Friend drinking to deal with parents death and losing it

[Anonymous]

A dear friend of mine lost his father 2 years ago and his mother this summer. Since then he quit his job, has for the most part abandoned his new wife and drinks from sun up to sun down. His family and close friends are at a loss as to what to do - an intervention? try to get him in rehab? how do we talk to him about it? He has anger issues when he drinks and so now is angry most of the time It's a horrible, sad situation.

[Anonymous]

I would contact an addiction specialist or someone that can help you and the loved ones navigate an intervention. You can also start attending al-anon meetings to help you deal with this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would contact an addiction specialist or someone that can help you and the loved ones navigate an intervention. You can also start attending al-anon meetings to help you deal with this.

Best advice you're going to get. Do what you can for him based on advice from people who know addiction but also take care of yourself. Don't enable. Good luck, op. My brother just died of alcoholism. It's hard to watch someone go through that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would contact an addiction specialist or someone that can help you and the loved ones navigate an intervention. You can also start attending al-anon meetings to help you deal with this.

Best advice you're going to get. Do what you can for him based on advice from people who know addiction but also take care of yourself. Don't enable. Good luck, op. My brother just died of alcoholism. It's hard to watch someone go through that.

I'm sorry for your loss, PP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would contact an addiction specialist or someone that can help you and the loved ones navigate an intervention. You can also start attending al-anon meetings to help you deal with this.

Best advice you're going to get. Do what you can for him based on advice from people who know addiction but also take care of yourself. Don't enable. Good luck, op. My brother just died of alcoholism. It's hard to watch someone go through that.

I'm so sorry for your loss, it's awful to watch someone choose this path. Thank you for the advice on al-anon! I think I will start attending and talk to his wife about it too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A dear friend of mine lost his father 2 years ago and his mother this summer. Since then he quit his job, has for the most part abandoned his new wife and drinks from sun up to sun down. His family and close friends are at a loss as to what to do - an intervention? try to get him in rehab? how do we talk to him about it? He has anger issues when he drinks and so now is angry most of the time It's a horrible, sad situation.

Sounds awful. Maybe he's trying to join them in the grave.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would contact an addiction specialist or someone that can help you and the loved ones navigate an intervention. You can also start attending al-anon meetings to help you deal with this.

Best advice you're going to get. Do what you can for him based on advice from people who know addiction but also take care of yourself. Don't enable. Good luck, op. My brother just died of alcoholism. It's hard to watch someone go through that.

I'm so sorry for your loss, it's awful to watch someone choose this path. Thank you for the advice on al-anon! I think I will start attending and talk to his wife about it too.

People don't "choose" addiction. Bad word choice. Maybe better to say "take this path."

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would contact an addiction specialist or someone that can help you and the loved ones navigate an intervention. You can also start attending al-anon meetings to help you deal with this.

Best advice you're going to get. Do what you can for him based on advice from people who know addiction but also take care of yourself. Don't enable. Good luck, op. My brother just died of alcoholism. It's hard to watch someone go through that.

I'm so sorry for your loss, it's awful to watch someone choose this path. Thank you for the advice on al-anon! I think I will start attending and talk to his wife about it too.

People don't "choose" addiction. Bad word choice. Maybe better to say "take this path."

Thanks - true

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would contact an addiction specialist or someone that can help you and the loved ones navigate an intervention. You can also start attending al-anon meetings to help you deal with this.

Best advice you're going to get. Do what you can for him based on advice from people who know addiction but also take care of yourself. Don't enable. Good luck, op. My brother just died of alcoholism. It's hard to watch someone go through that.

I'm so sorry for your loss, it's awful to watch someone choose this path. Thank you for the advice on al-anon! I think I will start attending and talk to his wife about it too.

People don't "choose" addiction. Bad word choice. Maybe better to say "take this path."

5:14 again. Thanks, folks, for your nice comments about my brother's death. I'm still working through that and have been attending Al-Anon in order to get some support and to work through my anger at him. He died 10 days after leaving his second rehab and we found out after the fact that he had stopped at the liquor store on his first day back home. But I think this distinction between "choosing" and "taking" this path is a good one. My brother was in chronic pain and couldn't work and basically wanted to die. I wanted him to go to meetings and get a sponsor and realize that he could still do a lot of good in the world through volunteering but he couldn't see beyond his despair. It felt like he rejected everything I offered him but in the end I think he just couldn't help himself and I'm trying to come to terms with that. Anyway, be aware, OP, that even if you get your friend to go to rehab, it may not help him. But certainly working with an addiction specialist should help his family learn how to take care of themselves even as they are dealing with your friend. Hope things work out for everyone!