What is your biggest regret in life?
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Anonymous
| My biggest regret is that I went to UC Santa Barbara for college. A terrible, terrible decision. It's scenic but I quickly found out it was a wild, trashy party school. I thought I'd love the So Cal lifestyle but I ended up longing for my stuffy New England upbringing, and hating everything about the West Coast. |
Anonymous
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did you transfer out?
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Anonymous
| That I moved away from family. My kids are growing up not being close to extended family. Living across the country changes relationships and it is expensive to travel. When a family member died I had major regret and sadness about this. I can never get that time back with my loved one. |
Anonymous
This. Moved to DC to be with a good man that is a horrible provider. Now I get the big-city stress and pressures of being the sole breadwinner with no family around. |
Anonymous
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Not pushing harder for my mother to seek several more opinions before a significant surgery. I did push hard, but she pushed back and felt she was in good hands. She wasn't.
I have other significant regrets, but they pale in comparison. |
Anonymous
| Not ending more relationships more civilly. |
Anonymous
| Smoking and drinking. It all seemed so fun at the time. Both will ruin your life. |
Anonymous
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Not developing a tight circle of friends in high school or college. I was always so focused on the next thing -- grades, ivys, jobs, whatever -- then I never took the time to relax and hang out and genuinely get to know people. Now I'm going through a hard time, and I feel totally alone and wish there was a group of friends I could call. And even when not going through a hard time -- I'm always jealous when people talk about how they're spending the weekend going to a football game with their group of friends.
I'm 34 and I'm trying to convince myself that not all is lost -- but I can't now develop the bonds that people develop in their teens or 20s. |
Anonymous
| Marrying who I married |
Anonymous
| Not going abroad to live in another country and learning another language while I was in college. |
Anonymous
| I wish I had been more bold and taken that opportunity to go and live in England |
Anonymous
| Not focusing on education. I'm 48 & still working on my Bachelor's degree! |
Anonymous
| Acid wash jeans |
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I wish I had not slept with so many men when I was in my teens and twenties. Not all of them were good in bed, most of them didn't really value me or care about me, and I feel disgusted by my low standards, looking back.
I used to laugh at the "good girls" and mock them for being repressed little prudes, but now that I'm older and more mature, and have a DD of my own, I envy the well-behaved girls of my childhood and am determined to raise DD like that. |