Do You Care What Cell Phone Your DH Has?

[Anonymous]

Seriously, do you care? My DW and I are having a huge blowup b/c she is insisting I must buy the latest iPhone when I am happy with lower cost phone that suits my needs. I just don't get it. We constantly have these rows because she wants to have control over the things that I buy. It's gotten to the point that when I need to buy something that I need or need for the household, I just do it because it is not worth the weeks of wrangling with her. Most recently, she wanted to fight with me over supplies I purchased to refinish the bathtub in our house. She blew her top b/c I spent $75 on a respirator to use so I wouldn't be breathing in the fumes. She saw it as a waste of money, never paying attention to the fact I avoided a $475 bill to have a "professional" come in and do the job.

I have tried setting up small spending amounts that we can each use without having to "get permission" of the other, but she will have none of it. She complains if there is a Starbucks coffee purchase on the checking account and gives me the third degree. It is is really ridiculous.

She also complains about the "cost" of my going to the doctor despite the fact that we have insurance. I go once a year for a physical and when I need to. She never goes and claims she is "saving us money."

Then she complains I "never listen to her." She is just crazy.

[Anonymous]

She has issues. I don't see any logic in her madness. Spend $$$ on a new iphone but don't go to the doctor?

[Anonymous]

I'd consider that pretty ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

Over-the-top controlling. I couldn't imagine grilling my DH over the things she gives you grief about.

[Anonymous]

Isn't the iPhone the only one with built-in tracking?

[Anonymous]

Well...how old is your phone?

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't even care if my DH had a flip phone. I suppose I would insist he had a cell phone for emergencies, but after that, I wouldn't care what it looked like or whether it had the latest features.

[Anonymous]

My phone is broken and I need a new one. I dconot need or want an iPhone6. I need an unlocked GSM phone. My present phone is an Android. I can get another Android phone for $200 or less or an iPhone 5c for $249. Why spend $750 on a phone locked to AT&T. That is the cost with a two-year contract or AT&T Next. The problem is, among other things, that DW is fixated on brand over function. If she wants me to have the iPhone6 she can buy me one, otherwise no. I sense she expects I should take her iPhone 5 and give her the brand new iPhone6.

[Anonymous]

No, I could not care less.

[Anonymous]

Does she have an iPhone ?
Maybe she wants to track you with the iPhone app
And see when you have read Her text messages

[Anonymous]

Then you all must be normal and she is crazy. Thanks.

[Anonymous]

So sorry, OP. She sounds like a mess.

I have an iPhone. I don't have read receipts on. I don't know why anyone does!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well...how old is your phone?

What difference does that make? You're as crazy as OP's wife.

It sounds to me that OP's wife is superficial and status conscious. She wants to save money on things like doctors bills and health concerns so that she can splurge on status symbols. She's probably embarrassed that OP uses an old non-smart phone because she feels that it makes them look cheap or poor.

Sorry, OP. I feel for you. I would recommend couples counseling because her overbearing controlling nature is a long-term problem. Do not just bottle this up or you'll end up divorced and having problems figuring out how you got there. Work on this now, while you still have enough emotion for her that you want to make it work. If you wait until she drives you over the top, you'll never be able to make it work.

[Anonymous]

Yes, I'd be embarrassed if my SO didnt have an iPhone. I'm not looking to be associated with a plebe.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Seriously, do you care? My DW and I are having a huge blowup b/c she is insisting I must buy the latest iPhone when I am happy with lower cost phone that suits my needs. I just don't get it. We constantly have these rows because she wants to have control over the things that I buy. It's gotten to the point that when I need to buy something that I need or need for the household, I just do it because it is not worth the weeks of wrangling with her. Most recently, she wanted to fight with me over supplies I purchased to refinish the bathtub in our house. She blew her top b/c I spent $75 on a respirator to use so I wouldn't be breathing in the fumes. She saw it as a waste of money, never paying attention to the fact I avoided a $475 bill to have a "professional" come in and do the job.

I have tried setting up small spending amounts that we can each use without having to "get permission" of the other, but she will have none of it. She complains if there is a Starbucks coffee purchase on the checking account and gives me the third degree. It is is really ridiculous.

She also complains about the "cost" of my going to the doctor despite the fact that we have insurance. I go once a year for a physical and when I need to. She never goes and claims she is "saving us money."

Then she complains I "never listen to her." She is just crazy.

You sound like you have serious issues with your wife and flat out dislike her. Maybe she is acting crazy to you as a result.