My husband cheated on me awhile back and it still bothers me
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My husband cheated on me, moved out with his mistress, but after he apologized, he's been a great husband for the past 2++ years. He had moved to another state, and after a long bout in therapy so my son could have a relationship with him, we eventually moved to be with him, so he could be in her life and we could have another shot. But, the fairy tale is gone. I still blame him for a lot of things in our new life. Where we live, how far away from my family and friends we are.
But, the life I would have had in my home state is much different than this one. I can't help but to imagine just leaving, taking baby, and going home. |
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Anonymous
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Do it.
Of course the "magic" is gone, how can you ever trust him again? This wasn't an oops one night stand, he moved out to be with his mistress! Go back to your family and friends and rebuild your life. Make sure he has access to the child, Skype, visits etc. |
Anonymous
Is your baby transgendered? |
Anonymous
Plus 1 |
Anonymous
| Did you move away from family and friends just so that your husband could live near his mistress!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!? |
Anonymous
| I dont know how you could forgive this. Of course you're going to resent him. |
Anonymous
I'm reading this as you moved your SON out of state (you know, where your husband moved to be with his MISTRESS) so he could be in HER life, as in, in the mistresses life.... |
Anonymous
Trying to figure this out as well...OP - I'm confused....why didn't your husband move BACK home with YOU???? Not the other way around. |
Anonymous
He bought a house in another state, couldn't sell. We were renting. |
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Not in a million years would I give up everything and move to be with a man who'd left me for another woman. You gave up too much, OP. He didn't really suffer any negative consequences at all. You and your son-daughter-baby are still paying for his actions.
And I say that from a perspective of someone who has stayed (so far a year and it's still rough) with someone who'd cheated. |
Anonymous
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so you're a doormat asking for advice?
I'm at a loss to understand what you actually want from the folks here. |
Anonymous
I predict he's still cheating on you. He hasn't even left the state yet. And dont use the excuse of the house won't sell be what holds everything back. A little too convenient for him, ya think? |
Anonymous
Yup. I'd say you move back and teach him to treat you with respect....file for divorce. This is ridiculous. |
Anonymous
Well isn't that tidy for him? And where, may I ask, is the mistress? |