I am so over homework
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Anonymous
| I dread it more than my child. We are supposed to work with our child, correct them a certain way and so forth. Seems like a good idea in theory, but I'm sick of it. I'm sick of the tears if I ask her to re-check something. I did homework myself growing up and my parents never saw it except for when some teacher eventually informed them I wasn't handing it in. I don't think I even got homework until 3rd grade. |
Anonymous
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Don't do it.
Send a letter on the first day of school next year explaining your position and that your child will not be doing any homework with parent assistance. Just be sure to own any negative consequences. |
Anonymous
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Talk with the headmaster/teachers. It is better for the kids to do homework themselves without parental help. Better for everyone.
Signed ... a teacher & parent! |
Anonymous
Says who? The teacher? The admin.? The school? Homework has gotten way out of control in both private and public. The stress on parents is enormous and it creates for very dysfunctional relationships with your children. If you are in private and your school is encouraging this, I would switch to a private that expects the children to be responsible for themselves. Otherwise you will wind up doing your kid's work in college (and I've actually seen some parents do that, even at Stanford - mom flies in every other weekend to help. I am not making this up). |
Anonymous
| I help if it's needed and make sure it's done. That's it. |
Anonymous
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Why do you need to help your kid with his homework?
Unless there is a problem they should be doing it on thier own, statting in kindergarten. |
Anonymous
Not so fast. I help my kids when they have exhausted all they know. Sometimes the instructions are not that clear when they are in school nor does the work look the same when they get home. A little more explanation, a little more reasoning goes a long way. Give them similar examples to use and guide them without answering the questions out right. This challenges them to think more. No parent wants to have their child go to school without the homework being done. If you don't help them then you may appear as not caring and if you don't care enough to help them who will? |
Anonymous
How long are you spending on homework and what grade? Some suggestions based on what we do: 1) Set time limit on homework. If it is not done by the end of that time, it will not be done. 2) Do homework at the same time everyday. 3) Create a specific workplace for homework. We have one area for each child in our family room. 4) Minimize distractions. No radio, screens on (unless using Word or other school based software/site), no phone 5) When everyone is doing homework, you do the same ( you have take time to read that book) and be available for questions. Be accessible, but not hovering. 6) If writing is an issue. Offer to scribe, then have them copy it- either printing/cursive or typing- whichever fits best for their age/ability 7) Use graphic organizers, if the writing issue is about organizing ones thoughts. tons of free ones available on the internet. 8) Work on keyboarding and math facts over the summer- this helps immensely during the school year. 9) If reading is an issue- have them listen to audio books at their cognitive level and read to you at their reading level. 10) Allow for phone/internet breaks every 30 minutes if your child suffers from FOMO (fear of missing out) - more in MS and HS I have two children that have differing special needs and have used all of the above , but the above works for all children. Homework is a fact. It will not go away. |
Anonymous
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OP, Homework SUCKS! Even if you are not helping them it still SUCKS!
In middle school my son can have anywhere from 2-4 hours of homework. Teachers all plan tests for the same day, because it is logical due to end of marking period. We have weekend homework that has destroyed Sunday night family dinners. My extended family use to get together but nobody can because of homework. My son has sports 2 nights a week. So from 5-6:30, home at 7pm. That means after a snack he is working from 8-10 on homework. Then he is up at 6am for whatever he did not get done. I have to help him with Math because the way the teachers teach it is hard to understand. I got an email from the teacher that my son failed a math test, 8 chapters. I taught him all 8 chapters in 1 hour and he retook the test and got a 88. That is pathetic. He had no clue for 4 weeks what the teacher was teaching. They of course blame the kid for not trying when he comes for help. They had to build a castle that looked like one they learned in history using anything they wanted. That project took 4 hours every Saturday for 4 weeks, 16 hours. If it were an art project I would get that he is learning how to work with clay or something else but what did he really learn. Patience, maybe. |
Anonymous
Well my K student can't actually read the assignment so I have to read it to her. She definitely needs help completing it. Are other K students doing their homework completely on their own? |
Anonymous
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Does homework really help to educate students?
I see the value in research, term papers and studying for tests, but I question the value of having homework every night. Have there ever been studies done on the educational results of every evening homework versus free study in preparation for assessments? We've had situations when the homework load was so great our children had little or no time to study for tests. We've even had situations when teachers have assigned lengthy homework assignments the night before a major test that was unrelated to the material being tested the following day. Sometimes, I wonder if the idea of homework is more for the purpose of teaching structure than content. Any thoughts? |
Anonymous
| One more note is that I never learned how to build log cabins and forts out of popcicle sticks until I had children. I suspect the same thing will apply to my children as well. |
Anonymous
I think there's value in homework; repetition tends to make concepts stick. I do think that the amount of homework is often over the top and counter-productive however. |
Anonymous
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"Does homework really help to educate students."
Studies show there's value in homework in H.S., and a small amount of value in homework in jr. high. My oldest is finishing 3rd grade and I have yet to see much useful homework being assigned - its all busywork that repeats what they've repeatedly learned. Complete overkill unless your kid struggles in an area. |
Anonymous
Then your school SUCKS. Most middle and high schools have designated testing days for each subject. For example, Mondays: Math and Social Studies Tuesdays: English and Science Wednesdays: Foreign Languages and Health Thursdays: Arts and other electives |