Dog sitting for MIL

[Anonymous]

My MIL lives right behind us so when she goes away, we usually tend to her dog. I'm absolutely fine with caring for her dog as she cares for ours when we are away. What drives me absolutely up the wall is the notes that I will find to my husband from her. They will say things like:

"Let "dog" stay the night a few times while I am gone, I don't want her to be alone."

MIL knows that "dog" kept me up the only time that she stayed over because she snores like a human being. I am alight sleeper and am up at 5 am. I don't want to be kept up all night due to a snoring dog. I made it clear the first time that this happened that "dog" kept me up. Yet she still continues to leave notes for my husband that tell him "to let dog stay over".

Obviously my husband doesn't let the dog stay over and he lies to MIL and says that she did stay over. I don't like that she's stepping on my toes and telling my husband to let a dog stay in my house. Not sure how to approach this...

[Anonymous]

Sounds like a husband/mil problem. Does she bring it up to you? If not, I'd probably ignore it. If DH wants to lie to his mother then I wouldn't spend energy policing it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like a husband/mil problem. Does she bring it up to you? If not, I'd probably ignore it. If DH wants to lie to his mother then I wouldn't spend energy policing it.

So she asks to let the dog stay over even though she knows you don't like it? And she does it behind your back? It sounds like she's still trying to control your husband, and wants to see who he will listen to. You or her?

[Anonymous]

I can't believe that you leave a dog home alone overnight. Dogs are such social creatures! That dog must be miserable.

OP, please have a heart. Your house can't be so small that the dog can't come stay over and just sleep in another room? I mean, I live in a tiny one bedroom and could put a dog near the front door and wouldn't hear it snoring if I were in my bedroom with the door closed.

Please at least let the dog come over to hang out with you during the day for a few hours.

[Anonymous]

Did you have the dog in your room that you heard it snore?

If DH has a problem lying, put the dog in your kitchen. If it cries, take it home. Tell MIL that Spot didn't like being away from home and cried. End of story.

[Anonymous]

don't do anything. don't tell MIL that dog slept at its house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can't believe that you leave a dog home alone overnight. Dogs are such social creatures! That dog must be miserable.

OP, please have a heart. Your house can't be so small that the dog can't come stay over and just sleep in another room? I mean, I live in a tiny one bedroom and could put a dog near the front door and wouldn't hear it snoring if I were in my bedroom with the door closed.

Please at least let the dog come over to hang out with you during the day for a few hours.

I'm wondering if OP asks MIL to keep her dogs overnight? Of so, this is valid..if not...no.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did you have the dog in your room that you heard it snore?

If DH has a problem lying, put the dog in your kitchen. If it cries, take it home. Tell MIL that Spot didn't like being away from home and cried. End of story.

OP here, yes. "Dog" slept on our bedroom floor. She whined if we put her anywhere else in the house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like a husband/mil problem. Does she bring it up to you? If not, I'd probably ignore it. If DH wants to lie to his mother then I wouldn't spend energy policing it.

So she asks to let the dog stay over even though she knows you don't like it? And she does it behind your back? It sounds like she's still trying to control your husband, and wants to see who he will listen to. You or her?

+1

Tell her to find a kennel or doggie hotel for her dog. You should do the same for yours.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can't believe that you leave a dog home alone overnight. Dogs are such social creatures! That dog must be miserable.

OP, please have a heart. Your house can't be so small that the dog can't come stay over and just sleep in another room? I mean, I live in a tiny one bedroom and could put a dog near the front door and wouldn't hear it snoring if I were in my bedroom with the door closed.

Please at least let the dog come over to hang out with you during the day for a few hours.

Errr...people come before dogs. If the dog needs that much socialization, she needs to board it while she travels.

[Anonymous]

omg you seriously watch someone's dog and lie and say that it spends then night at your house, when really it's home alone? This is so sad! I hope your DH grows some and tells MIL the truth. I would hate it if this happened to me. My dog is very social and would be crying himself to sleep if he was home alone.

Why not just put the dog in a bathroom or laundry room for the night?

[Anonymous]

I am on the fence about this one. I have dogs and I know how they are when left alone....but I also know that a snoring dog is no picnic.

I guess the problem I have is that if you and DH told MIL the truth, she might actually make more suitable arrangements for the dog - put the the dog in a pet hotel or whatever. But I do not think it is right for YOU to implement a rule that the dog can't stay over but nobody has the balls to tell MIL so she can re-evaluate. She thinks it is all good and the dog is being cared for. And do not blame it on DH - you could easily encourage him to be truthful.