Spouse communication issues
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Anonymous
| My husband hears about half the conversations I attempt to have with him. Of those, he hears about half of what I say in those conversations. It's incredibly frustrating. Imagine telling your spouse to not do something, like do not open the window because the neighbors are BBQing and you don't want the smoky air getting into the house, and he goes and opens the window because he completely missed the "NOT" part. This kind of thing happens everyday. How can I better communicate with him? |
Anonymous
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What is he doing when he misses stuff? Are there patterns (ie-if he's reading or watching tv and tunes you out, don't try to have conversations while he's doing that).
Make sure you have his attention before you launch into whatever it is you are telling him. Say his name and wait for him to acknowledge that you are talking to him. Confirm that he heard you at the end if a conversation and that he heard you correctly. Get his hearing tested if you think that's a contributing factor. If it makes sense, text or email him with specific small things so that he can't miss it. (This works well for things like errands or shopping lists.) |
Anonymous
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Sounds like ADD. My husband has it, and it takes me telling him something repeatedly before he "hears" it. His hearing is fine. Its his focus. Ive learned to live with it, and its improved since he has been on medication, but it was untreated until he was 46. Now 48 there is some improvement. Also he was treated for depression, and that improved focus and communication.
Please read up on ADHD/ADD. Its real. When you see the symptom set, you will know right away if it fits or not. If it fits, then him not "hearing" you is not the only thing you are experiencing. |
Anonymous
| It's that faulty Y chromosome. Messes up their hearing. |
Anonymous
+1 And their brains just aren't wired to handle multi-tasking. If he is doing something else while you speak with him, he won't remember what you said. |
Anonymous
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B.S.
I wonder if the same problem happens at work? |
Anonymous
| You probably annoy him with some lame complaint every freaking day. Really, don't open the window because the BBQ smoke is bothering you? |