Help me this week

[Anonymous]

My sister and I do not get along (never have), I am going to her house this week so our daughters can spend some time together. My sister and I have always been opposites in every way and I want to start the week on the right foot. Help me set the right tone. I'm type A and she is more passive and laid back. I know I annoy her (and she me). But we agreed to this weekend for the girls.

My husband told me I should stay at a hotel, but my sister insisted on us staying with her.

[Anonymous]

You can set the right tone by zipping your lip. Look at her daughter and know that she is doing what she thinks is best for that little girl - exactly what you are doing for your little girl. Remember the age-old adage "Just because it's different doesn't mean it's wrong." Keep all of your opinions and judgements to yourself and just act like the adult you are. God willing she'll do the same and you'll have a good experience.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You can set the right tone by zipping your lip. Look at her daughter and know that she is doing what she thinks is best for that little girl - exactly what you are doing for your little girl. Remember the age-old adage "Just because it's different doesn't mean it's wrong." Keep all of your opinions and judgements to yourself and just act like the adult you are. God willing she'll do the same and you'll have a good experience.

+1 to all of this. And, if God isn't willing (bolded part) then reread this post from the beginning and keep retreading it until the weekend is over.

[Anonymous]

and if your sister starts with something simply say, "Let's be adults and keep our opinions and judgements to ourselves. You are doing a great job with Maggie and I'm glad we're having this time all together." Just be positive.

[Anonymous]

Im more curious as to why you dont get along. Im more type A and my brother is laid back, and we get along fine. Work on yourself!

[Anonymous]

As a fellow type a person, remind yourself as often as needed that you are in HER home. Do your best to allow her to run her home in the way that works for her rather than trying to take control.

[Anonymous]

Im glad to hear that despite your differences you are choosing to arrange for your kids to have a relationship.

That is actually pretty commendable. Very opposite of what my SIL does with my husband.

To that end, stay positive, and focus on the things you like about your sister. Tell her things you appreciate about her. THere must be something.