Bennifer Revisited

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:she doesn't seem like a messy or troubled person?

FFS. You aren't paying attention at all

Chick has 3 failed marriages, 2 more broken engagements and multiple troubled exes (Diddy and Affleck, while talented rich men, are TROUBLED)

and watching a woman go back to an ex a week after a broken engagement is not exactly screaming mental stability

Marriage 1 and 2 were when she was very young and about a year old each. Not serious marriages or commitments. Who knows the how and why.

Arguably her longest most mature and real marriage was with Marc Anthony. That lasted almost 10 years.

She is rich and doesn't need to stay married if it no longer suits her purpose. How is having a few failed commitments that did not have messy endings worse than Ben Affleck who also has dated many people and blew up his one marriage through continuous cheating, drinking and drug issues??

I was responding only to a statement above about her specifically

I am in no way letting BA off the hook, trust me.

I do find your statement about marriages not counting disturbing. I mean, I know lots of people view marriage that way with the divorce rate in this country, but that is messed up. She was in her 20s/30s - old enough to know better.

[Anonymous]

NP. I hope they can make it work, as I liked them together before. That doesn't preclude me from seeing red flags of course, and if I was friends with them I'd say to take it slow. You can't just go back to the point where they were engaged back in 2003. She is a bit vain for my taste at this point in her life - she seemed less so back then, but maybe she was then too. The constant selfies are weird. And yes she looks amazing, but it isn't age defying, it's surgery. All that aside, she takes amazing care of herself and looks fab. He doesn't look as great as he used to, but he's been through hell, and much of that self inflicted, but I have compassion for his addictions.

I think they have an intense connection, and can maybe make a go of it. Her focus on fitness may clash with his smoking, but I am guessing his smoking is a release so that he doesn't slide back into alcohol. I could see that becoming a point of friction if they don't compromise.

I am rooting for them, but it's not like I see them purely as two amazing successful people like PP painted. They are both gifted, talented and also deeply flawed. That doesn't make them undeserving of love, but it also doesn't make them immune from skepticism. I hope they can make this work if it's real.

My only thing is whether there is a huge PR machine involved here. If so, that's kind of gross.

[Anonymous]

Does anyone else remember Ben Affleck's glorious hair and beard from Argo?

Quick reminder:


I just rewatched this movie a few weeks ago and got a tiny crush because of hair and beard. Don't get me wrong, the drinking, the booze, the gambling are all not for me (though the Dunkin is right up my alley heyho!). But that entire hair situation was amazing. And his family hated it! An article at the time:

The 40-year-old actor - who has children Violet, six, Seraphina, three, and seven-month-old Samuel with wife Jennifer Garner - sported facial hair for his role as CIA specialist Tony Mendez in 'Argo' and he admits his new look didn't go down well at home.

He said: "My family unanimously hated the look. There was a united front and my littlest daughter said, 'Can't you shave your prickles. ' I said, 'I have to wear this for work.'

"My daughter said, 'What kind of work would want you to look like this?'"

Ben admitted he had mixed feelings about his beard, finding it "cool" some days but worrying he looked like Bee Gees star Barry Gibb at other moments.

He said: "Sometimes it looked cool like Kurt Russell in one those early '80s movies, but sometimes I looked like Barry Gibb.

"The hair and the beard were no joke. There were definitely some mornings when I thought, 'Can't Tony just get a haircut?'

"I know my hair didn't impress anybody. You know, you can't cheat. You've got to do it right. While nobody says they thought it looked great, nobody says they didn't think it was realistic, either." https://www.irishcentral.com/opinion/amyandrews/ben-afflecks-family-hated-his-beard-for-his-argo-role-video-173477351-238153181

WHAT DO YOU MEAN NOBODY SAYS THEY THOUGHT IT LOOKED GREAT???! This is the best hair and beard combo of all time. Bring it back, Ben! I feel like Jen would like it.

That is all.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So funny this thread. All these suburban harpies calling two hugely talented, gorgeous multi-millionaires "pathetic"

Sure, just put it on repeat, someone will listen...

Much has been said about the unhappiness of white suburban soccer moms. This thread is full of evidence of that. Only sad, insecure and unhappy women criticize and put down other women. They are jealous.

And the woman in question here is Jennifer Lopez. She is a world famous super star with an extremely successful singing, dancing and acting career in addition to multiple successful business ventures. She reportedly is worth 150 million. Completely self made!

She is a world renown beauty who seems to defy the hands of time and continue to inspire and awe with her gorgeous good looks. Even post menopause, she has a string of successful handsome men lining up to take her away on trips, wine and dine, date and marry her. She has been proposed to 5 TIMES!

Despite her extremely busy working life, she managed to have two beautiful and healthy children who she has the resources and the connections to give the world to!

