husband traveling constantly and I am miserable

[Anonymous]

Not sure what category to post this in. My husband began traveling for work a few months ago, and we see him less than one evening a week. I usually have to catch up on work on those evenings, so that basically never see him. It looks to be this way for at least two more years. I don't know what I will do. It is unbearable even three solid months in. I am so damn lonely and obviously we are not having sex. Any advice? I just want to know how to make it through this without becoming bitter or cheating. ... Although to be honest, cheating almost seems like a forgone conclusion at this point though.

[Anonymous]

Hire help, so on the one day a week he's there you can have sex and reconnect.

[Anonymous]

Is one day really enough? I just dont feel like it is. He usually is only around for a couple of hours. There are usuaallyba bunch of errands he has to run.

[Anonymous]

I've been there... husband would fly out for a couple weeks, come back for back for a day or two and then fly out for another couple of weeks. And the day or two he'd be home was ALWAYS when I had other work obligations.

I don't have any advice really...I bitched and bitched about it and drove hubby away even further because there was nothing he could do until the assignment was over. So don't do that. But I was very difficult and I cried a lot and had bad depression. It seemed impossible to make it through but we did somehow. I think the only thing that would have helped was if dh had been a better communicator while away, maybe yours will be on it more so than mine ever was. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

My marriage was like this for many years. I thought that it was okay because I completely trusted my DH. Unfortunately, he was cheating. He was living almost a second life. Obviously my example is an extreme one, but if you are truly miserable, please talk to you husband about it.

If there are any other options (less travel, lower pay), they may be worth it. If you two love each other, you can make it work -- but it's really hard on a marriage.

[Anonymous]

My husband travels a lot and we make it work. Life is long and so is marriage. It helps that we've been together for 10 years. He's traveling for 2 years out of the lifetime you will be together? A drop in the bucket.....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hire help, so on the one day a week he's there you can have sex and reconnect.

+1
Can you travel to him on some weekends as well?

[Anonymous]

There is a reason the divorce rate is so high in the military. I don't think it's natural to be away from your spouse for long periods of time and be happy. You aren't doing your marriage any favors either by using the one day you have together for other stuff. That time should be spent together. I would honestly ask my husband to find another job or see if he can cut back on the travel some how. Sometimes things like this can cause people to drift apart and the damage may be irreparable.

[Anonymous]

Do you have kids?

[Anonymous]

He needs to change his job. Can you imagine if a mom did this? She'd be burned at the stake in the court of public opinion.

[Anonymous]

Get a sitter to help you during the week, so you can get your work done and be free when he's there. Why would you work the one night he's home? It sounds like a difficult situation - don't make it even harder!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Get a sitter to help you during the week, so you can get your work done and be free when he's there. Why would you work the one night he's home? It sounds like a difficult situation - don't make it even harder!

+1

[Anonymous]

OP, you are just awful. Your husband is working very hard to provide for his family while you're bitching and moaning and contemplating cheating. Your husband is holding up his end of the deal; why can't you? It's too bad he has no idea what an ungrateful shit you are. Then again, that could be precisely the reason he took a travel assignment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you are just awful. Your husband is working very hard to provide for his family while you're bitching and moaning and contemplating cheating. Your husband is holding up his end of the deal; why can't you? It's too bad he has no idea what an ungrateful shit you are. Then again, that could be precisely the reason he took a travel assignment.

Looks like somebody wandered out from under their bridge! Are you lost or can you find your way back?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you are just awful. Your husband is working very hard to provide for his family while you're bitching and moaning and contemplating cheating. Your husband is holding up his end of the deal; why can't you? It's too bad he has no idea what an ungrateful shit you are. Then again, that could be precisely the reason he took a travel assignment.

Looks like somebody wandered out from under their bridge! Are you lost or can you find your way back?

Not lost, thanks. Just incredibly surprised that you all are so supportive of someone looking to cheat after three months of heavy traveling. If OP were a husband posting about cheating on his busy wife, you would rip him to shreds.