Shaking uncontrollably...cheating

[Anonymous]

After 3 months of trying to figure out what happened in my last relationship (ended very suddenly) I finally figured it out. He cheated on me while on work trip with his ex. I started shaking (cold) uncontrollably. It should bring me closure and it does, but I feel so violated. So sick. I cared so much for this person and he was so awful to me. I don't have the words. I've been cheated on before but it never gets easier to deal with.

[Anonymous]

I'm really sorry OP

[Anonymous]

So sorry OP

[Anonymous]

Thank you PPs.

I am sad despite the fact that I have closure. What an awful truth.

[Anonymous]

I am very sorry too, OP.

[Anonymous]

Therapy will help one day (not today). PP, immediately volunteer at a dog shelter and get puppy cuddles. It will console you and soothe you more than getting drunk, crying with female friends or seeing a therapist - though you should do all the latter three as well!

Dogs first. Trust me. I've been cheated on and I swear it was my dog who kept me sane in the first few days of that awful, awful revelation. I literally kept him in my bed or on the couch with me and sobbed wildly into his coat and he just lay there and let me. And licked my tears off after.

Getting that kind of unconditional love from a dog who thinks you're the best thing ever is what you need.

[Anonymous]

You weren't even married. Move on!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You weren't even married. Move on!

You don't have to be married to love someone and feel betrayed.

So sorry, OP. At least you found out what he is capable of before it got more complicated (marriage, kids). Someday you will find someone who treats you better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You weren't even married. Move on!

I hope you get cheated on. Many times. What a jerk!

[Anonymous]

Therapy to learn why you are repeatedly attracted to men who mistreat you.

[Anonymous]

This crappy world drives smart people to God. We just can't shake the belief that the world can and will satisfy us. It can't and it won't .

[Anonymous]

I agree OP. It IS most certainly an awful truth, perhaps one of the most awful truths that exist.

I can sit here and tell you what a jerk he is, how you are much better off without his loser ass and how he will just do the same exact thing to her in the future, but I know that nothing I or anyone else will say at this time will heal your broken heart.

What you are experiencing now is deep betrayal, grief and severe loss. A huge trust has been broken along with your heart and to get it all back will take some time.

I am truly sorry for your pain and I have been there many times before.

While it hurts like hell right now and you cannot imagine a day where you will ever feel like yourself again, know that you WILL someday. And not only that, but you will be so much more stronger then than you were before because of what you are enduring now.

It really is true: ------> Indeed, what doesn't kill you does make you much stronger.

Also, Karma never ever forgets a soul.

(((( Hugs ))))

[Anonymous]

How long were you in a relationship with this man?