Did you date while separated?

[Anonymous]

Does everyone really wait an entire year before the final divorce (in md) to meet and date other people?
I'm in a situation where the marriage has been over for a long time so I'm feeling ready to get out there.

[Anonymous]

What state are you in?

In VA I would absolutely wait.

[Anonymous]

Go for it OP, so long as you and your ex are on the same page and he won't somehow use it against you later. I met my husband while he was separated and in the midst of divorce proceedings. But he and his ex did not have children together and it was a non contested divorce, etc. Every situation is different.

[Anonymous]

In maryland.
How do you really know your spouse won't try to use it against you? Would a signed document suffice?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In maryland.
How do you really know your spouse won't try to use it against you? Would a signed document suffice?

Is the split amicable? Kids involved? Is there any general nastiness going on? It's pretty easy to tell how things would go if you were to see other people.

[Anonymous]

One kid and dh checked out of the marriage along time ago. Although of course now faced with the prospect
Of this divorce he wants to
Try to work it out. Says he understands if I do not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One kid and dh checked out of the marriage along time ago. Although of course now faced with the prospect
Of this divorce he wants to
Try to work it out. Says he understands if I do not.

Since he seems to want to work through things, I do not think it's in your best interest to date others at this point until you he has a clear understanding of "No, I do not want to work things out." and you take action towards divorce.

[Anonymous]

Yeah I was afraid of this.
I've just felt resolved for so long prior to this that now a year seems like an eternity.
Just wondered if others too the "risk" and just went ahead and dated

[Anonymous]

Im in MD. I asked my attorney about this. He said that once we were living apart, it was fine to date. He said that the judges don't expect you to be a nun. HOWEVER, if dating will antagonize your ex, its not worth it. Try to keep the divorce as civil as possible. Even in the best circumstances, people can become vengeful and ugly. Don't bait that pot...

[Anonymous]

In VA I dated while separated. No kids though.

[Anonymous]

Would the husband necessarily find out? I always thought a separation was a time to see other people. Dating might help you decide if you want to stay with DH or not (not necessarily finding someone but enjoying the possibility or realizing what you have is pretty good).

[Anonymous]

See this makes sense to me too. That it would help you gain perspective.
I guess someone could always find out though

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Does everyone really wait an entire year before the final divorce (in md) to meet and date other people?
I'm in a situation where the marriage has been over for a long time so I'm feeling ready to get out there.

Yes. My focus was on my children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Does everyone really wait an entire year before the final divorce (in md) to meet and date other people?
I'm in a situation where the marriage has been over for a long time so I'm feeling ready to get out there.

Yes. My focus was on my children.

Learn how to multi task. Happier parent = happier children

[Anonymous]

Jesus. Why can't people just wait. Fix whatever was wrong with you that caused you to pick your current spouse you no longer want to be committed to.