Dad cursing infront of his two year old

[Anonymous]

Ok this dad curse infront of his two year old.Now the poor baby is saying these bad words. what should I do as a mother.I try to talk to him but doesn't seem to work, he just cant control his dirty toungue.

[Anonymous]

Has he no shame? Did he grow up like this? Not much caring about children?

[Anonymous]

He can control it. He is setting a poor ex. People will think he is uneducated.

[Anonymous]

As a mother, you should:

1) Speak to the father, in private, about this and let him know what is happening and the effect it is having on the 2 year old. Try to reason with him so that he understands that kids this age are sponges and will repeat literally everything they hear. It's not fair for you to ask Dad to stop cursing altogether (although it would be nice if he did) but it is reasonable to ask him to stop doing it around the baby.

2) When your child repeats this language (for the time being), just ignore it. If you can accomplish #1, then it should stop on its own when he no longer regularly hears the words.

[Anonymous]

My husband and I both are pretty foul-mouthed, and honestly, we didn't even try to curb our tongues.

What we did do is explain to our child -- starting when she was really little -- that some words are OK when it's just us at home, but we shouldn't say them in public because not everyone is OK with them.

Other parents generally say, "yeah, good luck with that" -- but honestly, it's *worked*.

She's six now, and if it's just us in the car, she will borrow my iPod and look for Pink's "Raise Your Glass" or Bruno Mars' "Treasure" so she can sing along with the profanity; if she's at school or out and about, she would never dream of using that language. I mean, NEVER.

I will say, though, I think there's a difference between using profanity in a neutral way ("Where the f*** did I put my keys?") and directing it at other people ("Hey, a$$hole!").

I don't have a problem with any specific word, but I *do* have a problem with using language abusively. That is something we don't do, and it's something we correct when our daughter does it (even when the language she's using is not offensive).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband and I both are pretty foul-mouthed, and honestly, we didn't even try to curb our tongues.

What we did do is explain to our child -- starting when she was really little -- that some words are OK when it's just us at home, but we shouldn't say them in public because not everyone is OK with them.

Other parents generally say, "yeah, good luck with that" -- but honestly, it's *worked*.

She's six now, and if it's just us in the car, she will borrow my iPod and look for Pink's "Raise Your Glass" or Bruno Mars' "Treasure" so she can sing along with the profanity; if she's at school or out and about, she would never dream of using that language. I mean, NEVER.

I will say, though, I think there's a difference between using profanity in a neutral way ("Where the f*** did I put my keys?") and directing it at other people ("Hey, a$$hole!").

I don't have a problem with any specific word, but I *do* have a problem with using language abusively. That is something we don't do, and it's something we correct when our daughter does it (even when the language she's using is not offensive).

Nice that YOU don't have a problem with foul language but I guarantee you that if you speak this way at work, around friends/ strangers etc there are people who consider you to be low-class because of the way you talk.

[Anonymous]

I've accidentally cursed in front of my child, because let's face it, DC traffic sucks. She has said curse words exactly twice - the F word once at Panera when she was 2 (I was mortified by laughed my head off afterward with her dad) and the S word once - I have no idea where she picked that up, because it's not a word I use much.

I explained that like driving or drinking wine, certain words are reserved for grownups. She can say them when she's a grownup, but if she says them as a kid, she'll get in a lot of trouble. This wouldn't work for everyone, but it's worked for us.

I don't really care if certain people hear me say a word and think I'm low-class. I have a filter when I need it. Plenty of people don't curse but do other low-class things.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
I explained that like driving or drinking wine, certain words are reserved for grownups. She can say them when she's a grownup, but if she says them as a kid, she'll get in a lot of trouble. This wouldn't work for everyone, but it's worked for us.

Works for us, too. DS still asks why he cannot say this or that, I have to re-explain, oh well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband and I both are pretty foul-mouthed, and honestly, we didn't even try to curb our tongues.

What we did do is explain to our child -- starting when she was really little -- that some words are OK when it's just us at home, but we shouldn't say them in public because not everyone is OK with them.

Other parents generally say, "yeah, good luck with that" -- but honestly, it's *worked*.

She's six now, and if it's just us in the car, she will borrow my iPod and look for Pink's "Raise Your Glass" or Bruno Mars' "Treasure" so she can sing along with the profanity; if she's at school or out and about, she would never dream of using that language. I mean, NEVER.

I will say, though, I think there's a difference between using profanity in a neutral way ("Where the f*** did I put my keys?") and directing it at other people ("Hey, a$$hole!").

I don't have a problem with any specific word, but I *do* have a problem with using language abusively. That is something we don't do, and it's something we correct when our daughter does it (even when the language she's using is not offensive).

Nice that YOU don't have a problem with foul language but I guarantee you that if you speak this way at work, around friends/ strangers etc there are people who consider you to be low-class because of the way you talk.

*shrug* I try to be conscious of who I'm talking to and whether they're likely to be offended, because I don't like to make others uncomfortable unnecessarily, but I'm not worried about how people perceive me as far as "class" goes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband and I both are pretty foul-mouthed, and honestly, we didn't even try to curb our tongues.

What we did do is explain to our child -- starting when she was really little -- that some words are OK when it's just us at home, but we shouldn't say them in public because not everyone is OK with them.

Other parents generally say, "yeah, good luck with that" -- but honestly, it's *worked*.

She's six now, and if it's just us in the car, she will borrow my iPod and look for Pink's "Raise Your Glass" or Bruno Mars' "Treasure" so she can sing along with the profanity; if she's at school or out and about, she would never dream of using that language. I mean, NEVER.

I will say, though, I think there's a difference between using profanity in a neutral way ("Where the f*** did I put my keys?") and directing it at other people ("Hey, a$$hole!").

I don't have a problem with any specific word, but I *do* have a problem with using language abusively. That is something we don't do, and it's something we correct when our daughter does it (even when the language she's using is not offensive).

Nice that YOU don't have a problem with foul language but I guarantee you that if you speak this way at work, around friends/ strangers etc there are people who consider you to be low-class because of the way you talk.

Not in my office.

[Anonymous]

What's worse cursing or broken English?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
I explained that like driving or drinking wine, certain words are reserved for grownups. She can say them when she's a grownup, but if she says them as a kid, she'll get in a lot of trouble. This wouldn't work for everyone, but it's worked for us.

Works for us, too. DS still asks why he cannot say this or that, I have to re-explain, oh well.

NP here and this also worked for us. We call them "grown-up words."

[Anonymous]

I think curse words are a great way to let out some anger and steam You can teach your kids made up curse words to use instead, it's what I do myself because let's face it - we all get stressed and burned out and need to let go sometimes. I can yell "Gadoosh!" when my kid breaks another glass instead of "Shit!" and nobody has a problem Try it, it works, it's fun and switching to made up curse words isn't as hard as you might think

[Anonymous]

Futh!

[Anonymous]

I have integrated "Freck" into my vocabulary...it somehow stuck after we watched a lot of Battlestar Galactica...XD And it works wonders :O