Can I wear pants to a wedding (non-black tie) if DH is wearing a tux?

[Anonymous]

DH's cousin is getting married later this month and it's not black tie so I was hoping to wear silky black pants with a sparkly/sequined dressy top and heels. The thing is, DH is in the wedding so he has to wear a tux. I know this is a silly question, but is it odd if he's in a tux and I"m in pants? I'm not in the wedding (and just hoping to get away with not buying a new dress!). Thanks.

[Anonymous]

I don't really think pants are appropriate for a wedding, but that's just me.

[Anonymous]

As the significant other of a member of the bridal party I do think you need to be more dressy. Borrow a dress from a friend.

[Anonymous]

I wore a very nice pair of black pants to a wedding in combination with a fancy top (that I'll never be able to wear again. . . ). And I received many compliments.

I say go for it. It's all in your attitude. Plus, once the drinking starts, no one will notice.

[Anonymous]

No, not appropriate if you husband is in a tux.

[Anonymous]

I think pants are fine. I think you need to evaluate whether you think that pants would be fine for the wedding if your husband was not in the wedding party - I'm assuming that the entire thing is not black tie, but that your husband will be in a tux just because he's in the wedding party. If you think pants would be fine if your husband was just in a suit, then I say it doesn't matter that your husband will be in a tux. And for what it's worth, I've seen some great pants/sparkly top outfits that are MORE dressy than some of the dresses people throw on.

[Anonymous]

Can be very sophisticated but I'd think twice if it's an evening event.

[Anonymous]

I would definitely wear the pants and sparkly shoes/purse. I am an event planner and have thrown many parties. This combo looks very elegant.

[Anonymous]

I agree. If your top is elegant, and the pants are black, all anyone sees is the top anyway.

[Anonymous]

Make sure your pants are also tux like, for women. Add some major bling and you will be fine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, not appropriate if you husband is in a tux.

Agreed.

And you may find yourself in pictures standing next to your DH (amongst the other groomsmen) and you'll standout as sore thumb.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, not appropriate if you husband is in a tux.

Agreed.

And you may find yourself in pictures standing next to your DH (amongst the other groomsmen) and you'll standout as sore thumb.

Yeah, but think of it this way: Who's going to view those pics other than the bride and groom? and parents

[Anonymous]

No way, not appropriate.

[Anonymous]

OP here... thanks for your feedback. I think I'll err on the side of caution and get a dress for the occasion. Wish I still fit into my pre-pregnancy dresses!

[Anonymous]

OP again... any recommendations for places I can go to get a dress... I'm petite but have fleshy hips and belly right now so can't wear anything too form-fitting. Blah.