Exhausted!

[Anonymous]

Been on line dating. Breaking up with one guy I know is wrong but still feel sad about it. Met another who I liked a lot but he says he's decided it's too soon after his divorce to date. Wants to focus on his kids. Still wants to get together but I assume as friends for now. Feel sad about that too. Third guy is very interested, very nice but I 'm just not sure. 14 years older than me which seems like a lot. Trying to get to know him better but not sure I see it long term. One other guy is around but not sure that's going anywhere either. No physical contact after 4 dates.

I'll play these out but feel exhausted by the idea of none working and starting over. Guess this is what it's like...

[DanielG]

Maybe slow down on the dating and focus on something else?

It always seems the right one comes around when you are not actively looking.

[Anonymous]

Try not to be so intense about the process or about how these dates are going to work out for you. Just meet them and try to have fun, try not to get too serious about the whole process.

I experienced much the same thing and decided it just isn't worth the effort. I will go to MeetUps and meet people in person first but no more online dating for me.

[Anonymous]

First it sounds like you don't know what you want. And in the absence of that, you date whole bunch of guys and are just hoping there's a magical aha moment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:First it sounds like you don't know what you want. And in the absence of that, you date whole bunch of guys and are just hoping there's a magical aha moment.

+1

Take some time to seriously reflect on what you want and what you have to offer. And I do not mean sex.

[Anonymous]

I know what you mean.

Seems to me that online dating is somewhat of a chore in itself.

My BFF recently got divorced + has jumped back into the dating pool. She has recently got into online dating and has complained to me how much time and WORK it is. She complains that it takes time away from her kids to sit on the computer, read all the messages, decide who she wants to meet, who she wants to delete, then keep track of who is who, who said what, who lives where, etc. Then all of the back and forth corresponding to see if someone has potential and if there is any chemistry...And if there is, working out a good time to set up a mutually convenient good time to physically meet in person, etc. Argh!!