s/o - How much should a DH who WOH earn?

[Anonymous]

What is the expectation of how much a DH should earn in this area? Is it 100K? 200K? 300K? Is it the amount needed to actually support the family on one income? Is anyone earning less than that amount should not have married and had a family? Are they considered abject failures?

[Anonymous]

This forum is just starting to show a really sad side of people.

[Anonymous]

What on earth? What about how much a DW should make?

[Anonymous]

Why don't you give YOUR opinion OP? What do you think the financial definition of a failure in this area?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This forum is just starting to show a really sad side of people.

No. It has always showed a really materialistic and nasty side when it came down to the worth of intangibles. It is as sad as the thread on the worth of a SAHM. There are always some very bitter people who want to ask this and start this debate.

Maybe Jeff should lock those threads.

Anyhow - here is the same question posed to men and WOHMs, in the hope that people will realize that how objectionable and offensive these questions are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why don't you give YOUR opinion OP? What do you think the financial definition of a failure in this area?

OP here. I think any amount that works for a family and any combination of earning and non-earning members or revenue stream (SAHP, WOHP, WAHP, Dual income, single income, single parent, divorced parent, alimony, child-support, govt. assistance) that is useful for raising a family is great.

The financial definition of failure in this area is so skewed and so messed up that I am aghast. Around the nation an HHI of 100K means something. And I am sure that there are many people on DCUM who are making less than that and they feel like failures because this forum is full of people bandying around paychecks of 1M +.

[Anonymous]

I actually really like this question because I think it highlights the fact that the debate is always over the value of a SAHM vs WOHM. No one ever really questions a man's value to his family or how much he should be financially contributing.

I imagine that was the spirit in which OP posted this thread (or at least that is how I interpreted it).

The bottom line is, every spouse has a different earning potential, families have different needs, and you can't place a dollar sign on a parent whether they work or stay home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I actually really like this question because I think it highlights the fact that the debate is always over the value of a SAHM vs WOHM. No one ever really questions a man's value to his family or how much he should be financially contributing.

I imagine that was the spirit in which OP posted this thread (or at least that is how I interpreted it).

The bottom line is, every spouse has a different earning potential, families have different needs, and you can't place a dollar sign on a parent whether they work or stay home.

OP here. And yes, thank you, that is the spirit of asking this question.

And so I have bolded what has been written by you, as a thread ender.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why don't you give YOUR opinion OP? What do you think the financial definition of a failure in this area?

OP here. I think any amount that works for a family and any combination of earning and non-earning members or revenue stream (SAHP, WOHP, WAHP, Dual income, single income, single parent, divorced parent, alimony, child-support, govt. assistance) that is useful for raising a family is great.

The financial definition of failure in this area is so skewed and so messed up that I am aghast. Around the nation an HHI of 100K means something. And I am sure that there are many people on DCUM who are making less than that and they feel like failures because this forum is full of people bandying around paychecks of 1M +.

If you believe even half of what you read on here about people's incomes, I have a bridge I want to sell you. Do you also believe all the rich people drive beat up Hondas? That's another dcum truism that cracks me up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why don't you give YOUR opinion OP? What do you think the financial definition of a failure in this area?

OP here. I think any amount that works for a family and any combination of earning and non-earning members or revenue stream (SAHP, WOHP, WAHP, Dual income, single income, single parent, divorced parent, alimony, child-support, govt. assistance) that is useful for raising a family is great.

The financial definition of failure in this area is so skewed and so messed up that I am aghast. Around the nation an HHI of 100K means something. And I am sure that there are many people on DCUM who are making less than that and they feel like failures because this forum is full of people bandying around paychecks of 1M +.

If you believe even half of what you read on here about people's incomes, I have a bridge I want to sell you. Do you also believe all the rich people drive beat up Hondas? That's another dcum truism that cracks me up.

[phone]

[Anonymous]

Every second person on this forum is wife of CEO or surgeon

[Anonymous]

A lot of DW's on this forum seem to have a DH who makes $155,000. Not sure why this is such a common figure, unless it is the same person posting again and again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I actually really like this question because I think it highlights the fact that the debate is always over the value of a SAHM vs WOHM. No one ever really questions a man's value to his family or how much he should be financially contributing.

I imagine that was the spirit in which OP posted this thread (or at least that is how I interpreted it).

The bottom line is, every spouse has a different earning potential, families have different needs, and you can't place a dollar sign on a parent whether they work or stay home.

OP here. And yes, thank you, that is the spirit of asking this question.

And so I have bolded what has been written by you, as a thread ender.

Not really. There is value outside of your family if you believe giving back is an important part of your ethos.

If e family has enough money does that mean one person should be play golf everyday and/or drinking in a bar... Or getting her nails done a crowning a bottle of wine... Isn't there some value to give back in some way.

[Anonymous]

Downing not crowning

[Anonymous]

If my DH made $225,000, I'd gladly stay home. Exercise, knit, cook, clean, help out at school, and shlep my kids to soccer practice. It would be awesome.