YUCK - Fussy Mommy!

[Anonymous]

So I am having one of those crappy, bad mommy days... I let my kid watch TV while I showered AND got breakfast ready... this was the only way to keep him from crawling up my leg. I could let him help cook if I wasn't making eggs for hubby which DS is allergic to. So I am finally showered and ready and I am actually running a couple of minutes ahead - Holy Crap... then it took me 15 min. to get DS shoes on because he wanted to play with the broom. He started FREAKING out when I put him on my lap to put his shoes on. At one point I stood him up, stood myself up and told him, "Fine - we're not going to..." Like he cares... he is 18 months old. He would probably rather play with the broom for the next 30 minutes... but where would we be then... bored and at home... so I managed to get the shoes on while he was playing with the broom. When we were at DS's activity the thing he found most fun was running away from me and throwing himself on the floor. AHHHH - talk about not being able to control your kid in public. So we ended up leaving. Did I mention that we missed the good part of the activity because I misplaced my ATM card and had to go back to the house when realizing this. Anyways... misery loves company... any other fussy mommies out there today?

[Anonymous]

I almost had words with a rude au pair at Mr. Nick Nack--I got in for the show and it was pretty crowded and saw an open seat and asked the au pair if I could use it--she said she wasn't sure since her friend may or may not be coming--keep in mind the show is about to begin so I am not very supportive of holding seats after he starts to sing esp. if you don't know someone is going to show up but..I got an other seat and put it down near the table..which was the only free space where dd could actually see--her friend showed up about 10 minutes later and the au pair kept giving me dirty looks and speaking in some kind of danish?? language--I was this close to telling her off and saying that I didn't take the extra chair and that there was plenty of room for everyone and there was no way in heck I was moving my chair off the table--sorry it's Jammin Java and not Mortons.. But..I saw my sweet little girl bopping around to the music and I just let it pass. Did I mention that I have had little sleep because I am preparing for a big event for work.

[Anonymous]

I am so with you today. I feel like I am losing my mind. There isn't a room in my house I can walk through without tripping over the destruction left by my 3 yr old and 15 month yr old. Tried to run errands today but the constant whining and crying and complaining sent us straight back home. I have now parked the 3 yr old in front of the tv b/c if I pull out one more game/puzzle/etc. for him only to have him whine that he doesn't want to play with it after having pestered me forever to get it -- I will scream. It's days like this that I have to take a deep breath and think that they must be as irritated with me as I am with them and if we can make it to the weekend when dad can chip in all will be well. Oh, and did I mention that my husband is working late for the 4th night in a row? Sigh.

[Anonymous]

Wow, there must be a full moon out or something because I also want to bang my head on the wall and scream. I can't get anything done, my favorite bra broke and my head is pounding. I want to run out of the house far away and not come back. Oh, and the kiddies are on whining pills or something.

[Anonymous]

Ha! It must be something in the weather. I have not gotten out of the house yet! My one year old just finished his hour-long lunch, I could tell he was finished b/c the floor is now covered in cheese. I went to law school to spend three hours a day sweeping up tiny bits of food?? Then I decided to blow dry my hair for the first time in about three months but I had to stop b/c ds had to be in the bathroom with me but he won't stop climbing into the tub. DH hasn't installed the baby gates so the house is not childproofed and the constant vigilance is driving me crazy! I swear, I think Thursday is the absolute worst day of the week. And my dh is working late tonight as well! I have decided to say screw it w/ the afternoon nap because I have GOT to get out of the house!

[Anonymous]

Oh...thank you all! I thought just my day was crappy! My son totally melted down today and has been kicking and screaming for no reason.

I was happy to finally sit down and get on DC Urban Mom during his nap (he FINALLY fell asleep after another screamfest!!)

Maybe it is a full moon??

Arrrrggghhh....what a day!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Then I decided to blow dry my hair for the first time in about three months but I had to stop b/c ds had to be in the bathroom with me but he won't stop climbing into the tub.

Are you sure that was your son, because it sounds exactly like my daughter. I haven't styled my hair in weeks because when she's in the bathroom with me all she wants to do is get in the tub! In fact, one day when my back was turned she went head first right in! I'm so glad everyone has days like mine!

