Date night sex?

[Anonymous]

Forgive me if I'm suppose to post this in the explicit section. There is a man I have been dating for the past 5 weeks ( unconventional, 7 dates already). We have not slept together yet but I am ready. He's coming over tomorrow night - I'm making dinner for us! On the third date he tried to make a move but I told him I want ready to be that intimate with him. He told me to let him know. Since then he hasn't made any moves, so I'm guessing I will have to. I'm used to the guy always making the first move and I'm not sure how to go about it. I really like this guy and don't want to be too forward by grabbing his crotch and messing whatever we have up. I have only had 3 sexual partners in the past. Help!!!

I am 24 and he is 29.

[Anonymous]

Make him dinner. Be affectionate while cooking. You don't have to grab a guy's crotch to let him know that you are ready. Lean in to him while you are kissing him. Press your hips against him. He'll figure it out. If not you can make a little comment after dinner to let him know you are ready? You can always suggest a tour of your place and take him into the bedroom. It sounds like he likes you, but is being a real gentleman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Make him dinner. Be affectionate while cooking. You don't have to grab a guy's crotch to let him know that you are ready. Lean in to him while you are kissing him. Press your hips against him. He'll figure it out. If not you can make a little comment after dinner to let him know you are ready? You can always suggest a tour of your place and take him into the bedroom. It sounds like he likes you, but is being a real gentleman.

I will try those suggested above. I've never had to make a move and I am worried about being looked at differently if I am very bold. I'm going to make him dinner and desert and we will have wine. The tour sounds pretty good. Should I pick up protection? I want it to be a surprise but I can't be certain he will bring protection. I am not comfortable having sex without protection ( initially, at least). He may already know because this is the first time inviting him to my place and I emphasized about us being " alone".

[Anonymous]

Ok I might have to go to the explicit forum now after reading pp's reply! Haha

[Anonymous]

I agree with pp that this one's easy. After dinner, coze up on the sofa in front of the TV and begin kissing him.

I wouldn't buy condoms. I've always insisted on guys using them but never purchased them. And guess what? With the exception of one time, they've always had them. (Then again, I was usually at their places. The 1 exception was at my place.) the 1 guy ran out and bought some.

I say no to buying only because they may have their favorites, need a certain size, etc

[MikeL]

Anonymous wrote:I agree with pp that this one's easy. After dinner, coze up on the sofa in front of the TV and begin kissing him.

I wouldn't buy condoms. I've always insisted on guys using them but never purchased them. And guess what? With the exception of one time, they've always had them. (Then again, I was usually at their places. The 1 exception was at my place.) the 1 guy ran out and bought some.

I say no to buying only because they may have their favorites, need a certain size, etc

Gotta disagree here. You want him to have to run out the drugstore when things are getting heated up?
They have a long expiration date. You'll use them eventually.

[Anonymous]

So get some condoms but pick up some different kinds/sizes, etc. At the very least if he STILL doesn't get it, pull out your assortment and tell him to "choose one".

[Anonymous]

I say get condoms, but don't go with a variety (unless you can buy a variety pack). Leave the boxes sealed up so that he knows you don't have a drawer full of condoms. I'd buy a three pack. He will deal with whatever brand you have (buy something very normal -- like Trojans) if he doesn't bring one with him. After that, he can purchase them.

To be completely honest, it is much safer if you buy the condoms. You know that they are not expired and that they haven't been sitting in his glove box in hot weather or carried around in his wallet for the past three months, etc.

You do not have to be super forward. Just let him know that you are enjoying kissing him. You can simply whisper something like: oooh, I really like the way you make me feel. Or: this feels so good. He's 29, you've been on a bunch of dates with him. You've invited him to your home for dinner. I have a feeling that he is coming in to the situation quite hopeful already.

[Anonymous]

When I was 24, I went to bars with the guy I was dating, got hammered and we went home to have sex. Your life sounds much more civilized.

[Anonymous]

Guy here. Don't buy an assortment of condoms or he'll think you either were overly-anticipating/obsessed about this, or have had a variety of gentleman callers through your bedroom.

Just buy Trojan ENZ in the blue box. They're fairly standard, and get the job done. He'll make it work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When I was 24, I went to bars with the guy I was dating, got hammered and we went home to have sex. Your life sounds much more civilized.

+1

Also I'm 29 and single again and this is also how I had sex with my boyfriend the first time lol.

[jsteele]

The OP crossposted in the Explicit forum. So, please join the discussion there.