She is hard working, put together and someone who isn't just living but THRIVING in her life.

So yes, if she at 50 is having hot hot sex with her ex, who also happens to be an equally successful Hollywood actor/writer/producer and decidedly very handsome.

So yes, you all DCUMs sitting in your lame suburban homes and in your sexless marriages to 150k a year Joe Smhoes, say what you will about Jennifer Lopez. She wins at life. and you dont!

We noted that your emphasis is on J L and not her kids (beautiful and healthy aren't the most important areas). You are correct that she seems to be succeeding re her true priorities. Ben is similar in that they both expect others to carry the parenting load.

How is two mega successful and career driven people using childcare unusual or worth reproach?

What do you expect Jennifer to do? She should have given up her God given talents and drive to succeed professionally to marry some Joe Schmoe and have his babies and play suzie homemaker? Because doing EXACTLY that turned out SO well for Jennifer Garner. All that focus on being wifey and popping out babies still lead her to be alone and single in middle age!

Jennifer did what every working woman does. She outsources child care. Given her vast amount of resources, her children are very well cared for and loved. Jennifer does not seem like a messy or troubled person. I am sure she is a wonderful mother who gives her children the appropriate love and care she sees fit.

Yes, plenty of men and women work and outsource some of the childcare. No, devoted parents do not bring in a live-in "fiance" to whom the kids get emotionally attached and then go off for sex with an ex boyfriend within a few days, leaving the kids to fend for themselves emotionally. Again, it's all about priorities.

She was dating him seriously for over 4 years. Why wouldn't he or his children be introduced to hers? Seems pretty standard to me. We also know Jennifer and Alex were in the rocks and breaking up/broken up for a while before the split was announced publicly. The children likely had a heads up and there is no evidence she left them alone the day after their breakup.

Any break up is sad. Its very mean to be cruel to someone who has had difficulty finding love.

You are downplaying their relationship. The kids weren't merely introduced to Alex. He lived with them; they were going to get married, remember? Then she takes off for days with an ex. That's not the way mature, stable adults with children go about finding love and demonstrating commitment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NP. I hope they can make it work, as I liked them together before. That doesn't preclude me from seeing red flags of course, and if I was friends with them I'd say to take it slow. You can't just go back to the point where they were engaged back in 2003. She is a bit vain for my taste at this point in her life - she seemed less so back then, but maybe she was then too. The constant selfies are weird. And yes she looks amazing, but it isn't age defying, it's surgery. All that aside, she takes amazing care of herself and looks fab. He doesn't look as great as he used to, but he's been through hell, and much of that self inflicted, but I have compassion for his addictions.

I think they have an intense connection, and can maybe make a go of it. Her focus on fitness may clash with his smoking, but I am guessing his smoking is a release so that he doesn't slide back into alcohol. I could see that becoming a point of friction if they don't compromise.

I am rooting for them, but it's not like I see them purely as two amazing successful people like PP painted. They are both gifted, talented and also deeply flawed. That doesn't make them undeserving of love, but it also doesn't make them immune from skepticism. I hope they can make this work if it's real.

My only thing is whether there is a huge PR machine involved here. If so, that's kind of gross.

PP. I am not at all implying they are perfect. They providing a counter narrative as the previous one on this thread has been that Jennifer Lopez is mentally ill or a bad person.

Look I do not know either of them. But based on public perception, and what Jennifer has said in interviews, she tends to be a bit love-sick and can be impulsive. Her marriages tell me she wants to settle down but due to her "creative person's impulsivity" she gets too deep too soon and takes the big jump. She isn't perfect. She has spoken at length about how in love with Ben she was back in the day and how it was the media attention and the unflattering narratives at the time that drove them apart. For her, this rekindling, may be again the same thing. She may be looking for the real deal.

I am more cautious about his intentions. He has proven through his trainwreck end of his marriage that he cannot handle himself in intimate relationships. We do not know what phase of his addiction issues he is currently grappling with. I do hope he has good intentions and isn't just taking her for a quick spin.

If they are both down to have just hot sex with an ex, its all cool.

But he is messy and...I don't trust him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NP. I hope they can make it work, as I liked them together before. That doesn't preclude me from seeing red flags of course, and if I was friends with them I'd say to take it slow. You can't just go back to the point where they were engaged back in 2003. She is a bit vain for my taste at this point in her life - she seemed less so back then, but maybe she was then too. The constant selfies are weird. And yes she looks amazing, but it isn't age defying, it's surgery. All that aside, she takes amazing care of herself and looks fab. He doesn't look as great as he used to, but he's been through hell, and much of that self inflicted, but I have compassion for his addictions.