[Anonymous]

Love this thread. I'm a Mom to two boys, ages 3 and 1. My husband's favorite thing to ask when he walks in the door from work, "What time did Happy Hour start today?" I swear if things don't get better, it's gonna be nap time

[Anonymous]

Love this too, not because I wish bad days on anyone, but it is so honest. Sometimes I think we (myself included) can put up such a facade. My daughter also insists on climbing in the tub. Making a shower a near impossability until her nap time. I have a 4 year old and his behavior lately sounds like the others mentioned. To the point that his teacher called today saying he has not been himself, is crying, oversensitive lately, etc. I have been reading a book on 4 year olds that helps somewhat by Bates, called something like your 4 year old wild and wonderful. It gives some insight. Basically most kids are "pretty even" for 6 months and then a "mess" for 6 months from 1 year old on. This cycle is normal, although NOT fun. I also am dealing with new attachment like issues (I want mommy) at drop off and getting up in the night with bad dreams, etc. Hang in there everyone. A communal glass of wine is in order!

[Anonymous]

There is a thread on this board now called "why all the snarkiness on this board" or something like that. I told the OP that this board is more supportive and helpful than it seems and that amidst all the snarkiness there is genuine support for one another. This thread is a prime example of that. I'm the poster who's daughter fell head first into the bathtub. Currently, she has a monster of a head cold and her top 2 molars are coming in, so it's been quite a week. Thankfully, I'm going out tonight to celebrate a girlfriend's birthdday (girls night!) so I'll be raising a big glass of red wine (or two) to you all! Cheers!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Love this thread. I'm a Mom to two boys, ages 3 and 1. My husband's favorite thing to ask when he walks in the door from work, "What time did Happy Hour start today?" I swear if things don't get better, it's gonna be nap time

This could be me except my two boys are 2.5 years old and 3 months. Today was a pretty crappy day in our household and the 2.5 year old got an early nap time b/c I really just couldn't take it any longer (and DH is on a business trip so it is all me all night and all day - 3 month old still feeds every 3-4 hours at night so the days are just brutal).

All day long I've been feeling like a pretty bad mother, so I appreciate that I'm not the only one feeling down! Thanks!!!

[Anonymous]

it is really nice to read these...today was ok but yesterday morning i could not get my three year old dressed for school. he kept taking his shirt off as soon as i put it on him, then he barricaded himself in his room and told me he wasn't going to school. he said his imaginary friend would go to school instead of him. after 20 minutes of screaming every time i took him out of his room and he would run back in, i finally gave up and let him watch a video and got him dressed while he was mesmorized. we finally got out to the car and then i hit his head on the car door while i was putting him in his car seat and he got a big bump on his head and we had to go back in the house to get ice and blow his nose because he was hysterical. i think we got to school at about 10 am and i got to work at 10:30 am.

[Anonymous]

Well, it's not the weather...I am half way around the world on "vacation" in the tropics with my 3yo DD and it was quite a fussy mommy day for me too. Though not much different than other days in terms of telling her to stop this or that, to do this or that, or to just to say no, I had enough by evening and blew up at her! I handed her over to DH for the next couple of hours and brewed in my own self-pity. Later, she asked if Mommy was mad at her in the market and in the car and then told me sh e does not like it when I am mad! Hmm, neither do I...I guess we all have to remember that they are typical 18 mo, 1 yo, 2 yo, 3 yo, or 4 yo, and be thankful that they can actually do all things that drive us nuts!

Hoping for a better tomorrow...

[Anonymous]

Thanks ladies... I am the OP and it is great to know I am not alone. Today was much better. Here is to hoping for your tomorrows

[Anonymous]

You are certainly not alone. The last few days were good for us, but it isn't often that we have two really good days in a row. I hate to get to the point of yelling, and hate repeating myself. A couple of weeks ago I lost my voice, and I am certain it was from telling my kids (repeatedly) to put their things away, not to shave the dog, not to climb the walls, or eat sugar directly out of the bowl. While, those may be a bit of an exaggeration, it's not really that big of one. We don't have a sugar bowl.

We never get past the rough stage, because some new stage or phase quickly follows. I make it though by reminding myself that children push their limits, to see where their boundaries truly are. If I give in, I am doing them a disservice. It's hard, but someone has to do it.

Hang in there ladies. People keep promising that it gets easier, and I am just holding on to that promise. So I will give you the promise as well. It will get easier, though maybe for only a couple of days at a time.