How do I tolerate my husbands whack job sister and kids- and be good sport
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No family, including mine is perfect... Got that. But my husbands adopted sister and her kids are really hard to tolerate. She is a way over top religious woman--- who honestly is dumber than a box of rocks. She is sweet .... She'll talk about going to Europe yet has never been to any states but California and Texas! She has had her electric turned off more times than anyone I know, yet bought a used BMW. She has not a dollar saved and is 50 something years old. I know she can't help it--- I can tolerate her. But her kids are crazy. Total white trash--- none finished high school-- they are all from 25-30 yrs old and still live with their mom. One models "lingerie"... The other two don't work. One has new baby-- also had husbands mother co-sign on car loan, which was reposted last month--- dinging mother-in-laws credit (yes we have since talked to MIL about never giving money or signing for these kids).
My husband and I are college educated, live on east coast- professionals-- so you can imagine who much we have to talk to about with these folks. My husbands mom makes the families all get together when we go visit her at Xmas- which I understand. But I find it so hard to be around them. My husbands mom even fights with them the whole time we are there..... Which makes it even worse! How do I talk myself up to be a nice person and good sport???? We have to be with them for 4 days. |
Anonymous
| I stopped at "adopted." Why is that relevant? If you liked her you probably wouldn't have even mentioned it. Not perfect indeed. |
Anonymous
| She's a misfit- that's why |
Anonymous
| It's once a year. Get over yourself. Geez. |
Anonymous
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You sound so contemptuous and mean I can't have sympathy for you, OP. Is it this woman's fault that she is less intelligent than you are and dreams of going to Europe? Poor woman. I have a cognitively-disabled aunt and she suffered a lot at the hands of her siblings and parents. The big question is whether you wish to support her in her old age. You will have to decide this with your husband. For now, just smile and make small talk. |
Anonymous
| Congrats...you are better than her. Perhaps you can find it somewhere in your superior self to get over it. |
Anonymous
Yep, this !! |
Anonymous
| Hey, look at like this, at least she is not an insufferable ass, like you. |
Anonymous
+1 The distinction is very telling about you, OP. |
Anonymous
| OP, you are a horrible person, judgmental to the Nth degree. |
Anonymous
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Oh, c'mon, the situation the OP is describing has got to be weird and uncomfortable. How about some practical tips for her?
I would say to find little things to look forward to, little ways to escape here and there by taking a nap or running and errand, and thinking of this as something you do for your DH. |
Anonymous
| Fucking snob. Stay home then. I know I wouldn't want YOU at my house. |
Anonymous
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OP, I totally get it. I have similar in laws. It is very hard for me to go visit and we only go once a year. SIL is very religious too. Her kids are under 18, DH and I are hopeful the kids get a college degree so they can make a better life for themselves and break away from their mom. SIl can't keep a job, has been on welfare, does not value education, can't handle money, etc...
I joke with DH how he turned out so great and his siblings are nothing like him. I lucked out with my DH, still can't believe he is related to those clowns! Good luck and hang in there! |
Anonymous
I so hope your kids look down on you. That would be funny. |
Anonymous
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You and your husband are allegedly "educated," yet you write like a 14 year old?
OP, I think you got robbed. You could also use a mirror. |