tacky or not? room mom gift. am I wrong?

[Anonymous]

we got an email from another mom in my child's kinder class that they are collecting for the room mom. a certain high end (in my opinion) store was mentioned.

I'm guessing her and the room mom are friends or she wouldn't know where she shops. this room mom mostly forwards email from the PTO and sends out other emails to coordinate volunteers. many moms volunteer in the class and help out.

this struck me as very strange. am I wrong? again, she didn't go above and beyond, she volunteered and then sent emails out as the class coordinator.

[Anonymous]

this is a FCPS btw.

[Anonymous]

Gratitude is always nice. Give $5 if you are so inclined. Or don't give anything.

[Anonymous]

Pretty standard that room parents not be given year-end gifts.

[Anonymous]

Three kids, attended school in four states including fcps.

I have never, ever heard of such a thing.

[Anonymous]

It is always nice to show appreciation to someone that did something for you & in this case for your child. She took her time & energy to do something you didn't want to do (for whatever reason), so saying thanks is only nice.

[Anonymous]

We give our own gift. The room moms friend takes the money, buys the gift, gets all the credit. What is the point? And most of the time the gift is cringe worthy -- like some crafty thing the friend feels like doing and paying yet another friend who is an "artist" to make it or make it themselves. So no.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Gratitude is always nice. Give $5 if you are so inclined. Or don't give anything.

In kindrrgarten, everyone wants to be room mom. It is not like 6th grade when the teacher has to beg people.

At least half of the moms in the class wpuld have been happy to do that job for that grade.

No need for fake and excessive gifts of gratitude. That is very strange.

[Anonymous]

Tacky. Seriously tacky.

[Anonymous]

Hell to the no!

[Anonymous]

"Some of us do it all"

Room mom and want-to-be room moms think it's oh-so-important.

[Anonymous]

I should have mentioned they want to give to her at the end of year picnic...so yeah in front of everyone. makes me want to gag b/c I'm sure it's more the "friend" ass kissing the other mom. my guess is no one will contribute and it will die. but I wanted to check that I'm not being a total bitch about this one.

[Anonymous]

Who will organize the gift for the mom who organized the gift for the room mom?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Who will organize the gift for the mom who organized the gift for the room mom?

Exactly. This is getting ridiculous. You do not need to show the room mom appreciation with a gift. That is insane. A nice "thanks for helping to coordinate things this year" goes a long way. I'm a room mom and my teachers got me some flowers. I really wish they hadn't and I was embarrassed but grateful. Please, no gifts for the room mom.

[Anonymous]

It is crazy that they expect parents to start giving room parents gifts. Please don't buy into this, that's just going to make it a new thing that we will all be subjected to. Plus, I'm sure the room mom would be mortified by this. If it were me, I'd feel like it would take money away from contributions to the teacher's year end gift, which would totally embarrass me. I don't blame the room parent, I blame the friend.