My niece's boyfriend

[Anonymous]

Or significant other---makes inappropriate remarks about me and tries to turn everything into an off colour remark. Ack! One more day....

[Anonymous]

"Excuse me Larlo, what did you just say?"

"Larlo, I can't believe you just said that to me"

"Wow Larlo, that was totally over the line."

"Larlo, that's not funny."

[Anonymous]

And you don't call him out???
'Harpo, what did you just say?'
'Harpo, watch your mouth'
'Harpo, you sound ignorant'
'Harpo, this is me looking at you like you are stupid'
'Say that to me again, hear'
'Keep talking to line that and my niece will be making a condolence call to your parents'

[Anonymous]

Examples? How old is he? How does your niece react when she hears it? Why do you think he does it? Are you a young aunt or kind of hot or something, and for some bizarre reason he sees you in more of a peer zone?

"Those kinds of comments are inappropriate."
"I have a suggestion for you to avoid being inappropriate: speak to me like you would speak to Larla's mother, or better yet your own mother." For fun you could ask "would you say [insert inappropriate remark] to your mom? Gross, right? Same thing with me."

[Anonymous]

Unfortunately, my niece is 40. I have no idea how old this loser is, but she's madly in love with him. He is good to her son.

I am so over his whole manchild act. I have called him out on it repeatedly as nicely as I can, without starting WW4 in the house. He either doesn't get it or doesn't care.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Examples? How old is he? How does your niece react when she hears it? Why do you think he does it? Are you a young aunt or kind of hot or something, and for some bizarre reason he sees you in more of a peer zone?

"Those kinds of comments are inappropriate."
"I have a suggestion for you to avoid being inappropriate: speak to me like you would speak to Larla's mother, or better yet your own mother." For fun you could ask "would you say [insert inappropriate remark] to your mom? Gross, right? Same thing with me."

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Unfortunately, my niece is 40. I have no idea how old this loser is, but she's madly in love with him. He is good to her son.

I am so over his whole manchild act. I have called him out on it repeatedly as nicely as I can, without starting WW4 in the house. He either doesn't get it or doesn't care.

Tell your niece you are offended by his behavior and HE is no longer welcome in your home.

Its only a matter of time before he cheats on her or does something abusive that a normal woman would not put up with. She is desperate at 40 and that is why she ignores his behavior.

[Anonymous]

Cold stare, then walk out of the room. Every single time.

[Anonymous]

Can you give us some examples? Is he doing it to needle you? Does he do it to other women? Can you minimize how much you talk to him, and if he speaks to you just reply as briefly as possible?