How would you respond to crush if you were me?

[Anonymous]

Might sound so silly but i am frozen when it comes to a crush that i have been having since a year ago so i wanna ask what others would have done in my situation. We have had feelings for each other but never acted on it, nothing physical for sure, because he was married. We were in no contact for a number of months and i know from other people that now hes filing for divorce. I thought he would never contact me anymore but recently he emailed me out of the blue with a how you doing. Just that. I was disappointed that he didnt ask for a meet up or say anything more than just asking how i am. At the same time i know 100% he is not the right guy for me, and yet i have been missing him and hoping that we will at least have a kiss or something.

Would you respond if you were me, what would you say to him?i havent made up my mind for a week now i just dont know if i should go forward or just kick him out of my life forever....

[Anonymous]

I think you already know the answer. Do what your wise friend would do if she were in your situation.

[Anonymous]

Why do you say he's not the right guy for you? Now that he's getting a divorce, I mean. Obviously you were wise to stay away while he was married.

[Anonymous]

Don't be the rebound girl.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't be the rebound girl.

It actually sounds like being the rebound girl would work for her if she only wants a kiss or a little more but knows he's not the right guy for her.

[Anonymous]

He asked how you are doing. He didn't ask for your hand in marriage. You are way over thinking this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He asked how you are doing. He didn't ask for your hand in marriage. You are way over thinking this.

+1

[Anonymous]

I would respond with how I was doing and see where is goes if anywhere. I'm not one to draw or make grand conclusions until I actually see it play out.

[Anonymous]

Why is he not the right guy for you?
No reliable?

[Anonymous]

Op here. Yeah he's a huge player and he likes playing games so yes not a reliable person in relationships. He just likes messing up with ppls mind so i do know hes not the type of person i should like at all bEcause i am not good with games. I am sure i will only be preyed on, and i dont want further hurt ( i went through a very down period because he was giving mixed signals etc before we cut contact). But at the same time i irrationally like him.....contradictory i know.
Its like i want to talk to him but dont want to play to his games. I am sooo lost!!

[Anonymous]

He didn't ask to meet up with you because he's asking how you are to find out if you're with someone or single.

You do not want to get involved with a guy in the midst of a divorce. Huge baggage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. Yeah he's a huge player and he likes playing games so yes not a reliable person in relationships. He just likes messing up with ppls mind so i do know hes not the type of person i should like at all bEcause i am not good with games. I am sure i will only be preyed on, and i dont want further hurt ( i went through a very down period because he was giving mixed signals etc before we cut contact). But at the same time i irrationally like him.....contradictory i know.
Its like i want to talk to him but dont want to play to his games. I am sooo lost!!

How are you lost? Not to be mean,but re read your own post for goodness sake. I take it you are very young.

[Anonymous]

You sound conflicted OP. I think that you need to decide how you feel about him rather than trying to rationalize why he isn't a good guy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here. Yeah he's a huge player and he likes playing games so yes not a reliable person in relationships. He just likes messing up with ppls mind so i do know hes not the type of person i should like at all bEcause i am not good with games. I am sure i will only be preyed on, and i dont want further hurt ( i went through a very down period because he was giving mixed signals etc before we cut contact). But at the same time i irrationally like him.....contradictory i know.
Its like i want to talk to him but dont want to play to his games. I am sooo lost!!

How are you lost? Not to be mean,but re read your own post for goodness sake. I take it you are very young.

If i was very young i would just go with the feeling and not rationalize it. No need to have conflictig feelings and worry about wasting time. Having feeklings does not mean being very young. Do yourself a favor and stop sounding like an old, mean bitch

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Might sound so silly but i am frozen when it comes to a crush that i have been having since a year ago so i wanna ask what others would have done in my situation. We have had feelings for each other but never acted on it, nothing physical for sure, because he was married. We were in no contact for a number of months and i know from other people that now hes filing for divorce. I thought he would never contact me anymore but recently he emailed me out of the blue with a how you doing. Just that. I was disappointed that he didnt ask for a meet up or say anything more than just asking how i am. At the same time i know 100% he is not the right guy for me, and yet i have been missing him and hoping that we will at least have a kiss or something.

Would you respond if you were me, what would you say to him?i havent made up my mind for a week now i just dont know if i should go forward or just kick him out of my life forever....

This sentence is very telling.

Even though this man is now divorcing, if your gut is telling you still that he is not the right guy for you still, then it is best not to contact him at all.

Do you think you are just simply lonely + are just needy for male attention?

OP, I was wondering if you could elaborate w/us...What is it about this guy that makes you say that he is not 100% right for you?