How to Ferber or sleep train a standing baby?

[Anonymous]

DD is 11 months and stands well. We sleep trained successfully at 5 months and she slept through the night well. Over the past few weeks, she has developed some bad habits (fault of me and DH) at bedtime and we have extinguished these but she is still taking an hour to go to sleep. We would like to sleep train but it is definitely different now that she can stand in the crib. At 5 months, we patted her while she was laying in the crib and left the room and she eventually fell asleep. Now, with standing, she will cruise along the crib screaming and crying for us, and if you try to lay her down, she goes nuclear. She only falls asleep after we pick her up, let her rest her sleepy head on us, and lay her down on her side.

So, do I just soothe her while she is still standing and walk away while she is still standing, or do I lay her down? Do you pick up the standing crying baby? I'm at a loss and always appreciate the advice from these boards. Thanks in advance.

[Anonymous]

I had this issue. My 8 month old would stand and then in frustration drop in the. Crib and bump his head on the side or bump his chin on the bar at the top (crib at lowest position). I ended up sleep training in my bed. So I'd let him up himself to sleep there for a week and then move him to his crib. This sucks but he was really hurting himself. He still does it on my bed and when drowsy I put him into the crib. He always wakes in his crib and can now cry in there and fall asleep.

[Anonymous]

My 7 month old is standing in her crib and we let her cry it out. On the rare occasion I need to go in to try and soothe her I simply lay her back down and leave the room again. She may stand back up but eventually she lies down and sleeps. Also I'm not going in very often. If her crystal get more intense it usually means a diaper, so I check that and otherwise watch her on the monitor.

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An 11 month old understands more than you think. Talk about bedtime with her, and when you put her down at night tell her it's time to lay down and go to sleep. Over and over again. Then let her figure it out. She will get it. This won't last forever.

[Anonymous]

Our dd also takes it to a whole new level if we try to put her down while she's standing. So, now we sooth her while standing then leave. She flops down in the crib eventually. Just stay consistent.

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Do your bedtime routine. Put baby in crib, and say goodnight. Walk out the door.

[Anonymous]

Soothe her while she's standing, and leave while she's still standing. If nec, practice sitting down during the day so that she knows hos to get down from standing.

[Anonymous]

We had to re-sleep train after our son was standing and each time we went in we would pick him up, briefly comfort him, (a minute or less) and then lay him back down. He would immediately stand back up of course, but eventually he'd fall asleep. Picking him up was probably not the right way to do it according to Ferber, but it did work for us.

[Anonymous]

We have been doing this. Our son can stand for HOURS. And Scream. We just go in every 15 minutes to soothe. He now has gotten to the point he will drop down when we walk in so we can rub his back. It has gotten a little better (tonight is day 4.) He is 14 months. Yes, I realize I waited too long. Flame away.

[Anonymous]

We decided around 8 months to sleep train which is around the time that they pulled up on everything. We would go in every 5, 10, 15 minutes to lay them down and pat the back. Then repeat every 15 minutes until they were asleep. After about the third time laying them down they would stay down.

It took about 4 nights and they stopped standing up and a few weeks before they slept the night (7pm - 5am). We are back to them waking up in the middle of the night a couple times a week at 11 months but I think it is due to the teething. However, they never actually stand or sit up anymore but stay in a laying position.

[Anonymous]

I did Ferber at 11 months. Yes, he screamed and cried. During the checks I pat him on the back and said "love you, it's bedtime, night night..." and left the room. Worked perfectly! (Physically laying him down would have taken a lot of physical effort. Your child will figure out how to lay down on her own!)

[Anonymous]

We didn't sleep train, really but DD's sleep t ook a nosedive when she learned to stand up and couldn't sit again.

We just went in and said "Larla, it's time to sleep, I love you." And left. That didn't work. My mom suggested just giving her some time to figure out how to get back down. We let her cry for 15 minutes, she figured it out on her own, problem solved.

Sounds like right now he's standing up to get your attention. DD always stood in her crib when we said goodnight to her, she would just lie down whenever she got to it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have been doing this. Our son can stand for HOURS. And Scream. We just go in every 15 minutes to soothe. He now has gotten to the point he will drop down when we walk in so we can rub his back. It has gotten a little better (tonight is day 4.) He is 14 months. Yes, I realize I waited too long. Flame away.

Sounds like he knows that if he stands and screams for 15 minutes you will come back. I would just tell him that you aren't coming back and I bet in one night he'll be done, and he will be crying a lot less on subsequent nights.