Transgender issue/Kissing Cousins
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Anonymous
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Here's the situation.
Two cousins, girls, ages 10 to 12 ish. We'll call them Jackie and Jill. Best friends. See each other once a week usually. Jackie is "tomboyish" to the point that she sometimes expresses a wish to be a boy instead of a girl. Jackie is also on the autism spectrum and doesn't have many friends/is often bulled. The two best friends recently confessed to each other that they have romantic feelings for each other. A number of parents in my suburban community tell me that the new "thing" for tweens is having a "girlfriend" which is sort of quasi-romantic but not sexual. Jill has changed her mind. She has decided she is not romantically attracted to Jackie and wants her cousin to stop being romantic towards Jill. Jill is afraid to tell Jackie about her change of heart because she doesn't want to hurt Jackie's feelings. Jackie's comments and behavior are making Jilll uncomfortable. So this is a mess of kissing cousins, transgender issues, in-laws and ex-laws, special needs, (possibly) precocious sexual behavior, etc. Although no actual sexual contact has, reportedly, occurred. Jill and parents are seeing a counselor for guidance on how to help Jill maintain her boundaries and communicate her feelings with sensativity to her cousin. Jill has her own emotional problems although the do not relate to LGBT issues. Meanwhile, anyone have any thoughts on how the heck to handle this? |
Anonymous
| I'll bite. First cousins do not have romantic relationships. Period. |
Anonymous
| This story if true has nothing - nothing! - to do with whether one person is transgender or gay. First cousins should not be in a romantic relationship period! |
Anonymous
in some states, they can marry. |
Anonymous
It's legal in 25 states, including Maryland and Virginia, as well as in the District of Columbia. |
Anonymous
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Everything else aside, this is about consent.
Jill needs help to have tools to be bold enough to refuse to consent to a romantic relationship she does not want. Jackie needs to understand that even if it hurts her feelings, a no is a no. She may also need some help in reading between the lines and understanding "enthusiastic consent" versus simple capitulation or passive resistance. |
Anonymous
| Please let this made-up thread die |
Anonymous
| What happened to the other trans thread? |
Anonymous
| How is this a transgender issue? |
Anonymous
I had a romantic relationship with a first cousin. It happens, sometimes. Comma, not period. (In our case, parentheses, too, since we knew people would be slightly skeeved out and so we kept it secret.) In my case, it was a cousin I had never met until I was 19 and he was 22. Instant attraction. It lasted a month while I was in his country visiting our grandmother. We lived in separate countries and he was not as into me as I was into him, or it could have been a problem! I heard secondhand through another cousin that a different set of first cousins in our family also had a long-term relationship of a couple of years duration. My father had over a dozen siblings who emigrated to Canada, the United States, Australia, and England from our home country, so many of us first cousins never knew each other until we returned to our parents' home country to visit grandparents as adults, which is how I met and fell for my cousin. Anyway, it's not that big a deal, genetically, which is why it's legal in lots of places. I understand the taboo though! |
Anonymous
One of the children involved may be transgender. |
Anonymous
"I wish I were a boy" does not make you transgender. Neither does being a tomboy. |
Anonymous
The moderator police must not have liked it. They also took away the Asians suck at driving thread. Not sure how a transgender incest thread, that is obviously made up by a troll, keeps rolling along. |
Anonymous
Child wants a sex change operation. My only reason for mentioning is that we adults want to be extra sensitive to my niece's feelings given her autism plus trans identity struggle. We are not sure how serious she may be yet. |
Anonymous
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Children want a lot of things: ponies, all the video games ever created, ice cream for dinner.
This is nuts. |