I think they have an intense connection, and can maybe make a go of it. Her focus on fitness may clash with his smoking, but I am guessing his smoking is a release so that he doesn't slide back into alcohol. I could see that becoming a point of friction if they don't compromise.

I am rooting for them, but it's not like I see them purely as two amazing successful people like PP painted. They are both gifted, talented and also deeply flawed. That doesn't make them undeserving of love, but it also doesn't make them immune from skepticism. I hope they can make this work if it's real.

My only thing is whether there is a huge PR machine involved here. If so, that's kind of gross.

PP. I am not at all implying they are perfect. They providing a counter narrative as the previous one on this thread has been that Jennifer Lopez is mentally ill or a bad person.

Look I do not know either of them. But based on public perception, and what Jennifer has said in interviews, she tends to be a bit love-sick and can be impulsive. Her marriages tell me she wants to settle down but due to her "creative person's impulsivity" she gets too deep too soon and takes the big jump. She isn't perfect. She has spoken at length about how in love with Ben she was back in the day and how it was the media attention and the unflattering narratives at the time that drove them apart. For her, this rekindling, may be again the same thing. She may be looking for the real deal.

I am more cautious about his intentions. He has proven through his trainwreck end of his marriage that he cannot handle himself in intimate relationships. We do not know what phase of his addiction issues he is currently grappling with. I do hope he has good intentions and isn't just taking her for a quick spin.

If they are both down to have just hot sex with an ex, its all cool.

But he is messy and...I don't trust him.

Yes, I definitely don't think JLo is a bad person. I think she loves her kids, and they seem pretty happy and adjusted from what I can tell. Max is adorbs. She also isn't oversexualizing her daughter, so that's a big plus in my book. Jennifer has her own insecurities, and I agree that love is her kryptonite. She wants it so bad. I think Ben really has a lifelong struggle on his hands, and I hope he can keep it together. Jennifer may be good for him in that way - perhaps like Robert Downey Jr's wife who is super disciplined and didn't have time for the bs, and it's helped him stay clean. Who knows, but yes, even if it's just hot sex, that's cool too.

No matter what, it's clear that Ben has been the guy who she adored the most. I just hope he is actually reciprocating.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NP. I hope they can make it work, as I liked them together before. That doesn't preclude me from seeing red flags of course, and if I was friends with them I'd say to take it slow. You can't just go back to the point where they were engaged back in 2003. She is a bit vain for my taste at this point in her life - she seemed less so back then, but maybe she was then too. The constant selfies are weird. And yes she looks amazing, but it isn't age defying, it's surgery. All that aside, she takes amazing care of herself and looks fab. He doesn't look as great as he used to, but he's been through hell, and much of that self inflicted, but I have compassion for his addictions.

I think they have an intense connection, and can maybe make a go of it. Her focus on fitness may clash with his smoking, but I am guessing his smoking is a release so that he doesn't slide back into alcohol. I could see that becoming a point of friction if they don't compromise.

I am rooting for them, but it's not like I see them purely as two amazing successful people like PP painted. They are both gifted, talented and also deeply flawed. That doesn't make them undeserving of love, but it also doesn't make them immune from skepticism. I hope they can make this work if it's real.

My only thing is whether there is a huge PR machine involved here. If so, that's kind of gross.

PP. I am not at all implying they are perfect. They providing a counter narrative as the previous one on this thread has been that Jennifer Lopez is mentally ill or a bad person.

Look I do not know either of them. But based on public perception, and what Jennifer has said in interviews, she tends to be a bit love-sick and can be impulsive. Her marriages tell me she wants to settle down but due to her "creative person's impulsivity" she gets too deep too soon and takes the big jump. She isn't perfect. She has spoken at length about how in love with Ben she was back in the day and how it was the media attention and the unflattering narratives at the time that drove them apart. For her, this rekindling, may be again the same thing. She may be looking for the real deal.

I am more cautious about his intentions. He has proven through his trainwreck end of his marriage that he cannot handle himself in intimate relationships. We do not know what phase of his addiction issues he is currently grappling with. I do hope he has good intentions and isn't just taking her for a quick spin.

If they are both down to have just hot sex with an ex, its all cool.

But he is messy and...I don't trust him.

Yes, I definitely don't think JLo is a bad person. I think she loves her kids, and they seem pretty happy and adjusted from what I can tell. Max is adorbs. She also isn't oversexualizing her daughter, so that's a big plus in my book. Jennifer has her own insecurities, and I agree that love is her kryptonite. She wants it so bad. I think Ben really has a lifelong struggle on his hands, and I hope he can keep it together. Jennifer may be good for him in that way - perhaps like Robert Downey Jr's wife who is super disciplined and didn't have time for the bs, and it's helped him stay clean. Who knows, but yes, even if it's just hot sex, that's cool too.

