" is not really the question. It is "ok".
However ~ the guy asking a girl to be his date for a wedding is hot. A girl asking a guy to be her date for a wedding - unfortunately - might scare him away.

[Anonymous]

Not that this is your situation but I've been to weddings where the plus 1 is someone you have been dating for atleast 6 months. I think the idea is that if this is someone that is really a part of your life that you really want to share in your friend's big day of course bring the person as opposed to just wanting to bring someone to bring someone.

I think 3 months is sort of soon ..you are committed to being exclusive but still figuring out if you work well in a relationship. Lots of people break up before the six month mark for whatever reason. To me it would be pressure to stay together atleast until the friend's wedding (2 months out) at a time when you should really feel no pressure to stay together and actually be evaluating if this is a good relationship that you want to stay in. Yes, it will suck if you end up staying together and it would have been more fun if he/she could have been there but presumably if you stay together there will be other weddings (maybe your own one day) and events to go to together.