ladies, would you lie about your age online?
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Anonymous
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i did. here's my reasoning: like an house out of your price range, you might decide you like it if you go see it. in other words, if i put my real age i could get flat out rejected but if i put a younger age i will get seen and he might decide he's interested.
i went down ten years to do the math easily but i plan to tell him on date #3 |
Anonymous
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I went out with a guy who shaved about that many years off his profile age. Figured it out on date 1 when his stories about his life didn't mesh with his age. The date wasn't going anywhere anyway, but that absolutely cinched it and made me think less of him.
I wanted to date people in my age range for a reason. I wanted to have a family eventually and am old enough myself, I didn't want to be with someone that much older than me. |
Anonymous
| No. And someone did this to me before I met DH. I was 22, he said he was 29. He was really 35. I ended it not due to his age, but because someone who is dishonest from the beginning is not someone worth my time. Starting a relationship on a lie is a bad idea. |
Anonymous
| agreed, but men put so much judgement on age. if he doesn't want kids it shouldn't be a huge deal if i tell him soon (i'm hoping) |
Anonymous
| No. I'm 37 and have no issues with age or getting older or anything. |
Anonymous
| Nope. I look great for my age. Yes, I am one of the delusional DCUMites who look considerably younger than my chrono age. I've always preferred to date men who were older than me. Shaving anything off my age would not only be unnecessary, but counterproductive in most cases (except the guys with a flat out younger woman fetish). |
Anonymous
| i'm 50, saying i'm 40 |
Anonymous
| Noooo. It screams insecurity. |
Anonymous
| i am insecure and i don't want to date a man in his 60s |
Anonymous
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I think you might be able to get away with it if the man is at least your age, or older, and he does not want children. If you are 50, and claim to be younger, and he is over 50 himself, he might not be that upset. If he's closer to 40, he probably isn't going to be happy about you really being 50.
But 10 years is a pretty big lie. You should probably not have fudged by more than five years. |
Anonymous
+1 I am 35 and growing old gracefully. Proud of my grays. I earned every single one! |
Anonymous
| Op, you sound insecure. Red flag. |
Anonymous
| Deal-breaker if someone lied about their age - especially by 10 years! Just a turn-off. And I wouldn't trust them to be truthful in general. It's deceptive - if a man wants a 40 year old then that's what they want. And most 50 year olds can't pass for 40 anyway. It's just not going to work, OP. |
Anonymous
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Ten years is too much of a lie. You might be able to shave a couple of years, but ten years is too much.
He is going to feel that you used him to boost your ego, to prove that you could pass as a younger woman. Which you probably did. |
Anonymous
| You're insane to try and justify that, OP, and any good guy will run as soon as he learns the truth. |