No matter what, it's clear that Ben has been the guy who she adored the most. I just hope he is actually reciprocating.

Yes, it seems that Jennifer's issues are impulsivity, love-sickness and insecurity. She has spoken in interviews and her book that she has grappled with deep insecurity throughout her life and she seeks to fill that hole through men. She keeps saying she is doing the work and better now but seems to fall into the same patterns. I guess she derives self worth from adoration from the men in her life. This would explain why she can't handle being alone between relationships.

Ben's issues seem a lot more malignant. He is a toxic, self destructive person with addition issues. Even Gwyneth Paltrow referenced his personality issues way back in their twenties. Its no surprise in hindsight that he crashed and burned in spectacular fashion pretty quickly. Poor Jennifer Garner probably had to put up with a lot during their time together.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:she doesn't seem like a messy or troubled person?

FFS. You aren't paying attention at all

Chick has 3 failed marriages, 2 more broken engagements and multiple troubled exes (Diddy and Affleck, while talented rich men, are TROUBLED)

and watching a woman go back to an ex a week after a broken engagement is not exactly screaming mental stability

Marriage 1 and 2 were when she was very young and about a year old each. Not serious marriages or commitments. Who knows the how and why.

Arguably her longest most mature and real marriage was with Marc Anthony. That lasted almost 10 years.

She is rich and doesn't need to stay married if it no longer suits her purpose. How is having a few failed commitments that did not have messy endings worse than Ben Affleck who also has dated many people and blew up his one marriage through continuous cheating, drinking and drug issues??

Isn't marriage, by definition, a serious commitment??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:she doesn't seem like a messy or troubled person?

FFS. You aren't paying attention at all

Chick has 3 failed marriages, 2 more broken engagements and multiple troubled exes (Diddy and Affleck, while talented rich men, are TROUBLED)

and watching a woman go back to an ex a week after a broken engagement is not exactly screaming mental stability

Marriage 1 and 2 were when she was very young and about a year old each. Not serious marriages or commitments. Who knows the how and why.

Arguably her longest most mature and real marriage was with Marc Anthony. That lasted almost 10 years.

She is rich and doesn't need to stay married if it no longer suits her purpose. How is having a few failed commitments that did not have messy endings worse than Ben Affleck who also has dated many people and blew up his one marriage through continuous cheating, drinking and drug issues??

Isn't marriage, by definition, a serious commitment??

thank you! Glad I wasn't the only one who thought "WTF?" reading that comment.

[Anonymous]

Its a good boink fest. They are not going to marry each other or have kids. They are just being FWB. He is still a White Boston Boy who is not gonna be with the Latina. She is still the person who does not want an alchoholic person in her life. He is toxic and flawed. She is only human but a good mom. He is an addict. But, good BOINK fest.

He smokes. She cannot stand it. This is not permanent. But, it is a great slap on A-Rod's face.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Diddy is trolling. He posted this today.

https://www.instagram.com/p/CPYlPgHH0As/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link

This was predicted in a Blind. https://blindgossip.com/the-competition/

These things are just nonsense, you know that right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Its a good boink fest. They are not going to marry each other or have kids. They are just being FWB. He is still a White Boston Boy who is not gonna be with the Latina. She is still the person who does not want an alchoholic person in her life. He is toxic and flawed. She is only human but a good mom. He is an addict. But, good BOINK fest.

He smokes. She cannot stand it. This is not permanent. But, it is a great slap on A-Rod's face.

His dad was an alcoholic janitor. He doesn’t have a leg to stand on regarding snobbishness towards Jennifer Lopez.

[Anonymous]

Brennifer 1.0 was a total shame. My mom hit on the head. The relationship was to promote their movie. The more you see of a couple the worst the movie is and once the movie is out the relationship will be over. She was right.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Its a good boink fest. They are not going to marry each other or have kids. They are just being FWB. He is still a White Boston Boy who is not gonna be with the Latina. She is still the person who does not want an alchoholic person in her life. He is toxic and flawed. She is only human but a good mom. He is an addict. But, good BOINK fest.

He smokes. She cannot stand it. This is not permanent. But, it is a great slap on A-Rod's face.

Yes, if that's what's important---giving a big slap to your ex live-in at the expense of your kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Its a good boink fest. They are not going to marry each other or have kids. They are just being FWB. He is still a White Boston Boy who is not gonna be with the Latina. She is still the person who does not want an alchoholic person in her life. He is toxic and flawed. She is only human but a good mom. He is an addict. But, good BOINK fest.

He smokes. She cannot stand it. This is not permanent. But, it is a great slap on A-Rod's face.

His dad was an alcoholic janitor. He doesn’t have a leg to stand on regarding snobbishness towards Jennifer Lopez.

Why are you putting down janitors?